Can we please normalize 35 plus year old single Indian men seeking companionship:Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Time and again I come across articles written by feminist Indian authors glorying the fact that 30 plus year old Indian women should openly seek companionship with men without getting married.

Okay! Well Didi, I am okay with your thoughts but why is there a problem if a 35 plus year old single Indian man seeks companionship? Aren't men human being who also need to connect with other humans?

It seems that in India for men everything is restricted. I mean just look at the normal life of most Indian men; they are forced to study and excel at school, get good grades, entrance examinations, good college, bachelors and masters degree, job, CTC, buy a car, buy a house and what not. When was there a time time for them to engage is some activities of companionship. Other than a few men who get lucky , most of the Indian men have to go through the same old drudgery, fulfilling the expectations of parents, family and society.

There is a gradual rise in the population of single Indian men over the last decade. Men are finding it difficult to get married,others are divorced and separated and some wise men have decided to take up a MGTOW lifestyle. This is okay. The problem happens when these men after crossing 35  seek companionship from the opposite gender. Our society has a problem in labeling 35 year plus single Indian men to be perverts for reasons that are beyond my understanding. For the larger society single Indian men after a certain age should  not be looking for companionship, they should either get married or take up a celibate lifestyle.

We all know that marriage is a complicated business. People don't even know if marriages will work out. After a certain age it is not easy to make changes and do adjustments. I am all in agreement with this. But should people give up on seeking companionship from the opposite gender? 

To put my point clearly, I would to state that majority of the Indian men are law abiding citizens. They know that the police and judicial system is strongly biased against them. They would not do anything that will get them into trouble. So for all those who think that single Indian men are perverts, please dream on. 

In India, it seems that for men , marriage comes with an expiry date. This is what the larger society thinks. Fair enough!! But does that mean that men should stop seeking company of the opposite gender? Why is asking a woman (of their age category) out on a date such a big taboo for mature Indian men? Is this privilege restricted to youngsters only?

Having spoken to many single and divorced men, there is one common thing that they have mentioned, either marriage or nothing. This is what their families and relatives tell them. There are men who got friendly with women and brought them to their apartment only to face the wrath of the other apartment members the very next day. These acche ghar ke pariwar people can't tolerate  a single man bringing a woman to his house even though he owns the flat. After all our double standard society is all about parampara, sanskaar and prathistha. The most vitriolic of these protesters are the 55 plus year old Chachas who have been carried away by recent religious polarization in our country and have becomes the gatekeepers of morality. There are also single men who are having companionship of young girls. Guess it is the new age economy where the women exchange company for lunches at fancy restaurants, movies in mutiplex and trips to nearby locations. There are also men who go and visit massage parlors for some company. We all know what happens in those massage parlors but then it is his life , why bother?

The draconian laws related to marriage and extremely high expectations of women and their families when it comes to marriage has made many men realize that marriage is not easy. Those who have gone through a bitter divorce having contested it in the court  don't want to ever get married again. Why then is our society forcing men to get married? And why shouldn't men seek companionship? Is there a law that stops men from doing it? In the constitution of India, each and every citizen is given the life to liberty and live his/her life as he/she wants so long as the law is not being broken. Then why is  that we the collective society shame a single man in the company of a woman. Why are people taking up the role of a moral policeman.

Companionship does not mean marriage. If that were the case why are so many marriages filled with people who hate each other and are yet married? For the Indian society marriage is the end of all things. It is time for men to explore relationships without getting married. There is nothing wrong in having a short term relationship, if things don't work out , you can part ways. There is no point of getting married after 35 especially for men (planning to write an article on this). I have come across plenty of embittered men in their 40s and 50s. They only dreamt of getting married, they fantasized of that wonderful woman coming their lives and bringing happiness. Unfortunately nothing happened. Life is not that hindi television serial or bollywood movie that showcases the picture perfect life. 

To all single Indian men, your time is now and you need to live your life. Don't carry regrets and disappointments to your grave. There is no shame is seeking companionship of a woman. Don't bother about what the society and family will say. This is your life , go and live it.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

The COVID WIDOW scam on the online Matrimonial Sites: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

The COVID pandemic will be seen as one of the greatest tragedies of the 21st Century. Two years on and India is still reeling from the after effects of this pandemic. Our economy is in shambles, business is bad, Inflation is all time high, jobs are not easy to come by and things are getting difficult day by day.

Still we the people of India will go on doing what we were doing best, Marriage. Even during this Covid Pandemic, people did not stop from getting married.

With all kinds of scams that emerged during the pandemic, a new one is gradually being observed. i.e the case of fake widows on the online matrimonial sites.

The pandemic has become an excuse for many divorced, separated women and single mothers to claim themselves to be widows and marry a naive person. I spoke to two men who  got trapped in this kind of marriage. The first one was looking for an understanding life partner, he was clear that he would not marry a divorcee considering how today's women are using the gender biased laws against their in-laws and husbands. He came across a profile stating that the woman was a widow having lost her husband in the pandemic. Interest was expressed, numbers were exchanged and conversations took place. This man even visited the woman's city and spoke to her at a coffee shop and later took her for dinner at a restaurant. He was convinced that finally he had found his life partner and wanted to marry her. He went back, spoke to his parents, while the parents initially expressed skepticism, later they agreed for the marriage. The marriage took place, everything went well. A month later a major catastrophe struck, he came across his wive's documents where it was stated that she was a divorcee and later he also came across a divorcee decree wherein his wife had claimed alimony and had filled 498a and DV against her husband. While his wife was divorced, she had got a huge alimony as a settlement. This man was devastated and went into depression.He confronted his wife only to see a different side of the woman he had truly loved. She laughed at him and threatened him that were he to leave her or tell this to anyone, she would file false cases against the husband and his parents. The man backed off and accepted his fate. He feels to have been badly cheated.

The second case is just like the one above, the only difference is that the man was a never married bachelor in his mid 40s looking for a life partner. He too got conned by this so called single mother widow who again had lost her husband in the pandemic and was looking for a supportive life partner. In reality this woman was divorced, her husband was very much alive and she was shamelessly claiming child support. Her first husband was not even aware that she was got married for the second time.

In both these cases the husbands were alive. With rising awareness among the Indian men and their families, never married men are refraining from getting married to divorcees considering the fact  many women have used the legal system to their advantage. No decent man or his family wants to be accused of false dowry cases, domestic violence and be arrested. Hence the hesitancy. People will always prefer a widow.

So some cunning, calculating women and their parents convincingly take up the widow status and the Covid pandemic is a wonderful excuse as it claimed the lives of both old and young ones. And here you have a bechari young widow who lost her husband, you have an abhla single mother widow who is looking for a supportive husband who will also accept her child.

My dear single Indian men, please beware of this scam. Don't be desperate to get married. It is better to be single than be sorry. If you come across such profiles where interests are expressed, please do your background verification. Hire a private detective, scout her history, as for the death certificate of her husband, verify it with the mortuary, ask for her past family photographs, ask for the husbands medical records, the respective state governments are also giving some kind of covid benefits to the families of the deceased, please ask for this kind of certificate. all hospitals are issuing it.

Do a thorough investigation, today narratives can easily be changed and a calculating thug can easily play the role of the victim. Understand that you should not be conned. Both of these men fell into the trap because they were lured by the beauty of the women.

I have my sympathy for all those women who genuinely lost their husbands during the pandemic, in many cases the husbands were the sole earners/bread winners and now the responsibility of taking care of the family has fallen upon the widowed wives. May god give all these women the strength and courage to carry on with this challenging journey ahead.

What I dislike is how the widow status is being misused in order to trap naive innocent men into marriage. This brings a bad name to the women who have actually been widowed. Even they would want to find a decent life partner and give their life a new start, unfortunately with all these kinds of scams they too have come under scrutiny.

At the end of this post I want to clearly warn all the single Indian men; please be careful, keep an open mind, just because you hear someones sad plight does not mean you have to take it on face value. Never take a major life changing decision in desperation, always give it time. Be aware, be careful and be safe.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW.

Beware of the online Sextortion scams: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

With the proliferation of affordable internet services across India, new scammers have emerged. While most of us have heard and read about the online bankig fraud scams, credit card scams, loans scams and online product delivery scam, in the shadows there is a new scam lurking , known as sex scams. This post is on this topic and I write how these scammers forcing men to pay up.

Today many men are lonely, be it married or unmarried. They are desperately looking for companionship. The age group can range from 18 to 60 and above. Some men are single due to family problems some are divorced, some are separated, some are single parents etc etc. All lonely are people vying for female companionship.

Now here is the modus operandi of these scammer. The group consists of 3 to 4 people where one member is a female. She is young, good looking and charming. She is one of those so called social media influencers you find these days on facebook or instagram. Along with her, there are men who exhibit criminal traits and have a greed for money in order to live a luxurious life without putting in any efforts.

This con gang goes across hunting for their targets. Within this gang there is a computer wiz who is an expert with social media platforms and tools. They identify their targets online. Sometimes their victims are even known to them as they stay in the same locality or they know them through an acquaintance. A request is sent to them generally through facebook or instagram. The profile of the girl is enticing. Once the friend request is accepted, the female starts chatting with the man, at first it is a general talk, later it becomes more friendly and after that it goes to the next level. Video calls start and the lady tries to get intimate with the man online, she asks him to remove his clothes while she also does the same. A lot takes place during these online video calls. The man is oblivious of the fact that these entire video call is being recorded by the girl and members of the gang.

A few days after the conversation, the message is sent to the man along with the video. The threatening message is sent stating that either you pay up a huge amount of money or the video will be sent to all your friends and relatives in your social media groups. The cyber expert form the group would have already archived and stored  all the contacts existing within the profile of the victim.

In order to save  face and reputation, majority of the men pay up. They don't seek police intervention as they feel ashamed. Thousands of men have been duped this way and they could do nothing.

For all those single Indian men and MGTOW's, please take my warning carefully. DO NOT and I say DO NOT under any circumstances accept the friend request of woman who is unknown to you, no matter hoe beautiful and good looking she may be. Avoid them. Do not share your mobile number of personal details with unknown women. You don't know the femme fatale on the other side of the screen. I understand that loneliness can take a toll but don't allows fraudsters to take away your hard earned money.

BHAVEEN SHETH

INDIAN MGTOW

The MGTOW Life- Of not having roots and deep connections-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Over the years having lived the MGTOW lifestyle, I have acknowledged and accepted a few realities. The most important of not having roots and deep connection. Veteran MGTOWs can acknowledge the fact that over the years it is not possible for establish roots and deep connection with a place or society.

Work has taken us away to new places, sometimes in India or abroad. We have lost connections with our relatives over the course of time. Being single also means that you don't get invited to the functions organized in the society. We can have some close friends with whom we share our thoughts, feelings and opinions.

We have placed ourselves in metro cities that are totally new to us. We navigate through the Urban Jungle and a competitive and stress filled corporate environment. Leaving everything behind we came here to make a life, we struggled hard, went through difficulties, coped with loneliness and finally made a mark for ourselves and still we find that void somewhere in our heart. Over the years we have seen others establish roots and forge deep connections with the city and society through marriages, starting a family and having kids. These people have become part of the larger society. We are happy and appreciate their achievements.

Yet we as MGTOWs after having spent years in a city we are still strangers to it. We may have some known hangouts that we frequently visit or acquaint with some people with whom we regularly interact, that is our only interaction that we have. At work our relationships are mostly professional hardly culminating into a personal bond.

Rootless that we are and travelers that we will remain. This is the life that we have chose and we should not have any regrets for the same.

BHAVEEN SHETH

INDIAN MGTOW 

Speaking on Indian Mens' rights and promoting a MGTOW lifestyle does not make me Misogynist: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

There have been many times when my blog, my write-ups have been criticized and labelled as patriarchal and misogynist. I have often been called an Incel, frustrated right wing Sanghi who writes articles against women. In times of woke feminism and liberalism  it is quite easy to silence voices that are representing the other side of the story.

Firstly I want to clarify that I am not against the female gender. I have many good female friends and work colleagues and totally respect the contribution of women in our homes, workforce and society. What I am against is the gender biased laws, woke feminists and feminazis who wrongly use these laws against men and the constant defamation of Indian men in the media and social media platform.

Speaking for the rights of Indian men and their condition is not a crime. I am exercising  my right of freedom of speech. In India you have the Legislature, the Executive and the Judiciary, the three pillars of democracy. But just look at the irony of our country. The legislature drafts rules which are against men, the judiciary passes judgements against men while the executive implements the laws that are against the interests of Indian men. Just look at the recent court judgements admonishing and taunting Indian men, just look how police treats Indian men when cases related to marital problems are filed against them. Look at our respective state governments giving handouts freebies to women but offer nothing to men.

The fourth estate known as the Media which should ideally be unbiased and honest in reporting the ground reality prints and publishes everything against men. The problem is that our media is filled with leftist liberals who want to run an agenda of defaming Indian men by portraying them are rapists, pedophiles, violent and abusive wife beating husbands and god knows what.

It is the fifth estate known as the social media that gives us Men the opportunity to share our experiences and our side of the story. When I write I speak on the pathetic condition of Indian men in this country and the treatment meted out to them by the courts, law enforcement agencies and the society. India's woke feminism culture has created major problems for Indian men.

In our country the condition of an Indian man is that of a third class citizen. Even street mongrels and stray cows are given better treatment than us.

When I write, I write on the current gender biased laws prevailing in our judicial systems and how they have destroyed the lives of  hundreds and thousands of Indian men. Indian men since birth are expected to be RAM-SHRAVAN and play the role of provider and protector. An Indian man is judged by the job he holds and the salary he earns. He is expected to get married, bring a wife and raise kids. For the next thirty years of his life, he has to provide for his family and bear all the expenses. He is forced to take loans and be under debt for years to come.

MGTOW lifestyle is a major life saver for rational Indian men. It gives men an alternative path to move away from the society and live your life on your own terms and not as per the expectations of the Indian society. No more marriage, no more a family and no children. You are away from the shackles of the society. You are free, free from the burden of expectations and pressures put by other people.

At 39, I am living that MGTOW lifestyle. Initially circumstances forced to me to take up the single life and later I happily embraced the MGTOW lifestyle. Today I am an keen observer of the happenings in and around the Indian society. My experiences have shaped me. Today I write to create awareness for young Indian men, I write from my own experiences of living the MGTOW lifestyle. 

This is what I wanted to clarify. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

India's doormat husbands-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

We all have heard about doormat boyfriends.As matured men now in our 30s and 40s we would have observed during our college days how some boys would go around doing simping for the girls they liked. They would take them on dates, movies, recharge their mobile phones, xerox their notes and do all other sundry jobs that the girls wanted. But these men remained friends only friends, nothing happened beyond that. Majority of these men felt used after some point of time. They were nothing other than doormat boyfriends aka beta simps.

Some years later this trend is repeated again.Many of these men are now accomplished on their professional front and it is time for them to get married.As usual the search for a suitable bride starts and the search is narrowed down to that one special person who is fair and good looking.Marriage is solemnized and a new chapter begins.

A few years later this man has  become a classical case of a doormat husband.He is nothing more than a 24/7 ATM, protector and provider. He is supposed to take care of his wife and kids, pay all the bills and facilitate a luxurious lifestyle for the wife and kids, pay the EMI's, car loans, home loans and school fees, sponsor the annual vacations and also take care of all the in-laws.

Now what does this man get in return. Nothing!!! Other than those lovely initial months of intimacy after marriage there is nothing. Some men are now denied intimacy. The wife has now gone to the gym and become a yummy mummy. As she is getting a lot of attention from other men she now now no longer values her husband, some of them are even having affairs with other men while having their luxurious lifestyle being taken care of by the husband. Just like how they boyfriend used to do all the sundry jobs for his crush now it is the husband sponsoring the luxurious lifestyle of his wife but does not get anything in return. He has no value, no respect and no honour. This is a reality that our society does not discuss but its exists. The problem is such husbands do not want to accept that they are doormat husbands.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

Happy New Year 2022-From the Indian MGTOW's Desk

I would like to wish a very happy new year for all my fellow single Indian men and fellow MGTOW's. I hope you all would have enjoyed and celebrated the 31st night. The year 2021 went so fast. What started as a new beginning of supposedly having won over COVID gradually became a major disaster. The months between April to July were worse. The incompetence and failure of the government was clearly visible. So many people lost their loved ones. The sad part is that the events of this year left so many COVID orphans who are left to their own fate. Once again businesses have suffered and men have lost their jobs.

In the current times staying single and living a MGTOW lifestyle is the best option. Even if you face financial problems, it is only you who will bear the consequences and not your family members. Imagine the guilt of not being able to pay EMI's, children's school fees and meeting your household expenses. In an article written by Mr.Rahul Pandita, an eminent journalist, he shared his own personal experience;he had visited a grocery shop and a decent well educated man met him. This man asked Rahul Pandita if he could buy some essential groceries for this man as he had lost his job, spent all savings and had no money to buy food for his family, this man had a 1 year child and was desperate to get some food for his child. Mr.Rahul offered some money but this man only asked Rahul to buy him essential groceries. I guess his self respect did not make him take money from another person.

Imagine if any one of us were in this situation. How humiliating is it to beg in front of someone for basic essentials for your family. I guess I too cannot do such a thing. I would rather starve than beg.

As stated in my previous posts, don't change your mind due to this pandemic situation. I know that these are difficult times, our loved ones are dying and there is a need for companionship. But I want to clearly warn you, please don't get married. Marriages done due to desperation often lead to disaster.

This year please focus on improving yourself, go to the gym, exercise, run, lift weights, go for a swim. Focus on health and wellness. Mental and emotional health is equally important. Take up yoga and meditation. Read spiritual books and visit temples on a regular basis. Travel as much as you can in India, explore new places.On you tube there are many food channels that are exploring good eateries in your city. Please visit and eat the food at these places. It is wonderful.

I have already warned you on legal terrorism related to marriage. I also want to warn to on the new and emerging crime that no one is talking: SEXTORTION. We have have already heard about Ms. Ayushi Bhatia, this woman who filled 7 false rape cases against 7 men in the year 2021 itself. I will be writing about her in my coming posts, but please be warned. If you are meeting an unknown woman in a public place who is getting extra friendly with you then it is a red flag. Just avoid such women. Another scam observed is where an unknown woman sends you a friend request on facebook or Instagram, once you accept this request, she will have a video call with you and try to get personal on the call. She will start revealing her physically and while the man may be enjoying, his act is being recorded by the woman. Later this woman will send a threatening message stating that the video will be made viral if the man will not pay up the money demanded by her. There are instances where in the video is shared with the friends and family members of this man on social media.

Our society is headed towards moral decadence. There are no values, no moral and no ethics. I request all my fellow MGTOW brothers to stay out of any trouble.

This year I am also willing to help my fellow MGTOWs especially the young ones who are looking for wise counsel or advice on living a MGTOW/Single Life.My email is is sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com

Once again I wish you all a very happy new year and let us hope that this year brings peace and prosperity to all of us.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW