Paternal feelings as a single Indian man-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

 We are men, we are human and even if we are single, we have paternal feelings. As humans we yearn for for children. There are times when we feel if we had our own little children with whom we could play with and have fun. Unfortunately we don't have our children.

Narrating my own experience now that I have been a veteran single Indian man having led a solitary life, I love small children. There is something about them, their childishness, innocent smile, naughty laughter, little mischief and playful nature. Children are so pure, they are not affected by the toxicity of the outside world. Just 10 minutes of time spent with children and I forget all my problems. Currently I am very much attached to my niece, nephew and my best friend's son. I always look forward to spend some time with them and feel so happy about it. In public places, I come across small children and take an opportunity to put my hand over their heads in order to bless them.

I may not be a parent but love to be that friendly uncle to all children. I have this dream to mentor small children especially those who belong to the underprivileged section. Maybe their blessing and goodwill will go a long way in having a happy life.

Bhaveen Sheth

DOTSIM 

Nothing is going to change when it comes to our judicial system: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

I have been following the men's rights movement for a decade. There are numerous pages on men's rights, aggrieved husbands and groups on biased matrimonial laws. I also follow different profiles on twitter that share thoughts on men's rights. Then there are prominent men's rights activist who share news related to the pathetic condition of men, be it wrongful accusation of dowry and domestic violence, maintenance and alimony judgements, killing of innocent men and a lot more. Every weekend there are meetings conducted by Men's Rights Activists in all major cities of India to discuss their problems and cases. Rallies are held at Jantar Mantar in Delhi to spread  awareness on the biased laws and how they are destroying the family structure.

All these people have a hope that one day the laws will be amended in favour of men and they will stop suffering. I wish that could happen but reality is far different. Once the laws are passed by our parliament there is no space for them to be revoked. The laws empower our judiciary and police to enforce their own power on the common innocent people. The family and matrimonial laws are a source of bread and butter for the lower rank police officials  (constable, sub-inspector, inspector), judges, lawyers and women's commissions/NGO's. It is also a source of their employment. Police and lawyers love domestic and matrimonial feuds as it is a source of an income. Lawyers make a fool of the clients and prolong the cases in order to earn more money. The Women's commission and NGO's take funding from the government and corporate in the name of helping female victims.

The laws were made to bring justice to women who actually faced violence in their marriages. Unfortunately even today these laws are not of much help to the actual victims, those women who live in small towns and villages face violence daily and yet there is no recourse for them. The laws have been misused wrongly by a section just to settle scores. 

But will anything change? Will the laws be revoked? I don't think so. I am not being a pessimist. Having clearly stated that these laws have given rise to a parallel industry known an Marriage Breakup. I can't speak on its market valuation but I am sure it must be in crores. Everyone earns their share, the police, lawyers, judges, women's commissions/NGO's.

I don't have much hope. Nothing is going to change. Hence it is better to follow your own path and remain single. Accept life as it is and explore new things. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Happy New Year 2023-From the Desk of the Single Indian Man-Bhaveen Sheth

 My dear friends, I hope this post finds you in good health. I would like to wish a very happy new year 2023 to all you guys. I hope you have enjoyed the 31st night.

Finally the pandemic has come to an end. We can look forward for some good times. However the news on the surge in the pandemic coming from China is daunting. Let us pray and hope that India is not affected.

For all the single men life will go as usual. I hope you will continue to remain single and not get hitched. Some of you fellows may find the right life partner and get married. Please go ahead as single life is not for everyone.

Let us see what 2023 brings for us. A major decision related to the right of consent in a marriage will be heard by our supreme court this year. This is one decision that will have a major effect on the marriage system in India. I am not bothered as I am still not married.

Over the course of time I have decided to stop advising young vulnerable gullible single Indian men. Truth be told, they will do what they want and knowingly make their lives difficult.

Across India a new racket of online sextrortion and  false rape cases have sprung up. The targets are young vulnerable single Indian men desperate for companionship. Adding to this we already had gangs running fake marriage scams wherein another section of Indian men desperate for marriage are cheated. In spite of all cautionary tales, men knowingly fall victims.

For those of us who are veterans at being single we know that our journey has to go on. With advancing age we will be facing different challenges of being single. There is a need of creating a group for 35 plus single Indian men where in we can share our problems, challenges and the joys of being single. I myself have crossed 40 but don't feel like the same as there is no one to remind me of my age.

I have started valuing mental peace, it is a prize many don't have. It comes with being single and alone. I just can't handle the drama that comes with marriage. Some of us need to realize that we are not made for marriage and accept the same happily or stoically. 

I have also realized that you just can't expect everyone to give you company. Your siblings have their own families to take care of and the same applies for your male buddies. You must learn to handle loneliness by yourself. 

I also want to counsel all single Indian men to take the habit of reading seriously. With easy availability of books online and tabs/kindle reader, it is one of the most engaging activities to beat loneliness. Read both fiction and non fiction so that you can wide your perspective. Adding to this one already has easy access to OTT streaming apps wherein you get to watch the best of the movies, web series and documentaries.

I don't need to emphasize on physical and mental health. Time and again I keep telling single men to work on the same. This year take up a resolution to do away with bad habits or addictions. This includes avoiding junk food, smoking and alcohol. Keep toxic and negative people away from your life and this includes your relatives who have no other business other than taunting and criticizing you for remaining single. Make good friends, find mentors, take wise counsel and move ahead in life.

For anyone who wishes to contact me personally. Please find my email address below:

sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com

Once again, a happy and prosperous 2023 ahead

Why do I have my profile active on a matrimonial site: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

Many of you readers who are following this blog visiting it regularly would be thinking that why as a veteran MGTOW and single Indian man has his profile active on shaadi.com. I can understand. As a veteran MGTOW and as a man who has now  addicted to his solitude, marriage may not be possible.

However whenever I meet people, I am asked why I am single? To the majority I clearly state the gender biased laws and rising levels of gynocentrism and feminazism. However those who are close to me are clearly told that I am an adult orphan having no family of my own. My best friends are my family.

For over last 10 years I have been told that some decent family will always like me or a good hearted girl will choose me. After all it is the person that matters. However I know the reality. In our nation and society orphans have a difficult life ahead. Their lives are lonely and struggles are difficult.

In 2015, I had deleted my profile on matrimonial sites, however in 2016, on the insistence of a friend, I reactivated my profile. This time it was purely experimental as I wanted to witness the stark realities and dubious standards of the society.

And my assumption turned into reality. People saw my profile repeatedly and did not express interests, those who did, wanted a bio-data and some reference from my blood relatives, this in spite of writing that I don't have a family. The so called modern single independent woman or those who claimed to be that stated that she would discuss with her own family and she expressed apprehension. Some parents and sibling considered me as the Hobson's choice/last alternative where they could just dump their daughter/sister on me in order to fulfill their responsibility. I could understand their reasons, a daughter/sister will limited prospects to get married, normal families not accepting her alliance, finding some simple beta male who would just marry and keep the daughter with no questions asked, escaping from the taunts, jibes and criticism of having an aged unmarried daughter still sitting at home.

Even as I write this post, my profile is repeatedly visited, sometimes interests are expressed and nothing moves ahead. Of course it does not affect me at all. Marriage is not on my priority list. But I wanted to closely observe the society. Profile views and invitations are an experience. It confirms my assumptions about the bias, prejudice and double standards that people carry. It also shows the massive high standards and uncompromising beliefs that people have.

I am not here to criticize or pass judgement on anyone. Unfortunately people don't stop judging or having a poor thinking for orphans or people who don't have parents. Even at the age of 40, I am treated like a naive 25 year old boy. In India, people are not used to see men standing up for themselves, taking major life responsibilities and being independent. Time and again I hear this common statement "Beta (son), We need to talk to some elder in you family"? How can you take such an important decision all by yourself? Years back I would give an explanation. These days, I just hang up and delete and block their profiles. With age, I don't have the energy to engage in bullshit with toxic and judgmental people. And mind you these are people who have a 35  year old unmarried daughter and yet treat me like some low class servant. These experiences have shown me the miserable treatment that orphans go through just because they don't have parents or a family. Insults, humiliations and bad treatment.

But then I don't care. I have very well accepted my fate and destiny and intend to move forward. I have kept my profile active just to see some stark realities and share my experience with fellow single Indian men and MGTOWs.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Celebrating Diwali the MGTOW way: Bhaveen Sheth Indian MGTOW

Greetings my friends and wishing you all a very happy Diwali. I hope you guys enjoyed. As a veteran MGTOW, I also celebrated Diwali in my own way. Got up, prayed, read and watched some documentaries and again prepared for the evening. Did a small Pooja, lit up diyas and then collected all the fire crackers that I had got and went to terrace. I was bursting fire crackers after a long time.Don't recollect when was the last time I did it. I felt nostalgic, childhood memories flashed in front of me. But then who cares, life has to be lived. As a MGTOW i celebrated the festival all by myself. Photographs are depicted below:

A lot of Indian men are not fit for marriage: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

I have come to realize that a lot of Indian men are not fit for marriage or capable to handle a married life that comes with family responsibilities.

Over the last three years I have been observing a trend on Linkedin where many men are writing distress messages. Most of the messages are like this:

"I have some xyz many years of experience. I am desperately looking for a job since last six months, 1 year. I don't have money to pay for my groceries, I can't pay money for my children's school fees. I have home loans and car loans to pay. I am extremely distressed. Please help me.

Being in Human Resources, I can understand what happens to men who don't have jobs, especially those who are married and have children. No one should ever be put in such a difficult situation.

But then I rationalize and have a reality check just to realize that many men are just mediocre in their fields/specializations. They have never up skilled or upgraded themselves. They never realized the changing dynamics of the job market, they did not introspect their shortcomings. Taking their jobs for granted, they tried to fulfill their dreams on credit and loans without realizing that one day their world would come crashing.

Today just having a job and earning a salary is not enough. Today the requirements are not just Roti, Kapda and Makaan but it is quality, style, brand and status. You are required to have that 2 BHK Flat, a mid segment car, children who will be sent to good schools, tutions, online tutorial programs, weekend dine outs, annual vacations, lavish social functions. And mind you this is the upper middle class that I am talking about.Most of the distress messages on Linkedin are from people who are upper middle class.

Yes , we are facing recessions and inflation, yes,  we had two bad years of the COVID-Pandemic, yes, there were job cuts, pink slips served and what not. But still, there is a saying "Survival of the Fittest". The competent survive and thrive , the incompetent and mediocre perish.

In India, when a man gets a job and starts earning a decent salary, the family members start looking out for a bride. The man does not protest as he is deluded by the prospect of marriage and that wonderful beautiful wife. I wish these men had just waited for some years in understanding themselves, their skills, the job market and its requirements. A single man always has a chance to change specializations, switch organizations and migrate to different cities. He has the freedom to take decisions which a married man cannot. In many ways marriage does bring in mediocrity and complacency in life of men.

When I see distressed married Indian men who are jobless, I realize that a huge percentage of Indian men are not fit for marriage and if you are a single Indian man reading this post, let me tell you that marriage will soon become a luxury that only the rich can afford.(I will be writing a post on this). If you truly want a content, quality and happy life, then remain single and be happy.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDINA MGTOW

Yes Sir, As per your perception I am a failure: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

 There are many Indian men who take a wise decision to not get married and remain single. It is not necessary for them to have had a bitter heart break and be a loser. Just that they have realized that the institution of marriage is not their cup of tea and they don't have what it takes to take the journey of marriage ahead. To each one his own. And yet Single Indian men are looked upon as incomplete or failures. While the media, time and again has reported on the discriminatory treatment meted out to single Indian women by the Indian society, no one mentions a word  on the similar or maybe worse treatment given to single Indian men. In a satirical and self depreciating write up, I want to share how the larger society perceives us single Indian men. In a first person conversation, I am telling my thoughts to a sir and madam and expressing my views.

Dear Sir/Madam,

I don't understand why have your expressed shock and astonishment when I told you that I am single and unmarried. Why? Is it uncommon for you to come across men like us? Or just because your sons and nephews are happily married and well settled, you are expecting every other man do the same. I can understand, when you were young every man was expected to get married and start a family.

Yes Sir/Madam, In you opinion and thoughts I am a failure, complete failure. I am 40, single, unmarried and childless. I have missed out on boat of marriage and have been condemned to live a miserable life all alone. This is what you think. A man without a wife and children is incomplete and useless. A man without a family has no identity. I can understand.

I don't have a house of my own and live in a rented apartment or may I say , a working men's hostel with a room of my own. In your eyes I am still a young man who has not gained maturity.

You may think I am living a wayward irresponsible life, a man who does not have anyone to take care of or who is not answerable to anyone.

You see, I just own a small care and a mid segment 2 wheeler. My car is Tata Nano, highly unimpressive. It is for my convenience, however as you are a status oriented, you do not appreciate my choice of a car.

Even though I am a thorough gentleman and professional in my conduct with people, you have your own doubts over me. You think that I am an immoral, characterless person. Some of the people of your society even think that I am pervert who has a bad eye on women. Why Sir/Madam? Why do you think so? Have you put all single Indian men in once category?

Whenever I speak on the gender biased laws and inequality face by men in our society, you laugh at me? Why? Can't you accept the reality? I guess you never had to face such a situation but many couples of your age have faced false cases at the hand of their daughter in laws or sister in laws. You just don't understand that I have become more aware of these things through reading and following the Men's rights movement.

You have an objection if I enjoy all by myself ? Why? Are all Indian men expected to get into the unspoken system of slavery that comes in the name of family and marriage? Why should each and every Indian man play the role of a provider and protector? Why can't Indian men enjoy their own time of peace and solitude? What is your problem if we go out and dine out alone at restaurants, go to multiplex all by ourselves and explore new places in India and abroad? Don't we have a life and don't we have the right to enjoy?

Why do you have  a problem if we seek companionship of women? Why are you so hurt? Especially you, the man. Are you jealous that we are having a girlfriend? Why do you call us immoral characterless pervert? Are we harassing or molesting the girls and women in the neighborhood? If there a law that prevents 30 plus single Indian man to be in a relationship with  a woman. If a relationship is out of mutual consent, why then are your objecting?  You people especially living in residential housing complexes and  apartments behave like the moral police. You remind me of the Mutawah (moral police) in Saudi Arabia or the Basij Militia in Iran who are officially given the responsibility of upholding the moral values of the society. Close to India, we have the Bajrag Dal that harasses young couples siting in parks and targets them during Valentine's Day. Somehow I feel that you too must have a member of the such moral protection groups during your younger years.

You challenge my manliness as I did not produce any kids. Why man? Are kids a proof of ones manliness? No wonder we have now reached a population of Rs 130 crores as each and every Indian man wants to prove his manliness. In India, men just have kids without giving any thought of whether he is emotionally and financially prepared to take care and raise that child. You see sir, we Indians are not practical people, we are emotional people, driven by a false sense of pride. But then again why do you have a problem if I have no children? I know that behind my back you call me a napunsak nalla (impotent wasted man). I don't give a damn to what you think.

You state that I am living a boring and miserable life just because I have no family. Tell me sir, are the married men living the best years of their lives/ I see most of them concerned about the finances and welfare of their families. Most of them have been trapped into the vicious cycle of care, education and home loans. On the other hand I am free, I am not under any debt. Perhaps you don't understand that there is something known as mental peace and emotional health. We Indians don't care about it as we feel it is a western concept. However most of the married men are currently going through some form of emotional distress as they are burdened by responsibilities. I have none, I am a free man. My mental health is so good. I am not compared or nagged by a wife as I don't have any.

Yes sir/madam. This is what I thought of sharing. I am representing and speaking on behalf of many single men like me who have decided not to get married and remain single. We don't want any kind of help or assistance from anyone. We are happy being on our own. We are the followers of the MGTOW Lifestyle. 

I end my post by stating that birds who are caged for their entire life will always think that flying is a disease. This, sir/madam, applies to you also.

Thank you and have a nice day

Bhaveen Sheth 

Indian MGTOW

Remembering all those humiliating and insulting matrimonial meetings: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

I like to write down and share my own experiences on the insulting and humiliating matrimonial meetings that I have faced during my 20s and 30s. I was then a young indealistic guy, fresh out in the world after completing my post graduation and starting a new job. Like all men of my age I dreamt of getting married and starting a family of my own.

Little did I know what was in store for me, I used to think that being a self made man would make me looked upon as a respectable person but that was not the case. In our country people judge you based on your family background. It is what defines you as a person. Sadly I did not have any. Being an adult orphan , with no family to represent me, put me in a difficult position.

The parents of potential brides judged me, my integrity, morals, behaviour and character. No one was willing to consider me, I guess they had trust issues. What is your background? Where is the rest of your family? How can we give away our daughter to a man who does not have any family? You must be a fraud?  Don't you have anyone from your family to represent you? How is that possible? 

What I did not understand is why did these people agree to speak to me or meet me in the first place when I had clearly stated everything about my background? 

I also got matrimonial interests from women whom no would marry. I believe they were a Hobson's choice. They were not getting a match from a so called suitable or decent families and they only had me as a choice. I guess in India , orphans have no options.

In my early 30s, I decided to live a single life. By the time I turned  34, the MGTOW movement had come to India and the JIO Internet blitzkring took place in 2016. More and more single Indian men started connecting with each other online and shared the benefits of MGTOW lifestyle. I found joy in taking up the MGTOW lifestyle. My involvement in men's rights activism and subsequent talks with aggrieved men fighting matrimonial disputes/cases made me realize that marriage in India was just a sham.

Today, I am extremely happy at the lifestyle decision I made.I look back over the years and laugh that those meetings, yes they were insulting and humiliating but it was good that marriage never happened. It also made me realize how materialistic people are in the Indian society. While forging an alliance with people , they are only looking for their own long term benefits.

This was my experience and I thought of sharing the same. I will also be writing a post on the humiliations that today's men face during matrimonial meetings.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Enjoying Saturday Evening: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

So what would a Saturday evening look like for a veteran Indian MGTOW aka Single Man. I guess it is all about relaxation ,entertaintment and good food.

I generaly try to catch up some good shows and movies on Netflix or Amazon Prime. Along with this I place an order through Zomato for some good food. Saturday evenings are peaceful filled with fun and entertainment. Single life has its own benefits and I am making the best of it. I just thought of giving a glimpse of my life to fellow single Indian men. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

The Single Indian man aka Indian MGTOW turns 40: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Today I have turned 40. Completed another decade and stepped into my 40s. I am happily single and marked myself safe from marriage. Over all these years I have had different experiences and have encountered many people.These experiences have shaped me as a person. Based on this I would like to write a few points below:

1. Relationships are trasnsactional. Barring a few people I have realized that most relationships are about give and take. People will associate with you when they need something, you will be called if someone wants help. Otherwise people don't want form a deep connect. I am okay with that and as part of growing up I have accepted this.

2. Marriage may not happen in my case and I am accepted this as a part of my life. For a person with  no  family makes me the most unqualified candidate for the Institution of marriage. Over the years I have the observed how degenerated this institution has become where in the matters have been taken to the police station and session courts. I have seen western debaunchery and degenerecy entering this institution and have gained enough wisdom to realize that marriage is no longer a holy institution in India.

3. I find solace in reading and watching good movies and web series on different OTT platforms. I guess this activities keep me enegaged and help me address that lonelienss that comes with living a single life.

4.I have started my fitness journey once again. The COVID pandemic and subsequent lockdows disturbed my schedule and now it is time to get back to my fitness routine.I have promised myself and that no matter what, I will not become like one of those 40 and 50 plus uncles that you meet in India who is unfit and out of shape.

5. I will resume my travel exploring different places and meeting new people. I have decided to dine out at food joints and restaurants on near by cities that have been recommended by youtubers.

6. With the wisdom gained over years of experience, I tend to avoid toxic and negative people. They zap your energy and emotionally drain you. I keep them 500 mtrs away from me.

7. I am now open to compansinship i.e means spending some time with a female if she comes across as a sane and rational woman. Though I follow the MGTOW lifestyle there is nothing wrong in seeking companionship of a woman. As a single man , I have the freedom to persue relationships and seek compansionship from women of my age bracket. In the journey of life there have to be some good memries, something that you will look back on and smile.

I celebreated by birthday all by myself at a cafe and here I say cheers of life, liberty and freedom:

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Speaking on Indian Mens' rights and promoting a MGTOW lifestyle does not make me Misogynist: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

There have been many times when my blog, my write-ups have been criticized and labelled as patriarchal and misogynist. I have often been called an Incel, frustrated right wing Sanghi who writes articles against women. In times of woke feminism and liberalism  it is quite easy to silence voices that are representing the other side of the story.

Firstly I want to clarify that I am not against the female gender. I have many good female friends and work colleagues and totally respect the contribution of women in our homes, workforce and society. What I am against is the gender biased laws, woke feminists and feminazis who wrongly use these laws against men and the constant defamation of Indian men in the media and social media platform.

Speaking for the rights of Indian men and their condition is not a crime. I am exercising  my right of freedom of speech. In India you have the Legislature, the Executive and the Judiciary, the three pillars of democracy. But just look at the irony of our country. The legislature drafts rules which are against men, the judiciary passes judgements against men while the executive implements the laws that are against the interests of Indian men. Just look at the recent court judgements admonishing and taunting Indian men, just look how police treats Indian men when cases related to marital problems are filed against them. Look at our respective state governments giving handouts freebies to women but offer nothing to men.

The fourth estate known as the Media which should ideally be unbiased and honest in reporting the ground reality prints and publishes everything against men. The problem is that our media is filled with leftist liberals who want to run an agenda of defaming Indian men by portraying them are rapists, pedophiles, violent and abusive wife beating husbands and god knows what.

It is the fifth estate known as the social media that gives us Men the opportunity to share our experiences and our side of the story. When I write I speak on the pathetic condition of Indian men in this country and the treatment meted out to them by the courts, law enforcement agencies and the society. India's woke feminism culture has created major problems for Indian men.

In our country the condition of an Indian man is that of a third class citizen. Even street mongrels and stray cows are given better treatment than us.

When I write, I write on the current gender biased laws prevailing in our judicial systems and how they have destroyed the lives of  hundreds and thousands of Indian men. Indian men since birth are expected to be RAM-SHRAVAN and play the role of provider and protector. An Indian man is judged by the job he holds and the salary he earns. He is expected to get married, bring a wife and raise kids. For the next thirty years of his life, he has to provide for his family and bear all the expenses. He is forced to take loans and be under debt for years to come.

MGTOW lifestyle is a major life saver for rational Indian men. It gives men an alternative path to move away from the society and live your life on your own terms and not as per the expectations of the Indian society. No more marriage, no more a family and no children. You are away from the shackles of the society. You are free, free from the burden of expectations and pressures put by other people.

At 39, I am living that MGTOW lifestyle. Initially circumstances forced to me to take up the single life and later I happily embraced the MGTOW lifestyle. Today I am an keen observer of the happenings in and around the Indian society. My experiences have shaped me. Today I write to create awareness for young Indian men, I write from my own experiences of living the MGTOW lifestyle. 

This is what I wanted to clarify. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Happy New Year 2022-From the Indian MGTOW's Desk

I would like to wish a very happy new year for all my fellow single Indian men and fellow MGTOW's. I hope you all would have enjoyed and celebrated the 31st night. The year 2021 went so fast. What started as a new beginning of supposedly having won over COVID gradually became a major disaster. The months between April to July were worse. The incompetence and failure of the government was clearly visible. So many people lost their loved ones. The sad part is that the events of this year left so many COVID orphans who are left to their own fate. Once again businesses have suffered and men have lost their jobs.

In the current times staying single and living a MGTOW lifestyle is the best option. Even if you face financial problems, it is only you who will bear the consequences and not your family members. Imagine the guilt of not being able to pay EMI's, children's school fees and meeting your household expenses. In an article written by Mr.Rahul Pandita, an eminent journalist, he shared his own personal experience;he had visited a grocery shop and a decent well educated man met him. This man asked Rahul Pandita if he could buy some essential groceries for this man as he had lost his job, spent all savings and had no money to buy food for his family, this man had a 1 year child and was desperate to get some food for his child. Mr.Rahul offered some money but this man only asked Rahul to buy him essential groceries. I guess his self respect did not make him take money from another person.

Imagine if any one of us were in this situation. How humiliating is it to beg in front of someone for basic essentials for your family. I guess I too cannot do such a thing. I would rather starve than beg.

As stated in my previous posts, don't change your mind due to this pandemic situation. I know that these are difficult times, our loved ones are dying and there is a need for companionship. But I want to clearly warn you, please don't get married. Marriages done due to desperation often lead to disaster.

This year please focus on improving yourself, go to the gym, exercise, run, lift weights, go for a swim. Focus on health and wellness. Mental and emotional health is equally important. Take up yoga and meditation. Read spiritual books and visit temples on a regular basis. Travel as much as you can in India, explore new places.On you tube there are many food channels that are exploring good eateries in your city. Please visit and eat the food at these places. It is wonderful.

I have already warned you on legal terrorism related to marriage. I also want to warn to on the new and emerging crime that no one is talking: SEXTORTION. We have have already heard about Ms. Ayushi Bhatia, this woman who filled 7 false rape cases against 7 men in the year 2021 itself. I will be writing about her in my coming posts, but please be warned. If you are meeting an unknown woman in a public place who is getting extra friendly with you then it is a red flag. Just avoid such women. Another scam observed is where an unknown woman sends you a friend request on facebook or Instagram, once you accept this request, she will have a video call with you and try to get personal on the call. She will start revealing her physically and while the man may be enjoying, his act is being recorded by the woman. Later this woman will send a threatening message stating that the video will be made viral if the man will not pay up the money demanded by her. There are instances where in the video is shared with the friends and family members of this man on social media.

Our society is headed towards moral decadence. There are no values, no moral and no ethics. I request all my fellow MGTOW brothers to stay out of any trouble.

This year I am also willing to help my fellow MGTOWs especially the young ones who are looking for wise counsel or advice on living a MGTOW/Single Life.My email is is sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com

Once again I wish you all a very happy new year and let us hope that this year brings peace and prosperity to all of us.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

What happens when Indian men stop playing the role of a protector and provider-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

In India every Indian man is mandated to play the role of a protector and provider, majority being brainwashed from childhood on how they are to become good sons and caring husbands. The path is clear : Be a good and obedient boy, get good grades in school, get admission into a good college and taken up medicine, engineering or management, get a good job in an MNC and get married to the girl of your parents choice.

The Indian man is expected to be a provider and protector. He can't escape the same. Now what happens when some Indian men refuse to do the same? What happens when men decide to stay single or live a MGTOW Lifestyle?

In my experience the society goes all out in humiliating and lambasting such men. Speaking from my  personal experience, I have seen how the society labels such men including myself as losers and failures. We are often criticized for not getting married and having children, that we are not taking our responsibilities seriously? Indian society cannot tolerate men who want to live for themselves.

Now I would like to ask "When did remaining single and living for yourself become a crime"? "And why is the society inconsiderate to single Indian men?" The answer lies in the fact that when a man refuses to undertake mandated slavery  that comes in the form of marriage, being a husband and being a parent is just not acceptable to the society. Especially when majority of the folks are happily willing to undertake slavery.

Breaking the shackles and going against the tide was never easy. Men who live for themselves will always be criticized and be looked down upon. No one wants to see a happy single man , especially in India. A single Indian man eventually if he wants can have a wonderful life. He has no major responsibilities, he is not under the burden of EMI's or home loans. He does not  have to spend on children's education.More important he is at peace. Mental peace is something a lot of Indian men crave for considering the drama and tantrums throw by the wives. This is the reason why our Indian society cannot accept the concept of a happy single Indian man who willingly does not want to get married.

At 39, being single and living a MGTOW lifestyle, I am more than happy. Never succumb to the pressure of getting married.Life your life and be happy.

BHAVEEN SHETH

Reverse Dowry in India-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Dowry is a social evil. We have studied this in our school time. It is wrong to take dowry and there is a stringent law  in the Indian Penal Code against it. That's good. But has someone heard about reverse dowry in India? Does anyone has a faint idea what it is?

With the advent of the 21st century and the rise of  middle class and upper middle class population in India we have seen many changes in our social norms. During this period we have also seen woke feminism on the rise. Since ages there has been a demand for a beautiful bride and financially stable groom. But over the years the demands of a prospective girl and her parents have sky rocketed. A picture was shared on social media enumerating the demands of today's women and her parents. Please read the same:

The above picture shows the reality. I would also like to share a comical video from you tube wherein a man is mentioning the demands of young girls and her parents in order to get married:

This video is hilarious and this man is mentioning the acerbic truth. Anyways, coming back to the main topic, I would like mention the common demands from the girl's families in order to get married. This is based on research from the internet and personal talk with many young and separated men. So here is the laundry list of demands:

Education: The boy must be educated having a masters degree that too from a reputed college. It does not matter if the girl has completed basic graduation in phaphda and jalebi degree from some pakoda and bhajia college affiliated to some sandwich and hamburger university.

Vocation: Doctor, Engineer (IIT), MBA (B-School Only), CA, IAS, IPS, IRS or government job. It does not matter if the girl is just working as a front office receptionist or doing a back office job.

Salary: The most important factor when it comes to finalizing the groom for a marriage. Nothing less than a six figure monthly CTC or seven figure annual CTC. After all the daddy's princesses won't marry men who average earners. Now you understand why the placement package matters.A man's worth is decided by his CTC.

Flat possession: The boy must have a 2 or 3 BHK flat in his name or he should be planning to acquire one by putting a down payment and suffer the burden on monthly EMI's for the next 25 years. The flat must be located in a posh locality. Today's girls don't want to stay with the in-laws and are not even willing to stay in a rented flat.

Property ownership: The bungalow, land or flat of the the prospective groom is a major deciding factor. Ancestral land in the home town of the boy is icing on the cake.

Boy's Family background: The lesser the better. The boy should be the only son, he should not have any siblings. If he has a brother he should not take care of him and if there is a sister then he should not set aside any on his finances for her marriage. As the girl will not live in a joint family, the boy must live separately from his parents after marriage.

In-Laws Expectations: What is ours will be ours but what is yours will become a part of our daughter. No compromises.  The boy must take care of the healthcare needs of his in-laws including taking them to the hospital. He should also sponsor the marriage of his sister-in law if there is one. Gifts are to be given to the in-laws during all social occasions, anniversaries and festivals. The boy must take his in-laws on annual vacations in Indian and abroad and yes ,the in-laws can drop by anytime at his house where he will take leave from his office and take the in-laws to expensive restaurants and shopping malls.

Honeymoon: It must be in a foreign country preferably exotic places like Bali, Singapore/Malaysia, Dubai, Europe. Indian locations are only for beggars. After all the girl wants to put the pictures on social media. And the expenses of this entire trip must be paid by the groom.

Take care of the lifestyle of the girl: Yes my friend the prospective groom must take care of the wonderful lifestyle of the girl. After marriage she will leave her job and stay at home becoming a full time housewife. One maid will be hired to clean the house and a separate cook will prepare the food. The boy must buy another 2 wheeler or 4 wheeler as madam needs to travel across the city. Madam  will also take up her passion of making videos on you tube, Instagram and ticktock/MX Takatak. She will go to the gym, zumba classes, palliates classes and yoga sessions, the boy will pay for all these expenses. Every week the girl will do shopping at malls and supermarkets, she will also visit expensive salons for her grooming and the guy must take care of these expenses as well. 

There is more that I would like to add but as for now this enough. This is the reality of our society and I am showing you the mirror. Marriage has fallen to materialistic decadent immoral level in these times and unfortunately there is no recourse. Social media has made people believe that they can achieve what they want by making minimal effort. Combine this with a Gynocentric culture and woke feminism.

Many young Indian men who are eligible for marriage are facing this situation. Some are even distressed and sad as they are not getting married after 5 to 6 years.

What is the point of a marriage of your have to end up being a slave in order to sponsor the expensive lifestyle of a person. 

The solution is to stay single and go MGTOW. The financial freedom is beyond imagination.

This is Bhaveen Sheth ending this writeup and will be back with some more wisdom.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

The Selfish Indian man who wants to leave his biological imprint in this world: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Living as a single Indian man now in my late 30's, I often counsel single Indian men in their 20's and early 30's on the need to remain single and follow the MGTOW Lifestyle. Though I put up my points on the benefits of remaining single, these young Indian men are not convinced. They all say one common thing "What about my progeny?", "Vansh ka kyaa hoga?" "What about my legacy?" . I guess the normal Indian man is an egoist when it comes to his own legacy. He is more interested in leaving his biological imprint in this world rather improving his own lifestyle or his economic condition. This is a major reason why Indian men willing submit to lifetime of slavery in the name of marriage and fatherhood.

In India, every other Indian man is selfish. He wants to follow the herd mentality just like others. And he too wants to leave his own biological imprint. He in not concerned on what kind of future he will be able to give his child. He is not bothered whether he will be able to afford the required lifestyle for his child.Many of such men are not even well settled in their careers. Their own lives are messed up. At young age they have restricted their own growth and yet these men want to get married and start a family.

The truth is they just want to extend their own identity through their children. They want to join the league of the majority by bringing a child in this world. That is all. They don't want to improve their own lives or enhance their skills. They don't want to rise up in the financial or social ladder. How can you think of bringing a child in this world when you are just able not able to basic needs? I guess this is a question no Indian man asks himself. 

With maturity and experience that I have gained and a gradual realization, I no longer counsel such dumb men. Let their own bitter experiences make them realize the mistakes that they have made. Nothing hurts more when you are not able to meet or fulfill the demands of your family. And more agonizing and distressing is when your own child criticizes  you for being a useless father or a dead beat bad. 

In India, Men only learn lessons from bitter experiences.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

MGTOW Lifestyle and freedom from obligations, expectations and burdens of the Indian Society-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

By the time you reach your late 30's, you realize that you have made the right decision by taking up and following the MGTOW Lifestyle. Many people have criticized me for running away from basic responsibilities. When I ask what were the the responsibilities and I get a reply of not getting married or having a family of my own. I have stopped caring nowadays.

You see, in India , if you are a man you are always expected to meet certain expectations, fulfill obligations and have many burdens dumped upon you for no reason. All this is okay till you finish your college and start earning but then why does society push us further? Why are we forced into getting married?

Now I am no expert to answer this question. To each one his own and I am better off minding my own business. Marriage in India puts lots of responsibilities on men. Unlike the West, you don't marry an individual, you marry the entire family and hence you become a part of a larger society. Two individuals can remain happy but to make 2 entire families happy is no easy task. 

Once you get married, your expenditure sky rockets, after having a child, a man faces major challenges. Healthcare and Education take a huge toll on one's income. Even after 70 years of independence, basic services like education and healthcare are in a pathetic state. This has lead to privatization of these services where even the lower middle class people are forced to avail the same. 

When you live in a society, you are expected to meet the so called standards set by it. Having a house, a car, attending social functions of the larger family and friends, giving out gifts, celebrating birthdays and anniversaries, dinning out a expensive restaurants on weekends, vacations in India and abroad and rest of the things.

At 39, I am so happy of not being a part of this so called circus. I don't have to spend money on worthless things just to meet someones expectations.

This my friends are the real benefits of following a MGTOW lifestyle in India. So if you have chosen the path of MGTOW but are not sure about it,believe me, this is are the true words of a 39 year old veteran MGTOW. Go ahead and live your life, away from the burdens and expectations of the Indian society.

The Year 2021-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-MGTOW

Greetings my dear single Indian men and fellow MGTOWs. I hope you all are doing well. My sincere apologies for not being able to write for the last few months. Work and personal things had kept me busy.I hope this year brings you peace, prosperity and joy.

Last year was miserable for all of us, the COVID Pandemic and subsequent lockdown made life difficult. Even as I write this post our country is going through its 2nd wave and we do not know when the cases will plummet.

As we step into a new decade, we must understand the challenges that we as single Indian men and MGTOWs will face. The most important: Retaining your current job. The economic slow down and recession caused due to the Pandemic and lockdowns has increased unemployment and lead to job cuts. I sincerely hope all my fellow readers have been able to retain their jobs.

This year we should focus on our health and well being. Please do away with bad habits if you have any. It is important that we eat the right food and undertake regular exercise, work on body sculpting and improve one's stamina. Mental health is another aspect that we should not neglect. Yoga  and meditation will be helpful combined with forming a good friend circle made up with positive people. They will become our support system.

As our honorable Prime Minister had stated last year, it is time for us to become Atmanirbhar i.e become self dependent, self sufficient and self reliant. We must learn cooking, doing our daily chores independently.Buy a vehicle so that we are not dependent on public transport. Most important we must get into the habit of living alone.

Finally I must warn all my single Indian male readers on not becoming desperate for marriage or companionship due to the COVID Pandemic.These are difficult times indeed.

Once again I wish you all the best and hope this year bring positive improvements in your life.

Please stop comparing and associating us with Salman Khan:Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

No other bollywood filmstar other than Sanjay Dutt would have courted so much controversy that this actor Salman Khan has. Even when our press and social media has reported accounts of his dark behaviour and misdeeds, Mr. Salman Khan enjoys a large fan base. After all , we are a nation of fools and idiots.

Now I or the fraternity of the Single Indian men don't have any problem with him. We don't follow him on social media or watch his trashy movies. Unfortunately the larger Indian population,time and again, tries to associate us with this character/creature called Salman Khan.

I am sure that Single Indian men and MGTOWs reading this post will be able to understand. Whenever we state that we want to remain single and don't intend to get married, we are taunted whether we want to become the next Salman Khan. I guess empathy and understanding is something that my fellow Indian men lack and if that was not enough they are too bothered in what is happening in the lives of other people.

So in this blog post , I would like to write my thoughts on why decent Single Indian men should not be associated with Salman Khan:

We don't take steroids in order to build our bodies. Fitness may be important for us but not at the cost of of our health.

We don't physically or verbally abuse girlfriends. Truth is that we don't have any girl friends in the first place.Even if we were seeing someone we would not do such a thing.

We are law abiding citizens and do not drink and drive or run our cars over people sleeping on the footpath.

We are animal lovers and even if we are not, we don't go around killing poor animals in the name of hunting that too the endangered species.

We don't associate with goons, hoodlums, dons and mafias as we have nothing to do with them.

We are humble, rational and accommodating human beings and don't go across destroying the lives or careers of other people. We don't have a fragile super ego.

We are middle class or upper middle class people and don't have a harem of girls at our disposal. We neither have the cash or the celebrity status to have girls around us and truth be told , we have much better things to do than spend time with girls.

I hope that people can understand these basic facts and stop associating us with this anti-social character. There are many men who remain single by choice. This is something that married Indian men won't understand. Rationalizing with these men is not possible. In my country people hardly read, they hardly travel beyond the confines of their own towns and cities, they hardly meet people from diverse cultures or backgrounds. In India, Individuality is not respected or tolerated.

But whatever it may be, we the Single Indian men don't want to become Salman Khan.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Dear NRI's (Non Residential Indians) and People of Indian Origin(PIO), please stop coming to India in order for find a bride and get married: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

 The Single Indian man writes this post for all NRI's and PIO's that they should stop coming down to Indian in order to look for some beautiful bride in order to get married. Parents and young men based abroad (on work visa, Green Card or Permanent Resident), if you are reading this post , I kindly request you to strongly consider my advice. I am sharing two  articles from a website Men's Day Out. This is about a men based abroad who came down to India in order to marry the women of their dreams. Post marriage a major tragedy happened. Please read the content below as I have copied it from the website:

NRI Husband: My Wife, Her Family Travelled Everywhere On My Expenses & Later Filed False 498A On Me

If you are an NRI groom looking for a bride from India, there are certain facts that you must be aware of. It is also advisable to understand the matrimonial laws that exist in India, clubbed with the very challenging legal system that make take decades for a divorce proceeding to end.

In most cases where innocent men, their parents, siblings are trapped, pressure is built on the groom’s family by filing false cases even under the criminal sections of the IPC. Somehow the husband and his parents have to come to the negotiating table, before they are set free. Of course, we are not generalising these instances, however, it is always wise to know what could be in store for you or your son!

His Story (As Shared By Husband)

I am average looking man from southern part of India. I was born in Bengaluru and raised with values of obedience and respect to elders. Though we belonged to middle class life, my parents struggled hard to give me basic necessities such as food, shelter and education. I have two sisters as well.

I toiled all my life  and completed Bachelor of Arts from an esteemed institution. As a student of Sociology, we have always discussed about respecting women and striving to bring equality in the society. After getting a job in 2012, I could not continue my education further due to my financial condition.

I gave my best to the organisation I was working for, and I was also recognised with various awards. Subsequently, after doing considerably well, I was able to get one of my sisters married after availing a loan.

Life moved on and in 2017, I got an opportunity to be transferred abroad. I was elated and doing well for myself, which is when my parents thought it was time to get me married!

They shared my profile on a matrimonial site which was the biggest mistake we ever made! The girl’s side contacted us with their proposal and their family was able to convince my parents for the alliance. I was also excited about knowing my life partner and was looking forward to a new future. All expenses to be divided equally was discussed initially itself.

Our wedding took place in September 2019 and in October, I went back to the country where I used to work before the wedding. My wife and I had decided to relocate permanently and thus I also searched for her job. In the month of December, my wife, along with her parents, visited the country of my residence, where I lived on a sponsorship.

I took them all out for excursions and we had a very good time travelling everywhere. Later, after a month in January 2020, my in-laws returned to India. Since then, my wife’s behaviour completely changed and she started dominating over every micro decision.

She started asking me not to contact my family, block them and also not send any monthly expenses. I used to calm her down somehow and also I always tried to stay composed myself. I would take her out and spend time with her, however, she would pick up petty fights and demand that I take her back to India.

In February, we returned to India and she walked away to her parent’s home straight from the airport. I asked her to come with me, however, she stopped all contact. She also received calls from her HR department where she had taken up a job in the country of our matrimonial residence, however, she refused to return. This arrangement continued till July and later we learnt she was expecting our baby. Now, she had an excuse that she could not fly back and remained at her home, where later she had a miscarriage.

I tried every possible way to approach her and asked her to return to live with me, because I truly loved her very much. Less I knew that she was not interested in continuing further and had filed fake cases on me under Section 498A and others, even after I took care of her parents during COVID. Her family has alleged that I  demanded a car, jewelry, etc. from them.

All My Dreams Have Shattered

Till today, I had entered the Police station only during my passport application process. I have never demanded anything from her or her family, but now I realise that the laws in India only favour one side — just on mere allegations from the woman’s side — no evidence asked whatsoever.

I really don’t know what the future holds for me, but I believe in God that He shall favour the righteous and help those who speak the truth.

I am certain I shall come out clean because I have not done anything wrong. However, the time that I am currently facing due to false accusations and cases, is affecting my health and mental peace, and also the same has taken a toll on the happiness of my old parents. Even after filing false domestic violence charges on me, my wife and her family seem to be unaffected and are enjoying their life.

My question to all who are reading this is Where is Equality? Why do we have such one-sided laws against Men/Husbands? Are Men not equal citizens of our great country, don’t we pay our taxes on time? Why are we made to suffer like this in the name of women empowerment?

You won’t realise the trauma unless you or your family goes through it.

NRI USA: “My Wife Filed False 498A Within 8-Months Marriage; Now Demanding Rs 2.5 Crore To Withdraw All Cases”

I am a commoner who had dreams of a perfect marriage and loved my wife with all my heart and soul. My idea of marriage being a bliss to a journey of harassment and a nightmare is worth a share. I am writing this with a lot of pain, as sharing my personal life is not who I am. But, if my story can alert the rest of you, why not?

I have a deep respect for all, be it women or men, and hence treated my better half equally. But did I do anything wrong being kind? I married my wife with the idea of giving her a beautiful life and fulfilling all her dreams, in fact, I considered her as my dream and was thoughtful about every occasion from the day of our marriage to honeymoon.

I never realised her wishes were demands. I happily gifted her first diamond ring and also paid for our wedding, little did I know that my wife was faking her feelings and scamming me to a marriage which is going to be her source of lifetime income. Today I have been accused of Section 498A (Dowry Law) in the name of women empowerment. Don’t get me wrong but this isn’t feminism nor women empowerment.

It took a lot of effort and hard work to achieve my career goals, and I moved to the United States Of America with my wife from India hoping to give her a better lifestyle and dreaming that she will be my emotional support to do so.

I was stunned by her change of behavior and disrespectful attitude after we moved to the states. Constant fights and abuse became a routine. I was shattered and felt hopeless with her quick change of personality. Let me tell you she is the same woman who enjoyed the benefits of a one-month Euro Trip as a honeymoon getaway. I have never questioned her needs and been a good husband providing her with all that she asks. I got lied and betrayed and stolen in the name of marriage for 5 long years. The irony is, after providing everything she asked for, I am fighting a dowry charge against me, which is character assassination and a black mark in my life for loving and marrying a con artist like my wife ….

I saw her love and interest (which was fake) fading away in just 8 months of our marriage. As soon as she realized that the only way to get money was by filing a divorce, she ruthlessly filed a false dowry harassment case against me in Indian court to extort a huge amount of alimony settlement.

MY STORY

I met my wife through a matrimonial site jeevansathi.com in the year 2014. We went on a couple of dates, and on 05-17-2014 we registered our marriage in Bangalore, India. She expressed her interest in a fine cut VVS1 category 1-carat diamond ring and one month Euro Trip as her marriage gift.

I happily fulfilled both her demands as a new beginning of my life with my wife. All I had for her was unconditional Love. She was gifted (180 gm) of our ancestral gold jewelry as our marriage gift by my mother. After our marriage, I took her for a Euro Trip for almost a month as promised, and then we moved to the USA. I spoilt her with holidays in New York, California, Las Vegas, Miami.…….

After 6 months of marriage, she duped me an amount of Rs 19 lakh in the name of medical expenses for her parents, I discovered this was a lie and alerted myself and stopped saying yes for unnecessary financial demands. However, I still provided her a home to live and loved her. I might have let it go if she had changed her behaviour. Well, I wasn’t lucky enough for that kind of peace from her.

When I questioned her illegal and unfair demands, she immediately decided to separate from me. It took just 8 months to break our marriage, and she filed divorce seeking Rs 2.5 crores as alimony.

The USA court denied the alimony as the marriage was just less than a year old and we did not have any child.…..JUSTICE WAS DELIVERED IN USA

She then flew back to India and immediately filed false dowry FIR against me and my aged parents who never lived with her. Soon after which an arrest warrant got issued against all accused in her FIR.

My entire family went through harassment and anxiety during this process. She didn’t leave any means to achieve her filthy desire, she got to a level of publishing our personal affair in the local newspaper which traumatised my aged parents and harmed my sibling’s social life status. It’s not over here folks!

Huh, she had the audacity to reach my employer in the USA through email and phone and sent numerous emails to my CEO, Vice President, Director, manager, and various co-workers portraying me as an absconding criminal and demanded my termination multiple times.

Her insanity level reached twitter, where she illegally posted very sensitive private information such as my Indian passport, My Driving License, My social Security number here in the US which hampered my security. She also tagged my employer and higher authorities from India and the US with the intention of extorting money. She strongly believed that I would reach my saturation and pay her which did not happen as I believed in getting justice.

I had to travel to India multiple times in a year to face the legal formalities and defend myself in court.

She demands a one-time settlement in crores, to take back the false cases, and settle everything outside court. The entire journey made me realize her marriage was a planned divorce to seek money and abandon me in 8 months of marriage. Wow, that is a good idea for lifetime alimony.

Throughout my situation, I have always respected the law and paid her a huge amount of monthly maintenance. She lied to the Indian judicial system and to me about her employment and claims to be unemployed. However, it did not take me a long time to find our her employment status.

I still wanted to settle it and paid more than 30 lakh for her maintenance to date. I need justice and I have decided to STOP paying her due to her discourteous behavior and constant extortion of money which has led me to financial difficulties. She has not left any means to destroy me, and my family, our dignity, and my career.

After I stopped my payments due to financial hardships caused by her, she immediately gets a levy warrant issued from the court against me for non-payment of maintenance amount and misused the arrest warrant by sending it to across to my workplace, social media claiming that I am a criminal.

Recently she tried to impound my passport and cancel my visa due to non-payment. She is well aware that I have no other source of income to survive or to pay her. Her psychotic behavior is a threat to our nation and everybody surrounding her.

Let me share the creepy side of my wife . She has forged my signature with RTI(Right to Information) using my ID (passport, Driving license photocopy which she had in her possession ), and gets my current records, which she misuses. If divorce is her aim, wouldn’t she fight the case and respect the law as I do? She is well aware of the fact that she will lose in the court and will not end up getting her alimony, due to which she is ruthless and strong-willed to destroy my future.

She got me terminated from my job in the year 2018 by providing false information to the United States Embassy stating my Indian passport was lost, and they are supposed to cancel my visa for security reasons.

I got stuck in India during the incident. She was well aware of the situation as I was attending court to settle our divorce. Her actions made me more stubborn to seek justice and not to pay her as she has received more than what she deserves emotionally and financially. I have gone through anxiety and mental stress costing me my job and career, and it doesn’t make sense to me to pay her more.

My wife has proved to be a sociopath, who desires my death naturally by stress or suicide. I belong to a middle-class family, and I have worked hard to reach this point in my life. I am the only source of income for my parents. Today I question her mental stability, her morals, and her greed for money as she is not willing to move on when I agreed for a settlement. It’s not a Man’s mistake in every scenario.” women can be wrong!”

In the last 5 years, I have traveled to India for about 20 times in order to attend court and has cost me a fortune.

• The court cases in India against women are not a cakewalk, which makes me write my story to give a heads-up to men like me and to women who believe in equality.
• My Wife has been successful in finding a lawyer who matches her insanity. I mean, if we had lawyers fighting for Nirbhaya rapists, this shouldn’t be surprising for you all. They are pioneers in delaying my court dates and hamper my work in The US. Traveling to India often with a full-time responsible role is not an easy task.
• Instances like seeking Medical Emergency during my witness date and avoiding my witnesses leading to delay in my case and many more stressful events were planned by her attorney .
• I requested video conferencing, but the court has denied me due to an objection from my opposite counsel making it impossible for me to survive during pandemic with all the travel restrictions across the globe.
• All the ‘fake’ cases are registered in my wife home town Bhilai, which is an unknown city to me, and they have the advantage of being localities and influence the proceedings including my lawyer due to which I have changed multiple lawyers and ended up spending a lot of money.
• I have been given short notices due to which I failed to appear in court. Traveling when I have a job in a foreign country is not an easy task. They utilised this situation and raised strong objections, pleading the court to pass the ex-party order and warrants. Yet again, I ended up paying extra money.
• It does not stop here. I have received life threats and I feel unsafe to travel to her hometown to attend court cases.

I HAVE NEVER MET SUCH A MINACIOUS WOMEN, I Affirm!

She uses her Twitter account to claim I am a criminal. It is an offense to do so because it’s up to the court to decide and I am confident to win this case.

The Entire journey has cost me my dignity. I have lost my savings, fighting for justice. Why is the Indian Judicial system biased towards women? Who gives authority to any person to be abusive and disclose personal information on social media?

I have lost my peace, serenity, and belief in love due to my marriage with my wife. It’s funny that in the Indian Court of Law if a male is accused, he is presumed to be guilty until he proves himself innocent. However, my question to the system is what is the charge if you file a false complaint and ruin someone’s life and slander social status? AND THE ANSWER IS my wife will be fined Rs 500 (less than 10$) for filing false cases. That’s all!

The Indian Judicial system is not performing the ground research on people like my wife who is a BTech from Bhilai Institute of technology and MBA from Symbiosis International University under a quota system and worked as a manager in companies like IBM, WIPRO, DELL in India and abroad. And now she claims to be unemployed and has no source of income other than her husband due to which she gains monthly maintenance as per my US salary in dollars.

This matrimonial case is the biggest battle for me, but I still believe in our legal system and I have complete faith that Justice will be served.

I will be going through the process of harassment until I prove myself in the court, and my wife is enjoying her job and income with no guilt. I have no source to know her relationship status. A con artist like her can never be single, so I just want to connect to all her friends and people who know her and let the world know that I am her current husband.

And any information about my wife is highly appreciable. This will help me to get justice and save other individuals from her vicious traps.

Thank You for reading my story!

I hope you have read both the articles above and still if you have not understood the gravity of the situation , believe me you are a fool. But for those who are wise and sane, I hope you have got the message. Truth be told that modern marriages have become a scam or a favored route to loot the NRI's and rich people. If you are based abroad then please work on strengthening your roots out there. Make some good friends and understand people who come from different countries. All immigrants carry a common ambition of working and hard and making it big. 

My advice to all eligible Indian men based abroad is that they should meet and date non-Indian women or Indian women who belong to the second or third generation immigrants. Believe me these women are more rational, understanding and accommodating than the ones you are planning to bring from India after marriage.

Stop worrying about the purity of cultures and genes that you want your children to have. What matters is that you find a spouse who will understand and support you after marriage not to mention that she will contribute financially and help you in household activities. Western women or immigrant women are rational and hard working, they know that life is not cake walk and one must strive hard in order to survive. Additionally they come with diverse skill sets like driving, grocery shopping, paying bills, cooking, housekeeping and laundry.I agree that Western countries have its own share of irresponsible entitled princesses but I am not including them here. I am talking about rational women who have a sense of responsibility.

The problem with many Indian men is that they still believe in this so called pure traditional Indian women who is loving and caring, believe me it is just a myth. Across India , even in small cities and towns, debauchery, degeneracy and decadence has become pervasive. Stop becoming that Beta Simp who is there just to fulfill the expectations of the entitled middle class princesses.You did not work so hard to take care of free-mongers. 

I hope have got my message loud and clear.

Bhaveen Sheth

The Single Indian Man.