Happy New Year 2020: From the Indian MGTOW's Desk

A year has ended and another has started. A decade has come to an end and another has just begun. In all this the Indian MGTOW wishes all his followers a very happy new year. I hope this year brings peace and prosperity to all my fellow Indian MGTOW's and single Indian Men.

A lot has changed in our society and our country over the past few years. The MGTOW movement has finally come to India and spread across the country. More and more men have started joining this movement and are experiencing radical changes and transformations in their lives. The Indian MGTOW is happy to see that.

Whatsapp groups of MGTOWs have started and MGTOWs across India have started getting connected to each other sharing their own experiences, thoughts and ideas. Even Youtube channels dedicated to MGTOW's have emerged and their views and followers are rising gradually.

A minute percentage of Indian men have become wiser, they have taken the red pill and have realized the dangers of third wave feminism and gynocentrism that have crept into out society. As sane Indian men we have made our peace and have chosen our own path. The path is not to get married and not be a part of a culture and society filled with misandry and gynocentrism.

In our paths we are going to face problems, we will be treated as outcasts and subjected to a lot of taunts and criticisms. But that , is life,  my friends. You cannot go and make everyone happy.

At 30, I had decided to follow the MGTOW path and I gave the same direction to my blog. The objective was clear: A blog dedicated to Single India men focusing on their lives, problems, challenges and happiness.

We cannot change the society or our people. Majority of the Indian men are blue pilled beta males who still believe that women, marriage and family is the ultimate source of happiness however I chose to differ, we are a democratic country and everyone has the right to express his/her individual opinion, we all have the right to live our lives the way we want so long as we follow the law of the land.

In the past few years I could not write many posts on my blog however this year I intend to write as many posts as I can. I want to spread the awareness on solo living. Living single and not getting married is not a crime and Indian men should not feel ashamed about it.  A single Indian man is married happier than his married counterparts.

So just go ahead and live that solo life and follow the MGTOW Lifestyle.

The Indian MGTOW wishes you all the best.

INDIAN MGTOW

Single Indian men need to move out of their family homes-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW-DOTSIM

The single Indian men writes on the topic of why single Indian men should move out of their family homes and live separately either on rent or buy their own house.

Many single Indian men still live with their parents even when they have reached their late 20's and early 30's. Many of them are still not married.Such men may have good academic credentials and hold well paying jobs in multi national organizations, however they are quite poor in their life skills.

It is still their mothers who are cooking the food, doing laundry and managing the household.

In my experience I feel that many single Indian men lack the ability of being self dependent; Living an independent life is out of bounds for them.Some of these men want to get married as they want their spouse to perform the role of a maid, cook and housekeeper. If left on their own a majority of the Indian men cannot manage their own lives. I may sound critical but this is the reality.

Indian men are still traditional at heart, they feel that by moving out of their homes they are abandoning their families.This is not true. Problem is that they suffer from the Ram and Shravan syndrome.Those who live with their parents even at a mature age suffer from parental self dependence. Some men exhibit the behaviour of a teenage in domestic living while others have a man-child syndrome.In other cases the mother has a huge influence on a man's life and she still treats him  like a baby.

Maturity takes over once you live independently. You learn to negotiate with the landlord, you understand the process and paperwork related to rent agreement or buying a flat on home loans.Necessity pushes you to grocery shopping, hunger makes you to learn cooking and visits by friends and acquaintances make you realize the importance of good housekeeping.Along with all this you get comfortable in your own skin, you realize the value of living independently and dealing with loneliness. The sense of undertaking responsibility falls upon you. This is when you mature into an independent person.

Today many matrimonial disputes happen when the spouse has to live with the in laws. Co-habiting with an individual is one  of thing, living with a new set of people who expect the woman to follow a new set of rules and impose conditions upon her is not easy.Two decades ago things were different, now the women are educated and empowered, they don't take shit from anyone. To any single Indian man who even wants to get married and have a harmonious life, living independently is the first thing they should do.

For those who are chronic bachelors, divorced and separated, please move out. How long do you expect your parents to take care of you? When will you grow up? Believe me , if you want to truly live a meaningful life please start living on your own.

Wish you all the best

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Single Indian Man

Another IIT-IIM alumnus engineer commits suicide in Noida-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Please read the story below:

The family of a 39-year-old software engineer, who allegedly took his life on Monday morning by jumping from the balcony of his 10th floor apartment in Sector 128, has filed a case of abetment to suicide against his wife and in-laws.

Even though no suicide note was recovered from the spot, the family suspects that his ongoing marital discord and financial trouble pushed him to suicide.

The family said they first got a call around 10am from a security guard of the society who said the man, an alumnus of IIT-Kanpur and IIM-Ahmedabad, had “burnt down his house and was admitted to a private hospital nearby”.

“When we reached the society, we found that he had jumped from his balcony and was dead,” the father, a resident of Delhi, said in his police complaint.

The family blames his wife for him ending his life. The couple had got married in 2014. According to family members, she was posted in a PSU in Haridwar at that time and he was working with a private firm in Gurugram.

“After a while, they both got transfers to Noida and moved to Sector 45. Soon afterwards, they started facing problems and my son ended up losing his job. He started his own venture but that also failed to take off. He was being constantly pressured by her family and one day, he told me that his father-in-law and two brothers-in-law had assaulted him and threatened to harm him. He had moved to the Sector 128 house after he filed for separation,” said the father in his complaint.

The wife had also filed a case against him, accusing him of subjecting her to cruelty, almost two years ago, when they separated. “He was under a lot of pressure and told us that her family was asking for Rs 50 lakh and a flat to withdraw that case. We are convinced that it was the physical and mental harassment that led my son to take this step,” he said.

Based on the father’s complaint, a case was registered at the Expressway police station under IPC Section 306 against the wife, her parents and two brothers.

Police said the wife is working now in Noida. “So far, the family has not been able to provide her exact address. We are working on this. A probe in the matter is underway. Due legal action will be taken soon,” Bhuvnesh Kumar, station house officer, Expressway police station, said.

The body was handed over to the family following an autopsy.

Another decent man has given up his life due to marital problems. How long will this continue? This person with a brilliant academic background had to take his own life. No one cares. The Indian society will turn a blind eye to this news. Had a woman with such an educational background committed suicide , all hell would have broken loose. The patriarchal Indian society would have been blamed and her husband would have been shamed and put through a media trial. But this is not the case.

Every year many Indian men commit suicide due to marital problems predominantly being harassment at the hands of wives and in laws. What have we turned marriage into? A goddamn business transaction!!!

There is no way Indian men can keep on living like this. It is better to choose the MGTOW lifestyle and live for yourself. 

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and will be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW  

The movie Motichoor-Chaknachoor portrays 30 plus single Indian men in a bad light-Bhaveen Sheth-INDIAN MGTOW

For those who have not seen the trailer, I kindly request you to do the same below:

This movie shows a 36 year old Indian man desperate to get married to anyone at any cost. I mean , what the hell?. Why showcase 30 plus single Indian men in such a poor taste? This gives a wrong impression to the general public which has already formed a generalized opinion about single Indian men. Why are 30 plus single Indian men being stereotyped?

I have hardly come across a movie or a web series wherein a 30 or 40 plus single Indian man is normal, happy and content with his life. Either he is shown to be a gay or a divorcee/widower or some kind of psychotic villain. Why can't Bollywood make a movie capturing the struggles of 30 plus single Indian men? Why is there not a single movie which showcases the urban loneliness that many single Indian men working in metro cities face?

I would also state how the greed of the female character played by Athiya Shetty is not only justified but glorified? It is okay if she wants only wants an NRI groom and will not settle for less in spite of having no achievements of her own. The man's character played by Nawazuddin Siddqui tries to show 30 plus single Indian men to be losers. The short, dark and ugly kind of guy whom no one wants to marry. 

I just hate this disgusting portrayal of men. Imagine if the genders were reversed and the female character was shown in a bad light. I am dead sure the feminists and feminazis would have had a field day and would have got the movie banned. But then who cares if Indian men are given a bad characterization. No one raises his/her voice.

I feel sad that Indian men especially those who are 30 plus and single are show cased as losers and failures.

I will watch this movie and write my opinion but this wrong portrayal of 30 plus single Indian men is not acceptable.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Importance of solo life and double standards of being in a reltionship- Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

The Single Indian man aka Indian MGTOW cam across this wonderful post of the importance of solo life and double standards of being in a relationship. Hope you will like it

Why are lot of Indian Men voluntarily opting out of marriage and choosing to live a solo life-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

The single Indian man writes on an increasing trend wherein a lot of (sane)Indian men are choosing not to get married and remain single.

Initially when I chose a solitary life, I felt that my decision was wrong but I had no other choice but  to remain single due to my destiny. Over the years I started interacting with Indian men who remained single by choice.The MGTOW movement finally came to India in the year 2015 and many Indian MGTOW groups and channels started appearing on the Internet and you tube.

This write up is for those Indian men who decided to remain single by choice.

Why is it that in a society that centers around families and marriages do some make take a drastic decision to remain single? Especially when they are going to face taunts and criticisms from people.

In the points below I would like to explain the reasons:

The Humiliating Matrimonial Experiences 

I am sure that every Indian man of a marriagable age would have gone through such experiences. Many of these meetings are outright humiliating. Nowadays women and their families have sky high expectations. In my previous posts I have mentioned about such instances. Humiliations are not left upto men only, it extends to their parents and siblings. The women and their parents leave no stone unturned in criticizing , taunting, ridiculing and passing cheap comments. The marriage talks are extremely depressing and distressing for the Indian man. How does it feel to see your parents being humiliated on materialistic grounds? What happens when a man observes sadness in the eyes of the his parents when a marriage proposal is rejected? Men eventually realize that it is better to focus on something else that is more meaningful rather than marriage.

The rising demands and expectations of  Indian Women

Nowadays it is observed that many Indian women transform into gold diggers the moment they reach a marriagable age. All want the same thing: The man should earn a six figure monthly salary, have his own flat (minimum 2 bhk), a nice fancy car, provide 2 foreign vacations in a year and above all take care of her shopping expenses (that are never ending). Please tell me how many Indian men achieve this by the time they reach 30? And all this for what? Just to get married!!And that too for a female who has done basic graduation, has a mediocre dead end job and is a bit good looking blessed with a fair skin!!! Men are gradually realizing that they don't need to compromise just for an average woman who otherwise will have no value addition in marriage.

Indian marriage laws can leave you bankrupt and turn you into a criminal

India's family laws are biased towards women and are strongly anti-male. There are 50 such draconian laws. Our empowered Indian women use all the provisions and sections of these laws when their marriage goes down hill.These laws are used as a vendetta in order to settle scores with the husband and in-laws. Huge sums are extorted in the name of alimony, settlement, maintenance and childcare.This has left many men bankrupt and with numerous men having criminal charges filled against them. Wise men have had a first hand experience in observing such cases within their own families or friend circle.Newspapers and social media is a doing a credible job in highlighting the rampant abuse of marital laws. This has made many wise men understand that marriage is not worth the risk.

When self esteem takes a hit

No one accepts this but emotional abuse of Indian men at the hands of their wives exists. Though denied by the society emotional abuse happens in terms of verbal abuse , taunts, comparisons, bad words and silent treatment.In one of my post I have written a long article on this topic. Emotional abuse destroys a man from within and this is a primary reason why many married Indian men commit suicide. I have observed the self esteem of many married Indian men who are stuck in dysfunctional marriages with emotionally abusive wives. The look on their faces reminds you of a caged animal who is repeatedly abused. Such men are prone to snap emotionally and turn violent. If someone has been wise enough to observe such things and it is also wise to remain single.

Lessons learnt from Middle Class Upbringing

For a middle class generation who grew up in the 80s and the 90s ,life was quite different than it is today. We did not have the luxuries that are easily available to today's generation.Remember how one joint family had to accommodate in a small house, an entire family sitting in front of a small TV set, rationing of food, books and clothes, living life on a shoe string budget. Yes , we have struggled, many have also seen difficult days during both those decades. We may feel nostalgic about the 80s and 90s but life was not easy. Now as grown men who got a decent education and a well paying job in an organization we are enjoying the spoils of consumerism with all our hard earned money. We have memberships at fitness clubs, drive a decent car, watch American TV Shows on Netflix and do a lot of other interesting activities. Why throw this life away just to get married? Why leave all this just for an above average looking, fair skinned, gold digger woman who have no significant achievements till date and will not bring any value addition in a marriage. I hope you get my point.

New avenues and activities for people living solo

Two decades ago a single man would have died of boredom but not now there are so many avenues and activities to engage a single Indian man.Just have a look are the list below:

American TV Shows
Video Games
Books and Kindle
Solo backpacking
Solo Biking
Correspondence Education
Online Certifications
Classes to pursue your hobbies in music, writing and photography,
Gymnasium and Marathon events

You can add more to this list but seriously with all of the above mentioned things easily accessible why the hell you need to get married.

Individual Quality of Life does matter

Somewhere down the line we as India  men have stopped thinking for ourselves, stopped living for ourselves. Since childhood an Indian man has been brainwashed that he is a protector and care taker, he should fulfill the expectations of everyone around him over his own dreams. We Indian men are the Rams and Shravans. No one cares about the lives of the Indian men. Some wise Indian men have realized that their lives matter and have started taking responsibility for the same.They are defying the rules of the society and focusing on themselves.They are doing this by not getting married and remaining single.

Challenges of being a married Indian men

Married life is not a bliss, certainly not for the Indian man. Setting up a new home, meeting the demands of the wife, home loans, car loans, school fees, expenses related to children is challenging. Our elders may have counselled us that marriage makes a man responsible but I think otherwise. Married Indian men have unnecessary burdens and responsibilities dumped upon them for no reason. One has to keep everyone happy, attend each and every social function whether he likes it or not. Married life is no easy cakewalk.

Exposure to the evil side of Women

We are now  very well aware of the evil and sinister side of Indian women. We have know about Rohtak sisters, Jasleen Kaur, Indrani Mukherjea, Zaira Wasim and a lot more. We have come across radical feminists and feminazis somewhere.Some men have been in relationships with these women and have suffered abuse at their hands, others have married such women and have gone through an acrimonious separation process. Newspapers are filled with stories wherein the wife partnered along with her paramour in order to kill her husband. There was one story wherein a woman killed her entire family just because she wanted to spend the rest of his life her boyfriend. Mens rights forum have highlighted the diabolical side of women.All this has made Indian men repulsive towards marriage.

A deep realization that you are not made for marriage.

As men we must realize and accept whether we are made for marriage or not.Are we capable of handling a marriage or not?Are we willing to give up our solo life, our freedom and our solitude?Are we emotionally and psychologically fit for marriage. At the end of the day it boils down to our own personal competency and capability. There is more to married life than just the engagement and the ceremony.For those of us who come from broken or dysfunctional families, for those who have heartbroken by multiple breakups, for those who are volatile in matters of love, for those who have been alone for a long time, it comes to a moment of deep realization that we are not made for marriage and it is something we need to stop chasing. We should chose to life alone.

With this I end my blog post and I hope my thoughts find acceptance among many single Indian men.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

The Indian Society brainwashes its men into becoming Beta Males aka Simps- Bhaveen Sheth – DOTSIM - INDIAN MGTOW

In many aspects the Indian Society is a wonderful  Institution. It teaches peace tolerance, co-existence, live and let live philosophy. Most of the time the family is a strong backbone to support and nurture an individual.

However with all its positive aspects there are certain negative aspects of the Indian Society. The most harmful of those are to covert its men into beta males/simps/female suckers.

Most of the Indian men hardly grow up, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Burdened with expectations from the time they are born, they are force to fulfill the dreams expectations of their parents. Their formative years go in studying, preparing for entrance and competitive exams graduation, post graduation and seeking jobs in good organizations. Hobbies, sports and extra-cirricular activities do not get any attention. The Indian man does not develop completely.

The Indian society brainwashes its men into false ideology of being a provider and protector. Since childhood his behaviour is molded to suit the needs of the society. The other ideology taught to men is that they need the support of a woman /soul mate/life partner. Other tham a decent job with a good salary having that dream girl as your wife becomes an ultimate goal of your life.

This is where the men bow down and try to change/modify their behaviours to suit the needs of a woman. This is where the Indian man’s self respect takes a hit and self esteem is based upon the validation of a woman. And what validation? You behave to suit the needs of a woman!!! You have to fulfill her needs and expectations!!! This is what a majority of the marriages in India are all about.

Bollywood is another source that falsely glorifies and over hypes love, romance and marriage and so do marriage functions. Every other Indian man thinks that marriage and a wife is the ultimate source of happiness.

The Indian man is hardly left on his own, to think for himself, to realize what he wants. Few men are able to introspect what they really want. Few men travel solo to realize their own hidden potential and what they can really achieve. Individualism is not encouraged by our society.

This is how the Indian society converts its men into beta males and simps. In India, majority of the married Indian men have become second class citizens and unknowingly they have accepted this position.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth