Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Awaiting my relocation to a Metro City

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male:

Not a day goes by when i don't think of a Metro city, of how i would be happy relocating out there, working in a good organization, enjoying all the modern amenities that a Metropolitan City has to offer. WOW!!!!! Just Amazing.

At present i am living in a semi-urban city. It has all the amenities that is required for a normal person to live life and enjoy, however after some point of time this semi-urban town just sucks. One gets bored living out here.

One of the greatest problems with tier 2 and tier 3 cities in India is that the people still have that backward traditional Indian mentality. They find it difficult to accept a Single Indian Male living alone all by himself , the same applies to a single woman.

My lifestyle itself is perceived as eccentric by them. Not to forget that such small cities and towns offer very little amenities to a single man who is looking to chill out after work.

There are hardly any good libraries, bookshops, eat outs, cinemas, cultural activities and events, malls and what not. Just nothing. I don't even have an access to better Internet facility, just that BSNL, where getting a connection in today's date is like applying for a telephone facility the 60's or the 70's.

And how i think of those Modern cities, the life and the vibrant people that i plan to meet in the near future. That fun of working along with competent people.

The small city people complain of the difficulties and complexities put up by a city life. The hectic travel, the struggle and well what ever. There is no shortage of whiners and complainers in my country.

I do understand that there are problems and challenges faced by a person living in a city. But it won't be much for me, the single Indian male. No wife, no kids , just me relocating somewhere.

I dream and i dream and promise myself to buy a residential apartment in one of those gated communities of a city that provides all facilities. I dream of having that hall where i can come back from work, relax and watch a good movie on a flat screen interactive television. Taking a hot shower in that jacuzzi and having a small pint of royal scotch or a hot coffee.

And what fun would it be just going around, touring the big city, walking through the malls, getting invited to social functions, attending parties, catching up with some good movies in multiplexes, watching plays, exploring eateries spread around in the city, taking photographs of the life going by.

My imagination is endless, but there is this hope kindled in my heart and everyday i promise myself that one fine day i will go to that big city. I will relocate to the City of my dreams and make my life.

Till then i work everyday to develop my skills and work on each and every area where i can make my self competent. I take this period of my life as a training and redeeming period and everyday i work on myself to make my self a better person.

So that one day i can relocate to a big city  and live the life of my dreams.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day , will be back with a lot.

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-On becoming the Desirable Male

DOTSIM stands for Diary of the Single Indian Male.

The last 3 months months have been a roller coaster ride for me. It is just that some days ago, i seriously looked at myself in the mirror and realized to my utter horror that i had gained weight and had acquired an expanding girth. I just hated it. I hated to see myself gaining weight and becoming fat. So i decided that it was enough and made a decision to become lean once and for all.

As the single Indian Male who has decided to remain single unless someone falls in love with me truly, madly and deeply, i have this goal of being a desired person.

And i would say that all the single Indian Men should become desired and why not. I was lost in the train of thought this morning and realized that if you want to be desired you have to work for it.

Furiously as i type my thoughts and feelings on my computer on a humid Sunday evening, i feel more and more attuned towards my goals of becoming a desired person in the coming years, of being desired and admired by both the younger and older women.

To the feminists especially the Indian creed reading this post, please note that I am not a misogynist and by the statement of the Indian Constitution i am bestowed the the right of free speech.

Being single is no longer a stigma in the Society, many people are happy living single and they are enjoying every moment of it.

But there are times when we the single men need some sort of companionship, we need to have an affair (even though it may be short term), we need to fulfill our basic needs.

In short i would like to say that we also have the desire and the right to have sex. 

Now c'mon don't raise your eyebrows and be surprised, i am not being a pervert, remaining single  does not mean that we have to follow celibacy and remain virgins for our entire lives. That is for nuns and monks, not normal men like us.

So what one needs to do to become a desirable man once he is single and in his 30's , 40's and 50's.

First thing, that I intend to do and i expect my single Indian male brethren  to follow suit is to work on your fitness. Work and work hard. Jog, run, hit the gym , lift weights, do endless cardio, eat right, stop drinking. 

SCULPT YOUR BODY, it is never late, remember, Aamir Khan in Gajhini, he did it in his 40's, so what are we waiting for on i would say what am i waiting for.

Women love a sculpted body, something which is becoming rare in India. Once a man enters his 30's he ends up acquiring a a pot belly that will even put a none month pregnant woman to shame.

Secretly women have wild desires of making love a man having a sculpted body. In India most of them don't have that privilege, married to pathetic rotten men, these men turn to be awful in bed. All the end up doing is WHAM BAM THANYOU MAM. No foreplay and no post coital love and caressing.

Well , i have set up this goal that in the coming years i want a sculpted body, no matter what.

The second thing is read, read and read. Nothing can substitute the written word, the more you read, the more intellectual you become. You can quote words, one liners and jokes. Imagine , just imagine, what happens when you set a woman laughing. I am a avid reader and i very well know that when it comes to words and language , i can seduce a woman through it. But this means speaking and quoting the elitist english. (however it may not apply to the country Gujarati bens and the Punjabi Kudis) because their level of intellect is far below it.

Talks on interesting topics can stimulate the mind of a woman, and yes women do dig for intellectual men. Many women especially in India are married of through the pathetic system of arranged marriage to a looser, yes the Looser Indian males, who are not worth a penny or pound outside the functional domain of their jobs. 

I want to travel and travel the length and breadth of this country. Explore places and of course meet the diverse women of this Country. Traveling to different place makes you look like and interesting man. Imagine posting photos of myself on different social networking sites and writing on blog posts on my travels. There is always something interesting about the lone ranger especially if he happens to have a thin lean sculpted body and appears intellectual from his talk and seduces woman with his words. HMMMM now that's a package deal.

And last but the mostly the most important one, learn the art of love making. But that did not mean that you go an watch worthless porn movies. I meant to say learn real love making. Though I am still a virgin, i love to read some snippets on love making literature, different sex positions, foreplay, getting a woman stimulated, post coital caressing, caring and of being a real gentleman in bed. There are a lot of books available. There is information available online.

And experiment , ohhh i would just love to experiment love making on someone. But please don't go to some prostitute in GB Nagar (Delhi) or Grant Road ( Mumbai).  You don't want to catch STD's , right. I mean find a woman, who just wants sex, she does not have to be beautiful, but if you can go and experiment love making on her , whats the harm. It would be like doing her a favour by experimenting different positions on her.  How many Indian men are really innovative in bed???????? The possibility is that there are just a few.

Yes , I want to become a desirable male , a man who is desired by women in their wildest dreams. A man whom women would dream of having a lovely session of love making. 

I am not ashamed of putting forward my basic need.If women can stay single yet have multiple partners to enjoy have sex with, then why can't we do the same.

Is it a crime to satiate and fulfill my basic desire. So my dear Indian Single male friends, lets take an oath that we work hard and become the desirable Indian Male so that its is the women who desire and chase us and not vice-verse.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the Day, will be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-The Ineligible Bachelor/The Unsuitable Boy

DOTSIM stands for the The Diary of the Single Indian Male.

This Blog Post is a Satirical writeup on myself.

I draw Inspiration from the titles of two books, The Suitable Boy written by Vikram Seth and The Ineligible bachelor written by some chickilit Author.

I am by default an ineligible bachelor/unsuitable boy in the Indian Society, for the brides who are looking for a perfect match and for Parents and the family of a prospective bride who are looking for the perfect son in law or groom, i stand to be an absolute reject.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-She was my Aapa/She is my Aapa/ She will always remain my Appa

SHE WAS MY APPA

I remember , seven years ago, there was this sweet young girl who sat beside me in the college library. Down to earth and simple, maintaining equanimity. She was my aapa.

She became on of my best seniors who guided me through my course subjects during my masters degree program and kept me equally optimistic about the future. She was my appa

I remember those days when i had no one to speak to and she would give me her time and listen to my problems. She was my aapa.

I remember the first time i cried, i cried with my head on her shoulders and she supported me and gave me all the solace that my troubled soul needed, she was my aapa.

There were difficult courses that i never understood and she took time from her schedule and sat with me so that i could learn them. She was my aapa.

Before the beginning of every exam and after its end i would go and meet her and she would give her good wishes  and support me during those times. She was my aapa.

She would warn me about those from whom i keep a distance and be careful. She was my aapa.

She completed her masters and went back to her hometown and we remained in touch through mobile phone. Every day we would converse and she would keep me optimistic. Her sweet encouraging voice made up for her absence. She was my aapa

I went through the trials and tribulations of finding a job and yes there were times, when our relation was tested, but she remained solid as a rock and ecouraged me to face difficulties and challenges. She was my aapa.

Financial crisis did take a toll on me and it is at that point when she took out money from her salary and sent it to me on a monthly basis, a gesture that i will never forget. She was my aapa.

It was through her help and her sources that i got a good job, i will never forget her for that. She was my aapa.

I changed jobs, went abroad, came back and during all these times that i have been in touch with her, she has remained the same person , always listening to me and supporting me.

I got the job of my choice and today i have made a good position for myself, it is all because of her. She is my Aapa.

Last month, i had gone to her house. In the last 13 years for the first time i ever went to a place called home. She gave me the home coming that a mother gives to her son. She fed me and took care of me. She is my Aapa.

To a Homeless destitute orphan like me, who had no one in this world to finding someone who was not even related to me in any manner  made me realize that god had left someone who would take care of me.

When i complete this blog post, i have tears in my eyes, tears of happiness and joy of having someone who has selflessly done so much for me.

To the person who has been been my best friend, sister, mother, parent, guardian and mentor. I owe you lot . And i promise that one day i will relocate to a place nearer to you so we can be together.

You were/you are and you will always remain my AAPA.

To my sweet Sister- Charu Sinha

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Conversations that i have with myself

This is a Blog Post on the conversations that i have with myself, it is my brain covering with my heart and speaking words of wisdom:

Dear Bhaveen, I know the last few years have been filled with happiness, joys, tragedies and turmoil. The difficulties that you have faced of losing your loved ones at a very young age, of becoming an orphan and of living the life of a homeless destitute.

I know it all and you must appreciate that in spite of going through all this you have emerged victorious and have made a life for yourself. You have achieved professional excellence and are on a path to reach the Zenith of your professional career.

Every day when you wake up and then when you come back from work, you go through the feeling of loneliness and having no one beside you, having no one to speak to or listen to your problems. It is difficult, but you must understand that this is the way life is and there are chances that it may continue like this, but never lose hope, for god is watching over you and one day someone will find you, like you and accept you the way you are and bring happiness in your life.

Concentrate, focus and consolidate on your Professional Career and Development, because this is the only thing that is going to bring satisfaction in your life. Your pride and prestige is associated with this. Your pride and power rests in this. There is a Gold Mine stored beneath the surface of the Healthcare Human Resources Profession. Get your knowledge, learn all the necessary skills, this place where you are will give your plenty of opportunities to work and enhance your development.

Along with the above get your Executive Diploma Management Program in HR and various professional training certifications. Concentrate specifically on the aspect of the Certification of Credentialing and Privileging because this is something that will help you stand out amongst the rest of the Crowd in the Healthcare Industry.

Don’t get disheartened bhaveen, working with incompetent and mediocre people is very difficult, but that is how life is, one has to start from somewhere. You may not be working in the organization you want or having the working environment that you would like, but you have to start form somewhere, build your skills and competencies. Learn what you can. Options will emerge and one day you will foray into a good corporate hospital.

Anger can be detrimental, so please learn to control your temper. Do not lose your cool, life is all about ups and down, you will meet irritating people, but don’t lose focus on your goals. Achieve peace of mind and go ahead in life.

Avoid procrastination; don’t put things for tomorrow what you can do today. get maximum things done today so that you don’t have to put it on till tomorrow. Time just flies by and you must learn to meet deadlines.

Work on your fitness, it is sad that you have gone lax over it. You can’t afford to have a pudgy face and an expanding waistline. Start taking your fitness seriously. Go for that daily jog of your and lift weights daily in a day’s break in every three days in succession.

Never, never give your heart to a Gujarati woman, given the fact that you are staying in the state of Gujarat, please don’t make the mistake of doing so. These women don’t understand human emotions; they only understand the language of money, so bhaveen please be careful not to make the mistake of falling in love with these women. They are at best avoided and kept at an arms length.

And don’t forget your dream destination and that is Delhi-Gurgaon NCR, that is the plavce where you have to be. It is the place where your Aapa lives and she will take good care of you in the coming years.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing of for the day, will be back with some more

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-13th of Many 2013-The Day i celebrated my Birthday

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male

And the day finally arrived, it was 13th of may 2013. Having taken 4 days leave from work, i celebrated my birthday in peace and solitude. The images below speak on how the day went by:

 

Waking up early in the Morning-All Fresh and happy

                                                      Dressed for the Day

                                               At Avres restaurant waiting for My order

                                                    And Finally the Food arrives, yummy

                                                  Back Home watching some movies

                                                 Reading my favorite books on Kindle Ebook Reader

                                      Missing you a lot Aapa, her photo is on the Desktop background

                                               Chilling out at Coffee cafe Day

                                   Finally Back home, what a day it was!!!!!! Enjoyed


HAPPY BIRTHDAY BHAVEEN

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-A life well lived-Go and live your Life

DOTSIM stands for Diary of the Single Indian Male.

My Dear Friends,

Please ask your self. Is your life worth it??? Are you enjoying your life, i mean truly enjoying your life????

Look back see how the years have gone by, have a walk down the memory lane.When you recollect your past memoirs, do you smile or is it filled with regrets????

I remeber the statement of late bollywood actor Bob Christo , he said that "There were good times and there were bad times, but at the end of the day it was a life well lived"

We as the Indian males never live our lives, we end up living life through the lenses of other people. That's so pathetic.

And I say , just go , go an free yourself of all the bonds. Go an pursue the vocation of your choice, go and relocate to some good metro and enjoy the urban life, go and travel the length and breadth of this country, go and pursue your hobbies and passions. GO AND LIVE YOUR LIFE.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with some more.

Bhaveen Sheth