Single, Orphan, Destitute and a not feeling sorry about it

In less than a month I will complete 32 years of my life on earth. When I look back , I will remember the old times, some filled with happiness and some with sadness.

Everyday I undertake efforts in order to achieve a better life and of course a better standard of living. However time and again, my past doesn't leave me alone, being branded as an orphan makes  it difficult for me to integrate into the mainstream Indian society.

So here I write , once more, on who I am and what I am. I am an Orphan, I am a destitute and I am single, single by choice, single by destiny and single due to ostracization and marginalization done by the Indian society.

And do I feel sorry about it??????? NO!!!! The answer is a plain no!!!!!!!! Why should I feel bad?????Why should I have self pity on myself????? For what??? What wrong have I done????

No,  I am not sorry for myself, my condition and the problems that I face.

With the years going by , my resolve becomes  stronger day by day, I see the Indian society from a different perspective and often laugh at its eccentricities.

Jibes from men who are delaying their marriage or are choosing to stay single

While browsing through google, I happened  to come across 2 jibes written down by men on delaying marriage or choosing to stay single as they are not able to meet the sky high expectations of the modern Indian women. The same follows below:

Karthik, Bangalore, India: I'm 31, male, live in Bangalore with a little above-average salary of 35,000 rupees per month and am working in a major newspaper. I have been searching for a bride for the past five years. Every matrimonial website I've been through shows that the majority of the women expect a man to be in the engineering or a banking profession with a salary above 50,000 rupees a month. And also in reference to the person featured in this story, the majority of women present in these matrimonial websites are above 27. These women are well educated, working in the IT and non-IT sector, earning a good salary and expect their dream Mr Right to be better educated and earn more than them. The majority of men with these features don't marry women of their equal out of fear they lose respect and it can in the worst case, lead to divorce. I still don't understand why women want better than themselves, this makes men run away from them and they (woman) lose a guy.

Pratik, India/Hungary: I am a 27-year-old male from India, studying in Budapest, Hungary. This situation is just not limited to girls, but boys also face similar situations. When I turned 26, my parents and other relatives started talking about my marriage. Instead, I applied for a two-year course in Hungary to study more, but the other reason was to delay marriage. At the moment I feel like I do not want to go back to India because they will immediately start insisting that I get married. However, I do not want to return unless I have a well-paid job with stability of mind. For my family, 28, would be the limit to get married, I would not get decent girls and my value in the "market" will go down. I resent this. Whatever I have achieved, I have done so with my hard work and commitment. I do not want someone who just wants me in terms of salary, my looks or my height. Marriage cannot be the ultimate destinations of all human lives. It is an important part but is it mandatory?

Hahahahhahahahaaha, so much for getting married in the Indian society.

On men who dishonour the family name

A lot has happened to women in India who have allegedly "dishonored" the family name. They have been murdered in the most gruesome fashion and some have been brutally gang raped. And for what?? Did they break the law??? Did they do something that was wrong???? NO!!!!!

All they did was to live their lives, to indulge in sex, to marry a person who did not belong to their community or for just roaming around with a guy. Is it wrong???? Which law in India stops a person from doing  things that I have mentioned??? Is is a crime to seek love??? Is it a crime to fulfill your carnal desires??? If men have desires so do women??? Why then such a deplorable attitude towards the fairer sex.

And what , what about guys who dishonor the family name?? What about them?? Are they killed or murdered in the manner that girls are??? Are they chopped into pieces??? Are they sodomized by a gang????? NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! After all they are  boys,  and boys will be boys for the traditional narrow minded patriarchal society!!!!!!!

In this post I would like to share my thoughts on how men in India bring dishonor to the family name, on how their actions can cause a lot of grief and anguish to a lot of families.

Kindly leave us alone

My dear single Indian male friends,

Greetings for the day!!!!!

Most of you guys must be enjoying your Sunday, same here. I write down this blog post for  the esteemed members of the Indian society to leave us alone.

Everyone it seems to have  a problem with the single Indian male living alone, why????I don't know dude? Looks like people just don't want to see a man living life all by himself. Home, social functions, office and no matter where you go, you are asked that one irritating question, dude!!! , why are you still single????? When are u getting married???.

So here I begin:

Please leave us alone!!!!! Don't you  have your own life to worry about??? Don't you have your own problems?? Don't you have your own family????

How the Indian society perceives orphans

Every year I happen to come across new situations, experiences and people. I become wiser.

This post is not about a complaint nor is about ranting on my situation. It is about a few points on how the Indian society perceives and treats the orphaned people.

So how does the Indian society treat us???? The best thing they do is to keep a safe distance from us. We are marginalized, segregated and treated as outcasts. It just seems that people don't want to associate with us.

There are times I feel that being an orphan is a lot worst than being disabled or incapacitated. Our lives are devoid of love and affection.

The general image that people get of an orphan is more from movies. People think that we have grown up in an orphanage home, lived a life of miserly, have bad habits, are criminally minded, have no social skills etc etc.

A hilarious video on matrimonial meetings

Greetings my friends, I hope you all are doing good. This happens to be one of those short blog posts.

Every single Indian male worth his salt must have gone through the experience of the matrimonial interview. The video shows the same. Though it shows the reality the satire and comedy is amazing.

The wants and demands of women never change and they keep on going up. Please watch the video, I am sure it is going to make your day.

On the married arrogant average Indian males

Dear All,

Having written on the bragging and the boastful married Indian males, I would now like to dedicate this blog post to the arrogant married Indian males.

Before I begin , a lot of you must be wondering who are these arrogant average married Indian males???? They are the ones you find everywhere,in your housing society, at your workplace, public places, almost anywhere. They are ubiquitous.

But how do they become a problem to us, the single Indian males??? Simple , they show their arrogance that they are married, that they have a fair looking trophy wife ( a prized possession), they have children and are living a so called complete and happy family life.

Such men often look down upon  other single men with contempt and hatred. They often criticize the single men with statements like "You have been left out" " You failed to have a wife"  "You will die alone" "You have no family life and will never learn to enjoy", "You will become a psycho by living alone" and god knows what.