The awareness raised by Indian Men's Rights Activist has saved thousands of lives: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

A big shout out to all those Men's Rights Activists across India and abroad who have worked tirelessly on men's issues and highlighted the condition of Indian men. As a single Indian man and now a confirmed bachelor, I would like to thank these men for spreading awareness and highlighting gender biased laws. 

Because of them we the single Indian men had a first hand experience as a spectator to observe, watch and read acrimonious matrimonial disputes, biased judgements against men by our judiciary, abuse by the police, painful separations, parental alienation, suicides of men due to matrimonial problems, reverse dowry. All this clearly depicted that marriage was not certainly not made in heaven.

Two documentaries were made. One was Martyrs of Marriage that came out in 2017 focusing of the gross and rampant misuse of section 498 A Dowry Prohibition act. The second documentary was released in 2022 that showed how a criminal nexus was trapping men and falsely accusing them in rape charges just to extort money or how men were falsely accused when live in relationship went sour. I am sharing the links of these documentaries below so that you can watch them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbUbgr6qD10 

Martyrs of Marriage

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPH6DMCSC6Q

India's sons

There is a lot more content available on you tube. One of the most prominent channel addressing men's issues is a Voice for Men

https://www.youtube.com/@VoiceForMenIndia/videos

The awareness made many single Indian men including myself to reevaluate and introspect the decision to get married. Wisdom dawned upon us and we got into reading books by Rollo Tomasi and becoming red pilled. Many men decided to go solo and live a bachelor's lifestyle. We also realized that marriage was not the answer to your problems, it is okay if you don't have a soul mate and have to battle it all alone in your life. All this happened due to the awareness created by the Men's Rights Activist.

From my heart, a big thank you to all you fellows. You have saved the lives of thousand of young innocent men. Wish you all the best and keep doing the good work.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Nothing is going to change when it comes to our judicial system: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

I have been following the men's rights movement for a decade. There are numerous pages on men's rights, aggrieved husbands and groups on biased matrimonial laws. I also follow different profiles on twitter that share thoughts on men's rights. Then there are prominent men's rights activist who share news related to the pathetic condition of men, be it wrongful accusation of dowry and domestic violence, maintenance and alimony judgements, killing of innocent men and a lot more. Every weekend there are meetings conducted by Men's Rights Activists in all major cities of India to discuss their problems and cases. Rallies are held at Jantar Mantar in Delhi to spread  awareness on the biased laws and how they are destroying the family structure.

All these people have a hope that one day the laws will be amended in favour of men and they will stop suffering. I wish that could happen but reality is far different. Once the laws are passed by our parliament there is no space for them to be revoked. The laws empower our judiciary and police to enforce their own power on the common innocent people. The family and matrimonial laws are a source of bread and butter for the lower rank police officials  (constable, sub-inspector, inspector), judges, lawyers and women's commissions/NGO's. It is also a source of their employment. Police and lawyers love domestic and matrimonial feuds as it is a source of an income. Lawyers make a fool of the clients and prolong the cases in order to earn more money. The Women's commission and NGO's take funding from the government and corporate in the name of helping female victims.

The laws were made to bring justice to women who actually faced violence in their marriages. Unfortunately even today these laws are not of much help to the actual victims, those women who live in small towns and villages face violence daily and yet there is no recourse for them. The laws have been misused wrongly by a section just to settle scores. 

But will anything change? Will the laws be revoked? I don't think so. I am not being a pessimist. Having clearly stated that these laws have given rise to a parallel industry known an Marriage Breakup. I can't speak on its market valuation but I am sure it must be in crores. Everyone earns their share, the police, lawyers, judges, women's commissions/NGO's.

I don't have much hope. Nothing is going to change. Hence it is better to follow your own path and remain single. Accept life as it is and explore new things. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Happy New Year 2023-From the Desk of the Single Indian Man-Bhaveen Sheth

 My dear friends, I hope this post finds you in good health. I would like to wish a very happy new year 2023 to all you guys. I hope you have enjoyed the 31st night.

Finally the pandemic has come to an end. We can look forward for some good times. However the news on the surge in the pandemic coming from China is daunting. Let us pray and hope that India is not affected.

For all the single men life will go as usual. I hope you will continue to remain single and not get hitched. Some of you fellows may find the right life partner and get married. Please go ahead as single life is not for everyone.

Let us see what 2023 brings for us. A major decision related to the right of consent in a marriage will be heard by our supreme court this year. This is one decision that will have a major effect on the marriage system in India. I am not bothered as I am still not married.

Over the course of time I have decided to stop advising young vulnerable gullible single Indian men. Truth be told, they will do what they want and knowingly make their lives difficult.

Across India a new racket of online sextrortion and  false rape cases have sprung up. The targets are young vulnerable single Indian men desperate for companionship. Adding to this we already had gangs running fake marriage scams wherein another section of Indian men desperate for marriage are cheated. In spite of all cautionary tales, men knowingly fall victims.

For those of us who are veterans at being single we know that our journey has to go on. With advancing age we will be facing different challenges of being single. There is a need of creating a group for 35 plus single Indian men where in we can share our problems, challenges and the joys of being single. I myself have crossed 40 but don't feel like the same as there is no one to remind me of my age.

I have started valuing mental peace, it is a prize many don't have. It comes with being single and alone. I just can't handle the drama that comes with marriage. Some of us need to realize that we are not made for marriage and accept the same happily or stoically. 

I have also realized that you just can't expect everyone to give you company. Your siblings have their own families to take care of and the same applies for your male buddies. You must learn to handle loneliness by yourself. 

I also want to counsel all single Indian men to take the habit of reading seriously. With easy availability of books online and tabs/kindle reader, it is one of the most engaging activities to beat loneliness. Read both fiction and non fiction so that you can wide your perspective. Adding to this one already has easy access to OTT streaming apps wherein you get to watch the best of the movies, web series and documentaries.

I don't need to emphasize on physical and mental health. Time and again I keep telling single men to work on the same. This year take up a resolution to do away with bad habits or addictions. This includes avoiding junk food, smoking and alcohol. Keep toxic and negative people away from your life and this includes your relatives who have no other business other than taunting and criticizing you for remaining single. Make good friends, find mentors, take wise counsel and move ahead in life.

For anyone who wishes to contact me personally. Please find my email address below:

sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com

Once again, a happy and prosperous 2023 ahead

Yes Sir, As per your perception I am a failure: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

 There are many Indian men who take a wise decision to not get married and remain single. It is not necessary for them to have had a bitter heart break and be a loser. Just that they have realized that the institution of marriage is not their cup of tea and they don't have what it takes to take the journey of marriage ahead. To each one his own. And yet Single Indian men are looked upon as incomplete or failures. While the media, time and again has reported on the discriminatory treatment meted out to single Indian women by the Indian society, no one mentions a word  on the similar or maybe worse treatment given to single Indian men. In a satirical and self depreciating write up, I want to share how the larger society perceives us single Indian men. In a first person conversation, I am telling my thoughts to a sir and madam and expressing my views.

Dear Sir/Madam,

I don't understand why have your expressed shock and astonishment when I told you that I am single and unmarried. Why? Is it uncommon for you to come across men like us? Or just because your sons and nephews are happily married and well settled, you are expecting every other man do the same. I can understand, when you were young every man was expected to get married and start a family.

Yes Sir/Madam, In you opinion and thoughts I am a failure, complete failure. I am 40, single, unmarried and childless. I have missed out on boat of marriage and have been condemned to live a miserable life all alone. This is what you think. A man without a wife and children is incomplete and useless. A man without a family has no identity. I can understand.

I don't have a house of my own and live in a rented apartment or may I say , a working men's hostel with a room of my own. In your eyes I am still a young man who has not gained maturity.

You may think I am living a wayward irresponsible life, a man who does not have anyone to take care of or who is not answerable to anyone.

You see, I just own a small care and a mid segment 2 wheeler. My car is Tata Nano, highly unimpressive. It is for my convenience, however as you are a status oriented, you do not appreciate my choice of a car.

Even though I am a thorough gentleman and professional in my conduct with people, you have your own doubts over me. You think that I am an immoral, characterless person. Some of the people of your society even think that I am pervert who has a bad eye on women. Why Sir/Madam? Why do you think so? Have you put all single Indian men in once category?

Whenever I speak on the gender biased laws and inequality face by men in our society, you laugh at me? Why? Can't you accept the reality? I guess you never had to face such a situation but many couples of your age have faced false cases at the hand of their daughter in laws or sister in laws. You just don't understand that I have become more aware of these things through reading and following the Men's rights movement.

You have an objection if I enjoy all by myself ? Why? Are all Indian men expected to get into the unspoken system of slavery that comes in the name of family and marriage? Why should each and every Indian man play the role of a provider and protector? Why can't Indian men enjoy their own time of peace and solitude? What is your problem if we go out and dine out alone at restaurants, go to multiplex all by ourselves and explore new places in India and abroad? Don't we have a life and don't we have the right to enjoy?

Why do you have  a problem if we seek companionship of women? Why are you so hurt? Especially you, the man. Are you jealous that we are having a girlfriend? Why do you call us immoral characterless pervert? Are we harassing or molesting the girls and women in the neighborhood? If there a law that prevents 30 plus single Indian man to be in a relationship with  a woman. If a relationship is out of mutual consent, why then are your objecting?  You people especially living in residential housing complexes and  apartments behave like the moral police. You remind me of the Mutawah (moral police) in Saudi Arabia or the Basij Militia in Iran who are officially given the responsibility of upholding the moral values of the society. Close to India, we have the Bajrag Dal that harasses young couples siting in parks and targets them during Valentine's Day. Somehow I feel that you too must have a member of the such moral protection groups during your younger years.

You challenge my manliness as I did not produce any kids. Why man? Are kids a proof of ones manliness? No wonder we have now reached a population of Rs 130 crores as each and every Indian man wants to prove his manliness. In India, men just have kids without giving any thought of whether he is emotionally and financially prepared to take care and raise that child. You see sir, we Indians are not practical people, we are emotional people, driven by a false sense of pride. But then again why do you have a problem if I have no children? I know that behind my back you call me a napunsak nalla (impotent wasted man). I don't give a damn to what you think.

You state that I am living a boring and miserable life just because I have no family. Tell me sir, are the married men living the best years of their lives/ I see most of them concerned about the finances and welfare of their families. Most of them have been trapped into the vicious cycle of care, education and home loans. On the other hand I am free, I am not under any debt. Perhaps you don't understand that there is something known as mental peace and emotional health. We Indians don't care about it as we feel it is a western concept. However most of the married men are currently going through some form of emotional distress as they are burdened by responsibilities. I have none, I am a free man. My mental health is so good. I am not compared or nagged by a wife as I don't have any.

Yes sir/madam. This is what I thought of sharing. I am representing and speaking on behalf of many single men like me who have decided not to get married and remain single. We don't want any kind of help or assistance from anyone. We are happy being on our own. We are the followers of the MGTOW Lifestyle. 

I end my post by stating that birds who are caged for their entire life will always think that flying is a disease. This, sir/madam, applies to you also.

Thank you and have a nice day

Bhaveen Sheth 

Indian MGTOW

A requirement for men's only spaces in India: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW-DOTSIM

There are times when I feel there should be spaces and places dedicated to men and men only. A place where single men can visit and feel comfortable in order to experience solitude. Going by today, most places are dedicated  to couples and families with nothing for single Indian men. Now I don't have any problem with that as I have negotiated my way at restaurants, multiplexes and coffee shops, but an exclusive men's place can always create a difference.

Here are my thoughts on some facilities that can be dedicated to men and men only:

Gyms: Everyone wants to have a good workout in order to be fit and look good. Unfortunately majority of the gyms have been infiltrated by womenfolk making a lot of men nervous, conscious and uncomfortable. There are these young nibbis who have become influenced by social media, they all want to look like celebrities. They come to the gym in order to get maximum attention from the men out there, they will take all the space and required equipments. If you ask them to use the machine, they will give you that arrogant look as if you are some kind of a beggar. Every 5 minutes they will take a selfie in front of the mirror in order to post a picture on social media. The nibbi will also be accompanied with her friend who will take her picture and videos, tagging along with the nibbis are their beta simp boyfriends who act like their assistants. I get so damned irritated by the immature behavior of these new generation nibbis. After the nibbis , there are women in their mid and late 20's who are planning to get married in the next six months, They will come to the gym exclusively to loose weight in order to look like a princess bride on the wedding day. They also follow the same trend like the young nibbis. Half of the time they are on the phone having that romantic lovey dovy conversation with their fiances. Why can't they just shut their mouths and do the exercises. Then there is the third category, the 30 and 40 plus married women and mothers. They have become influenced by Malaika Arora and have joined they gym exclusively to look like Malaika. Most of the time these Aunties will be on the treadmill or the static cycle, they won't lift weights. If you are in North India, expect these women to be loud mouthed and shrieking all the time. They will call the trainer "Bhaiya". These women make gyms into their personal gossip centers where they will exercise for 20 minutes and gossip for 2 hours. After the gym session, they will have street side momos, pakoras, and pani puris. So much for going to the gym. With women entering the gym, most of the trainers neglect us men. It is like we just don't exist. Plus there is a lot of distraction. As a man i don't have  a problem in sharing space with another man. We men understand and respect each other. Were I to ask a 20 year old young boy for the weights , he would happily give it to me. The same thing does not apply to females. Plus, I as a man feel some kind of a discomfort in front of these women.  I just wish there were gyms that were exclusively dedicated to Men or at least they had separate floors for men and women.

Swimming Pools: A good swim is always required especially to beat the summer heat. Even though majority of the pools have different timings for males and females, I have often observed women entering the pool at time slots dedicated to men. I just can't understand. The management of these pools have a soft corner for women and they allow them to do what they want. Another point observed is that a lot of small children enter the pool often making it look like a children's park. Accompanied with these children are their mothers who will sit beside the pool and have snacks and do gossip. Again as a man I am uncomfortable at some women looking at my half naked body where I just have a swimming wear to cover me. This why I want swimming pools dedicated to men and men only.

Cafes: In India , people have no idea of what cafes are for. Abroad, it is for people to sit and enjoy coffee along with some snacks while reading a book or writing something.The music is relaxing and soothing and people have meaningful conversations at a low volume. Come to India, and cafes have just becomes bars and discotheques minus the alcohol. Either you will find youngsters in groups or loud couples. These people have no respect for the privacy and personal space of other people. Adding to this is the Punjabi rap bangda music being played at a high volume. I have been to some cafes where people have give me obnoxious stares when I was reading my book and enjoying coffee. In some cafes you can't even go during the peak afternoon hours as it is always crowded by couples and youngsters. These people literally shout creating nuisance for others.

Bars: Single Indian men also have the right to enjoy a drink or a pint of beer. Today most of the bars in the city are overcrowded with youngsters and one cannot enjoy a few moments to solace and solitude. A single Indian man wants a place where he can enjoy his drink peacefully with the background  music of Yaani, Yiruma and Kenny G. In Delhi-NCR, enterprising wine shop owners have extended their space by opening a kind of mini restaurant area either in the basement or rooftops where men can come and have a drink along with some food. In these places one will often find men, both married or single coming alone and having a drink. I guess, in a way it provides some solitude to these men. However it would be good if some enterprising businessman takes the idea forwards and opens a bar only for 30 plus Indian men where stags are given first priority.

I am writing this article in the context of the growing population of single Indian men. More and more men will remain single in India either out of their circumstances or their own volition. There is a need to provide them the space they require. There are spaces that should be exclusively for men and men only. If there are women only places then why can't there by men only places. This is something that the larger society should think about.

I rest my case.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW