The SIngle Indian Male and the small town/city mentality

The Small town /city mentality!!!!!What does this mean?????? Err. Simple. Leave behind big metro cities in this country and you are exposed to the small town/city mentality and what would that be my dear sir???? Well, it is the narrow minded thinking of the people of small towns and cities.

We as the single Indian Men may at times have to  relocate to smaller cities or towns in order to find better opportunities, better career prospects, good salary raises, an opportunity to work in area of your interest and many other reasons.

While at work we may be happy and content finding one hundred job satisfaction, on the personal level there is nothing but frustration and dissatisfaction. Reason????? Small town mentality!!!!!!!

This is nothing but the narrow minded thinking of the people and a rigid Indian society that they live in, as a society that never changed with time. And how do we as the Single Indian Men get affected by it????? Oh Man, give me one reason why we don't.

On the Posibilities of taking endless travels across India

My dear single Indian Male Friends,

Greetings for the season!!!!!!

Diwali is over and once again life is on track for all of us. We are back to our jobs and workplaces.(Much to our unhappiness and displeasure)

I hope you all must have done some fun loving things during the festive season other than eating sweets and blowing crackers.

Anyways, today i would like to discuss on the aspect on taking endless travels across India, our country, our nation and our motherland.

Okay!!!!! Now before you raise your objections and say What??? Why??? How Come????? and all that stuff. I would put in some words of wisdom and say why not dude??? Is there some problem????

I can understand that many of you guys would have traveled abroad to western countries and the far east and think that traveling across the Indian  subcontinent is an obsolete idea indeed, but  before you jump to conclusions of your own ,let me assure you that think it all over again.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM- An Open letter to my Readers and crtitics alike.

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male.

I start my blogpost by wishing everyone a very happy diwali and greetings of the season.

Over the past few months my blog posts have been read and  appreciated by some readers while some of them criticized my writings stating that they found it sarcastic, anti-women, patriarchal, sexist and  to an extent t that I, the writer seems to be sexually frustrated,  on a look out for women to sleep with.

First of all i would like to clarify that my blog is intended for the so called species of the single Indian men, something that used to be rare in our Indian Society is now gradually rising in numbers, thankfully more and more men have taken the decision to be single and when i say single Indian men , i refer to the Urban, educated, upwardly mobile, middle and upper middle class men, men who are professionals, well educated and hold respectable jobs. It is certainly not aimed at the average frustrated Indian male who happens to be single because he is an incompetent person, a man who has failed both on the personal and professional fronts, having no other option but to stay single and not to forget men who belong to regions and communities of India where female foeticide and infanticide is a common practice.

My posting  here describes the feelings of the Single Indian men, the advantages of being single, the problems and challenges faced by us in an increasingly intolerant and prejudiced society, on ways to improve the quality of our lives and a lot more.

There are many websites and blogs for the single Indian Women, but there are hardly any for us. If you want to verify , please google blogs on the Single Indian Male, chances are you will find limited sites.I am trying to create a forum where single Indian Males can meet, read, share and discuss on common issues.

And no, this blog was, is and will never be anti-women, patriarchal, misogynist or sexist in nature. It is sad to see that the Digital Indian Media is filled with all kinds of anti Indian man write ups, from being labelled as a rapist to a pedophile, from being called a mama's boy to a pathetic and a worthless husband and what not, but still we the Indian men neither protest nor do we find it inflammatory. But if we write something and something that is really truthful about the Indian Women within the backdrop of the Indian Society,  readers find it offensive. OHHHH C'mon grow up, learn to accept life with a pinch of salt. And please tell me??Are all the women we come across in our society or country SATI SAVITRI'S!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!, i mean really!!!! , is that the real scenario, i completely disagree.

And Sex, what is wrong if some of my write ups are on this Topic.Why is such an important need to tabooed in our society??? Do the Single Indian Women only have the right to discuss this topic on online forums????Is it a copy right of the female fraternity??? If we Indian Men write on our sexual desires on an online forum, we are labelled as perverts, sexual maniacs, frustrated dogs with a raging libido.!!!!!!!! Oh Yaaa!!!! So , my dear Indian Women , with whom are you going to have sex with , some Pakistani or Afghan across the border or some African who is our country on a student visa ( and well drug trade). Grow up, women , grow up. I am not giving advices to anyone on molesting and raping an innocent female. I am just sharing my opinions and thought processes with like minded single Indian Men. And please don't tell me that you don't like sex!!!!!!!!! Stop being a bloody hypocrite!!!!!

My blog wants to bring out some harsh realities about the Indian Society to all my online readers, realities which we have often denied, realities that we  accepted, tolerated and kept quiet, realities that have  ruined the lives if some of us, realities that give us hope in a society filled with gloom and despair.

I will continue to blog and share my thoughts, whether you like it or not, whether you appreciate it or not.

On Buidling that small beautiful world of yours

The Diary of the Single Indian Male would like to discuss on the topic on building a small world of yours, that small beautiful world of  yours filled with peace, joy, love and happiness.

As the wise single Indian male i would like to enumerate a few points below:

DOTSIM-On the need to keep oneself positively engaged

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male.

Positive Engagement, what does that mean, some of the single Indian men must be thinking of getting engaged to someone positively!!!! HAHAHAHHA, no my friends , positive engagement is about keeping oneself engaged in activities which have a positive outcome.

Living alone/single is not easy, that also in the Indian Society,situations at times can drive you mad. Many of us have decent jobs and we may love our work, but there is a life after 5 O clock, there is a life on weekends, there is a life during holidays.

Tips on Watching a Movie in a Multiplex Alone, all by yourself

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male.

Hello Friends,

Wish you all a very Happy Janmashathami!!!!!!!!! (Please Excuse the Spelling)

We all , as the Single Indian Males love to watch movies ( at least 90 percent of the guys reading this post)

And what would it take to watch your favourite movies that have  been released recently in  Multiplexes over the city.

                           

But then there comes a problem, and what would that be?????? Hmmmm, how to watch a movie alone.

After all we live in the Bloody Indian Society , well know for its discrimination towards the Single people.

But don't worry my friends, there is plenty of advice here on how to go about it.

First, just don't worry, pick your wallet, walk in to a multiplex, buy a ticket and watch the show.Initially it may be difficult but then you will get used to it,life is all about experimenting and experiencing.

Please do not depend on someone to accompany you. You are single so learn to enjoy your single life, there is no point in feeling insecure or guilty watching a movie all by yourself in a Multiplex, after all you go to shit in the washroom  alone , you don't take anyone along with you, Do you?????

Avoid the first day first show, that also the nights and the late nights, you will find the multiplex jam packed, the ticket rates raised to a higher level and of course the crowd will consist of the families and the extended families, who will end of talking  non stop throughout the movie, thus murdering your entertainment.Also try to avoid night and late night shows on weekends for the obvious reasons.

The best times to watch a movie in a multiplex for a Single Indian Male is on Weekdays, Morning and afternoon shows and Morning shows on Saturday and Sunday Mornings. Reasons , well , cheaper costs, less crowd, and good entertainment.

Take a half day leave  from your work and watch the movie, get up early on a Sunday and rush to the nearest multiplex to catch up with the Morning show, you will hardly find any families and will be able to watch the movie peacefully.

Eat something before you go to the multiplex, don't spend money on buying the snacks from inside when you know that you can buy the same thing outside at 1/10th the price. Alternatively after watching the movie, go and find some good eatery outside and fill your stomach.

Decide on what kind of movie you want to watch in a Multiplex, don't waste your hard earned money watching gibberish bollywood movies which you can easily download on your system through torrent. Also find out the multiplexes which screen award winning special movies which are often not watched by the general population.

Dress and groom up properly before going to watch a movie, just don't wear anything and end up looking like a slob. After all, the man who goes to watch a movie alone should look impressive. Carry something to pass your time in the waiting lounge while waiting for the movie to start . I mostly carry a book or a magazine. You can also get busy with your cell phone and browse the internet or play a game on your phone. Just be engaged, you should not feel depresses that everyone is a couple or a crowd and you are the only Mr.Single.

Do find the show timings and if you realize that the multiplex is screening two of your favorite movies, you may watch the movies back to back.

So be confident, be happy, take your chance and watch the movie all alone by yourself, because the Single Indian Male in India has every right to live and enjoy his life.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with a lot more

On not becoming the Last unwanted option for an Indian Woman

Dear Single Indian Male Friends,

Hope you guys are doing good. I had a short break from my work in order to relax for some time and recharge my creative mindset. 

I  write a blog post on how one should not become the last remaining option for the Indian Woman.

Most of you guys must be thinking on what i am trying to say.Well!!!! Its pretty simple, majority of you single guys who are reading this post happen to be bachelors, some,  even chronic bachelors. However you may be trying to change your status by getting hitched. Right or Wrong is something for you to accept.

The time tested solution to get hitched in the Indian Society is by asking our parents/ relatives to find someone or then if we happen to work in a modern workplace , i mean real modern workplace where the women come with a modern mindset, then you can expect to find someone there.

But before you start building your castles in dreams, i want to wake you up. PLEASE WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I mean are you someones last option who is being considered for marriage. At your workplace, is that woman who is responding to your overtures just because she has failed to find that special someone or she is considered as unwanted goods (fat, obese, thin, anorexic, toxic, desperate, lacking manners) and now she feels that you are the last remaining option, think twice my friend, maybe your colleagues are sad to see you live a lonely life and are trying to get you hitched to someone they know, and maybe just maybe that someone is the dejected and rejected person and all someone wants you tie her up with you in holy matrimony.

You go home and your parents and family want you to get married to someone they know. Now everyone does not happen to be an an IIT-IIM passout or some Doctor Sahab who gets to choose the best of the girls or maybe that guy is chosen because of his professional and financial credentials, after all no matter how modern and liberated the Indian Women call themselves,  they often settle down for financial stability even if they have to marry a dork.

Now, a lot of us don't belong to the category that i have mentioned above, we are above average and are doing  jobs in good organizations. We earn  good salaries but do we make the sought after grooms????? I really doubt that.

So coming back to the topic, i can imagine that once you go home to visit your folks you are made to meet girls, you know, the types who belong to your caste, community, religion , gotra and sub gotra. You soon realize that you are considered as the last option, some kind of garbage where a desperate demoralized father wants to dump his daughter. This type of girl for some reason is not accepted elsewhere and she happens to get married to you because you are some sort of last resort.

How do you feel?????? That,  from being a desirable person you are taken to be the least desired. Relations made out of compromise and desperation don't last for long, once that honeymoon phase of life is over , real life starts and it is never easy to compromise all your life.

Have i gone through this situation in my life??? Yes, plenty of times, i mean what else can i go though. Though i have good academic credentials and hold a decent job, but i happen to be an Orphan and a homeless destitute, no one to talk/speak on my behalf other than my foster sister who cares for me like her very own child.

But the reality is that I have become the last option for others, i get matrimonial offers often from dejected and the rejected women and more from their desperate parents, siblings who want to get such women married.

And then i say, are we so bad that we have stoop to such low levels???? Have we lost our self respect???? No , my friends , we don't have to compromise. Given the fact that we have our own limitations, but there is no need to compromise. Live single and be happy.

As i have mentioned in the previous blogpost on becoming the desirable Single Male (please read it) , one must work on becoming a better person and find happiness in his solitude.

So my friends, please go out and focus on your life. And don't , please don't become the last unwanted option for the  some dejected and rejected Indian Woman.

CHEERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with a lot more.