For some time I was itching to write something on the 30 plus single, boring,sad and depressed Indian men. It is very much required as this category of men rising day by day. Over the coming years the category of such men is going to grow exponentially. As an Indian MGTOW I feel it is important to highlight them, mind you they are not like us MGTOW's. We MGTOWS have accepted and embraced our solo status whole hardheartedly and living our lives fully. No my friends these men are not MGTOW's. They belong to a different category and maybe just maybe because of them we MGTOW's also end up receiving the wrath and criticism of the Indian society.
These men are easy to identify. They come from different backgrounds and belong to different age groups (30, 40 and even 50). They are never married, divorced or separated. All have a common background: they were betrayed by women. Yup!! They were cheated on, they were abandoned and forsaken for some other good guy who was providing better prospects, they were hamstrung by their own wives, their marriages ended up in bitter divorces wherein a huge money was paid in settlement and still being paid in alimony, a family reputation that got tarnished due to divorce and the aftermath of dealing with loneliness after separation. We Indians emotionally invest a lot on relationships that too with the opposite gender. The after effects of a breakup are always catastrophic.
When Beta Men become Bitter
Somewhere I have read a statement that goes by "When you love someone more that yourself and change yourself to live up to the expectations of your loved one and if he/she left you or broke up with you then you will end up hating yourself more that you hate the person who broke up with you"
India is a nation dominated by beta male simps. They will do anything to please a woman not knowing that they are just being used. For years these men,influenced by Bollywood rom-com crap live in an illusion expecting their dream girls. Separated from reality and intoxicated by fantasy, these men are bound to make mistakes when it comes to the choice of their romantic partner or even life partner. When choices are made purely on looks, beauty and skin colour, disasters are bound to happen. And this is where such Indian men get heart broken. Their long time girls friend leave them, their wives leave them. No one knows why? Just guess that some relationships don't work out.
Then there is another category of the so called left over Indian men who did not get married. In my previous posts I have written about them, you may kindly refer to the same. In our country the left over men never have given up hopes on getting married. They and their parents live in a Utopian world wherein they feel that they deserve the best woman. Repeated rejections on the matrimonial front make these men toxic, they end up having low self esteem and low self confidence.
Their Reality
Most of these men appear to be a depressed lot, the kind of people who have forgotten to smile, to laugh and live life. They have lost their sense of humour. They have stopped taking care of themselves.Their appearances reveal a lot about their personality. Sagging bodies, gynaecomastia, bulging tummy, unkempt hair, no shaving for 2-3 days, poor dressing sense, broken teeth, hairs coming out of their ears, bushy eyebrows, poor body odour, poor food habits, excess of smoking and alcohol.
If appearances don't put you off then a minor 5 minute conversation is bound to give you a headache. I have interacted with few of them and believe me it is a head ache. These men are clinically depressed and urgently need the help of a psychologist. They just don't have anything interesting to talk about. They have grievances and complaints for not getting married, for being divorced or separated. Some of these men have never grown up to be mature and handle responsibilities,they have poor soft skills, they can't manage relationships well with people, some of them are introverts while others find it difficult to interact with people.
Adding to the above points, these men lack maturity, they have not grown up. They are still the mamma's boys or they are still carrying the syndrome of a Man Child. They live with their parents wherein they are treated like small children, they can't live independently, they have never traveled solo and most important they lack life skills. Now please tell me, in today's time which woman would want to associate with such men. Forget marriage, these men can't even have temporary relationships.They are still living with a dream that one day a beautiful woman will come in their lives and play the role of a dutiful wife. Dream on dude, it ain't happening any soon.
I have often found these men to be clingy, they just want someone to talk to, I mean just anyone. You will often find them having long chats with auto or rickshaw drivers, with tea vendors and even their office boys at their workplace. Their delusions make them act in a stupid manner. Whenever they see a good looking presentable girl, they get desperate in trying to meet her. This can happen anywhere: At office, social function, apartment. There are instances wherein numerous young woman joining the workforce have to deal with such men, they don't have a choice as some of these men happen to be their seniors. These men often find a small excuse to have a small chat with young girls. Mind you this is not harassment, this is a sign of a very lonely man looking to have conversation with the opposite gender. In their own fantasies these men end up making a huge mistake. They start imagining these young girls as their own girlfriends. Sometimes they even propose them which often ends up in rejections and makes them more depressed. These men and their parents are on a constant look out for a woman for marriage. Weekends and public holidays go in matrimonial meetups often ending into rejections or no answers from the other side.
Most of these men spend a lot of time at their workplace. Guess they have nothing meaningful to do at home. At home they watch TV shows, read newspapers and take solo walks around their apartment complex, no family interacts with them as they appear weird. Cigarettes and Alcohol become their companions. Some even become addicted to porn movies which proves to be detrimental. Sundays and Public Holidays are nothing but misery for them, They just don't know how to kill time. Scrolling through Facebook and Instagram makes them depressed. All their friends and close relatives are married and have children and they are still not married. Some of these men even get enraged when they see a newly married couple. Overall these men have nothing to look forward to or live for.
Now you may that I am writing this as a figment of my own imagination but it is not. The number of such men are rising and one will encounter them everywhere. Blame it on our skewed gender ratio or women's empowerment, more and more Indian men are getting rejected and not getting married. Of course there are multiple reasons but if you are a boring man child , believe me, no one will marry you. After crossing 30 change is not easy.
If any of you men are reading this and belong to this category, I sincerely request you to go change yourself. Because of men like you we MGTOW's are equated in your category. I don't have any suggestions for you but go and change yourself and get a life. Stop living like a loser. Get a life, change your mindset, travel, explore, meet new people, have more hobbies. Stop making woman and marriage as an integral part of your life. You can live happily even without marriage.
GO GET A LIFE!!!!!
Bhaveen Sheth
INDIAN MGTOW
