On the married arrogant average Indian males

Dear All,

Having written on the bragging and the boastful married Indian males, I would now like to dedicate this blog post to the arrogant married Indian males.

Before I begin , a lot of you must be wondering who are these arrogant average married Indian males???? They are the ones you find everywhere,in your housing society, at your workplace, public places, almost anywhere. They are ubiquitous.

But how do they become a problem to us, the single Indian males??? Simple , they show their arrogance that they are married, that they have a fair looking trophy wife ( a prized possession), they have children and are living a so called complete and happy family life.

Such men often look down upon  other single men with contempt and hatred. They often criticize the single men with statements like "You have been left out" " You failed to have a wife"  "You will die alone" "You have no family life and will never learn to enjoy", "You will become a psycho by living alone" and god knows what.

On the Posibilities of taking endless travels across India

My dear single Indian Male Friends,

Greetings for the season!!!!!!

Diwali is over and once again life is on track for all of us. We are back to our jobs and workplaces.(Much to our unhappiness and displeasure)

I hope you all must have done some fun loving things during the festive season other than eating sweets and blowing crackers.

Anyways, today i would like to discuss on the aspect on taking endless travels across India, our country, our nation and our motherland.

Okay!!!!! Now before you raise your objections and say What??? Why??? How Come????? and all that stuff. I would put in some words of wisdom and say why not dude??? Is there some problem????

I can understand that many of you guys would have traveled abroad to western countries and the far east and think that traveling across the Indian  subcontinent is an obsolete idea indeed, but  before you jump to conclusions of your own ,let me assure you that think it all over again.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM- An Open letter to my Readers and crtitics alike.

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male.

I start my blogpost by wishing everyone a very happy diwali and greetings of the season.

Over the past few months my blog posts have been read and  appreciated by some readers while some of them criticized my writings stating that they found it sarcastic, anti-women, patriarchal, sexist and  to an extent t that I, the writer seems to be sexually frustrated,  on a look out for women to sleep with.

First of all i would like to clarify that my blog is intended for the so called species of the single Indian men, something that used to be rare in our Indian Society is now gradually rising in numbers, thankfully more and more men have taken the decision to be single and when i say single Indian men , i refer to the Urban, educated, upwardly mobile, middle and upper middle class men, men who are professionals, well educated and hold respectable jobs. It is certainly not aimed at the average frustrated Indian male who happens to be single because he is an incompetent person, a man who has failed both on the personal and professional fronts, having no other option but to stay single and not to forget men who belong to regions and communities of India where female foeticide and infanticide is a common practice.

My posting  here describes the feelings of the Single Indian men, the advantages of being single, the problems and challenges faced by us in an increasingly intolerant and prejudiced society, on ways to improve the quality of our lives and a lot more.

There are many websites and blogs for the single Indian Women, but there are hardly any for us. If you want to verify , please google blogs on the Single Indian Male, chances are you will find limited sites.I am trying to create a forum where single Indian Males can meet, read, share and discuss on common issues.

And no, this blog was, is and will never be anti-women, patriarchal, misogynist or sexist in nature. It is sad to see that the Digital Indian Media is filled with all kinds of anti Indian man write ups, from being labelled as a rapist to a pedophile, from being called a mama's boy to a pathetic and a worthless husband and what not, but still we the Indian men neither protest nor do we find it inflammatory. But if we write something and something that is really truthful about the Indian Women within the backdrop of the Indian Society,  readers find it offensive. OHHHH C'mon grow up, learn to accept life with a pinch of salt. And please tell me??Are all the women we come across in our society or country SATI SAVITRI'S!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, i mean really!!!! , is that the real scenario, i completely disagree.

And Sex, what is wrong if some of my write ups are on this Topic.Why is such an important need to tabooed in our society??? Do the Single Indian Women only have the right to discuss this topic on online forums????Is it a copy right of the female fraternity??? If we Indian Men write on our sexual desires on an online forum, we are labelled as perverts, sexual maniacs, frustrated dogs with a raging libido.!!!!!!!! Oh Yaaa!!!! So , my dear Indian Women , with whom are you going to have sex with , some Pakistani or Afghan across the border or some African who is our country on a student visa ( and well drug trade). Grow up, women , grow up. I am not giving advices to anyone on molesting and raping an innocent female. I am just sharing my opinions and thought processes with like minded single Indian Men. And please don't tell me that you don't like sex!!!!!!!!! Stop being a bloody hypocrite!!!!!

My blog wants to bring out some harsh realities about the Indian Society to all my online readers, realities which we have often denied, realities that we  accepted, tolerated and kept quiet, realities that have  ruined the lives if some of us, realities that give us hope in a society filled with gloom and despair.

I will continue to blog and share my thoughts, whether you like it or not, whether you appreciate it or not.

On Buidling that small beautiful world of yours

The Diary of the Single Indian Male would like to discuss on the topic on building a small world of yours, that small beautiful world of  yours filled with peace, joy, love and happiness.

As the wise single Indian male i would like to enumerate a few points below:

DOTSIM-On the need to keep oneself positively engaged

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male.

Positive Engagement, what does that mean, some of the single Indian men must be thinking of getting engaged to someone positively!!!! HAHAHAHHA, no my friends , positive engagement is about keeping oneself engaged in activities which have a positive outcome.

Living alone/single is not easy, that also in the Indian Society,situations at times can drive you mad. Many of us have decent jobs and we may love our work, but there is a life after 5 O clock, there is a life on weekends, there is a life during holidays.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM- A Solitary Exstenence in 30's

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Man.

What can I say about solitary existence, is it worth it??? I don't know!!!!!

I have now entered the decade of my 30's , but life seems all the same for me. Except that there are more responsibilities at work.

I go about doing the same routine that i used to do before like getting up getting ready, going to work, coming back, exercising, reading, watching movies, listening to music and all that.

I happy to be living a life of my choice at my terms and conditions. No obligations to fulfill. 

Somewhere i see the signs of age catching on me, my hairs have now started graying, my forehead has noticeable creases.

But i don't care, i dress and groom well, after all age is a sign of maturity. 

My priorities have however changed, i have started thinking more in terms of investments for my future, i am working on my dream to buy a small house (apartment/flat) so that i can it my dream home. I try to take maximum care of health in order to prepare for the old age.

As written previously, i have given up on marriage and on the possibility of finding a soul mate. In the Indian Society, Orphans like me are nothing but outcasts whom the society does not want.

And still this very Indian Society is not ready to tolerate a single man living a happy life, it just looks that in India everybody wants anybody to get married. Strange!!!!

And as of now i just concentrate on my dreams and my work and hope that one day i can make it to the City of Delhi-National Capital Regions. What has the Single Indian Male have to fear from???

Till then i bid my time and keep on working.

Bhaveen Sheth: DOTSIM: Please don't become a LOOSER, A BLOODY LOOSER

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male.

Such a Looser!!!! This is a comment on and off that I often happen to overhear in many women's conversations. They assign this term specifically to those males who are desperate after woman and would end up showing a dog like submission to impress a woman or in trying to get her approval.

OH DEAR!!!!!! How cheap. Its amazing to see the Indian Male who otherwise brags about his Masochism and who also happens to be the  by product of Patriarchal Misogynist Society wagging his tail and frothing his mouth just like an Urban Street Dog.

Okay!!! Jokes apart. Lets come the meaning that I would like to convey though my blogpost.

I have already mentioned about being the desirable single male in in 30's and 40's. For those who have not read it, please go to the same on the following link.

http://bhaveensheth.blogspot.in/2013/06/bhaveen-sheth-dotsim-on-becoming.html

India has its fair share of loser's. And you can't blame anyone for it.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM:Are you marriage material???? Are you ready to take up the responsibility of Marriage???

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male:

How do I begin and what do I say. This something difficult to ask the average Indian man and of course to the above average and below average Indian male.

Strange are the ways of life and even stranger are the ways of the Indian Society. But before we embark on the Journey of this discussion and sharing my Gyaan (Knowledge), i would like to explain what does "Marriage Material" mean.

Marriage Material means that you posses the qualities of being eligible for marriage, that you are physically, mentally, socially and psychologically prepared to get married and take responsibilities. You put your family above everything, your spouse has to become the most important person in your life, you make sacrifices to make your marriage work.

And so I ask this question once again to the single Indian Male, are you ready to take the responsibility to get married????

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-On becoming the Desirable Male

DOTSIM stands for Diary of the Single Indian Male.

The last 3 months months have been a roller coaster ride for me. It is just that some days ago, i seriously looked at myself in the mirror and realized to my utter horror that i had gained weight and had acquired an expanding girth. I just hated it. I hated to see myself gaining weight and becoming fat. So i decided that it was enough and made a decision to become lean once and for all.

As the single Indian Male who has decided to remain single unless someone falls in love with me truly, madly and deeply, i have this goal of being a desired person.

And i would say that all the single Indian Men should become desired and why not. I was lost in the train of thought this morning and realized that if you want to be desired you have to work for it.

Furiously as i type my thoughts and feelings on my computer on a humid Sunday evening, i feel more and more attuned towards my goals of becoming a desired person in the coming years, of being desired and admired by both the younger and older women.

To the feminists especially the Indian creed reading this post, please note that I am not a misogynist and by the statement of the Indian Constitution i am bestowed the the right of free speech.

Being single is no longer a stigma in the Society, many people are happy living single and they are enjoying every moment of it.

But there are times when we the single men need some sort of companionship, we need to have an affair (even though it may be short term), we need to fulfill our basic needs.

In short i would like to say that we also have the desire and the right to have sex. 

Now c'mon don't raise your eyebrows and be surprised, i am not being a pervert, remaining single  does not mean that we have to follow celibacy and remain virgins for our entire lives. That is for nuns and monks, not normal men like us.

So what one needs to do to become a desirable man once he is single and in his 30's , 40's and 50's.

First thing, that I intend to do and i expect my single Indian male brethren  to follow suit is to work on your fitness. Work and work hard. Jog, run, hit the gym , lift weights, do endless cardio, eat right, stop drinking. 

SCULPT YOUR BODY, it is never late, remember, Aamir Khan in Gajhini, he did it in his 40's, so what are we waiting for on i would say what am i waiting for.

Women love a sculpted body, something which is becoming rare in India. Once a man enters his 30's he ends up acquiring a a pot belly that will even put a none month pregnant woman to shame.

Secretly women have wild desires of making love a man having a sculpted body. In India most of them don't have that privilege, married to pathetic rotten men, these men turn to be awful in bed. All the end up doing is WHAM BAM THANYOU MAM. No foreplay and no post coital love and caressing.

Well , i have set up this goal that in the coming years i want a sculpted body, no matter what.

The second thing is read, read and read. Nothing can substitute the written word, the more you read, the more intellectual you become. You can quote words, one liners and jokes. Imagine , just imagine, what happens when you set a woman laughing. I am a avid reader and i very well know that when it comes to words and language , i can seduce a woman through it. But this means speaking and quoting the elitist english. (however it may not apply to the country Gujarati bens and the Punjabi Kudis) because their level of intellect is far below it.

Talks on interesting topics can stimulate the mind of a woman, and yes women do dig for intellectual men. Many women especially in India are married of through the pathetic system of arranged marriage to a looser, yes the Looser Indian males, who are not worth a penny or pound outside the functional domain of their jobs. 

I want to travel and travel the length and breadth of this country. Explore places and of course meet the diverse women of this Country. Traveling to different place makes you look like and interesting man. Imagine posting photos of myself on different social networking sites and writing on blog posts on my travels. There is always something interesting about the lone ranger especially if he happens to have a thin lean sculpted body and appears intellectual from his talk and seduces woman with his words. HMMMM now that's a package deal.

And last but the mostly the most important one, learn the art of love making. But that did not mean that you go an watch worthless porn movies. I meant to say learn real love making. Though I am still a virgin, i love to read some snippets on love making literature, different sex positions, foreplay, getting a woman stimulated, post coital caressing, caring and of being a real gentleman in bed. There are a lot of books available. There is information available online.

And experiment , ohhh i would just love to experiment love making on someone. But please don't go to some prostitute in GB Nagar (Delhi) or Grant Road ( Mumbai).  You don't want to catch STD's , right. I mean find a woman, who just wants sex, she does not have to be beautiful, but if you can go and experiment love making on her , whats the harm. It would be like doing her a favour by experimenting different positions on her.  How many Indian men are really innovative in bed???????? The possibility is that there are just a few.

Yes , I want to become a desirable male , a man who is desired by women in their wildest dreams. A man whom women would dream of having a lovely session of love making. 

I am not ashamed of putting forward my basic need.If women can stay single yet have multiple partners to enjoy have sex with, then why can't we do the same.

Is it a crime to satiate and fulfill my basic desire. So my dear Indian Single male friends, lets take an oath that we work hard and become the desirable Indian Male so that its is the women who desire and chase us and not vice-verse.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the Day, will be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth