Returning back to writing

 My Dear Readers,

Hope you are doing well. My apologies for not writing for the last 2 years. Things had not been so easy for the last 2 years. Major changes and transitions took place related to professional life and it was difficult.

Finally, life is getting back to normal and hope for stability in the coming years. I know that a lot of things have happened in the last 2 years related to the condition of men. I will be writing articles and sharing my insights about men and solo life.

Once again, I would like to thank all my followers and readers for supporting and encouraging me in writing this blog.

Regards,
Bhaveen Sheth

For the Indian man, it is education that crushes his child hood and Marriage that crushes his adulthood-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

A few days back I was reading a book where the author writes on the stress that Indian students face related to examinations , courtesy, our education system and high expectations of Indian parents. I thought over and realized how many Indian men loose the best years of their lives just by studying and rote learning. The age where one has to explore and learn new skills is spent on books. A typical day starts with school, coaching classes and studies at home. Where is the time for hobbies, sports, explorations and life skills?

Late teens and early 20's is all about slogging at colleges for assignments, marks, grades and GPA's and later its is about  placements,jobs and salaries. I mean when we reach 30 and look back, what is it that we have done? Do we have any hobbies? Do we have life skills? Hell , we can't even replace the punctured tyre of our two wheeler or can't even install a new ceiling fan? Have we travelled and done solo back packing anywhere? No!! Not even in India.

And then we as Indian men get married at the right age and after 2 years have a child. Life goes for a toss. It is office and home. Weekends are about going to D Mart/Big Bazaar and Malls or multiplexes. It is home loans, car loans and EMI's.

This is where marriage crushes your adult life. All those dreams and ambitions you had after completing your post graduation and on joining your first job just got fizzled out. I am not saying that marriage is a bad institution. But my point is that as Indian men , we should learn to experience life before tying the knot.

I have seen many married people having regrets on things that they wished for and wanted but  never happened due to the responsibilities that came with marriage.

Hence I write this blogpsot  that  if education destroys childhood then marriage destroys adulthood for men at least in India.

This is Bhaveen Sheth singing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH

INDIAN MGTOW

Think a 1000 times before commenting and criticizing a single Indian man-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

Our society is really strange. It expects people to fall in line and blindly follow all its norms and traditions.Those who don't follow the norms are taunted and criticized.The same happens with single Indian men who choose not to get married.

In an open letter I would like to convey the grievances that the single Indian men have towards the married folks and society.

It seems that passing cheap comments on single Indian men has become a common behavioral trait of the married Indian folks.These people don't even known why some men chose to stay single for their entire lives.

The single Indian man whom you are criticizing is a beast of burden in his family who has single handedly taken all responsibilities.He has got his siblings educated and married them off, additionally he is also taking care of his elderly parents.In meeting huge family responsibilities, he sacrificed his own personal life. This is his side of the story, something that married folks never cared to ask understand.

The single Indian man whom you are criticizing is still nursing a broken heart, it may have been a case of an unrequited love, it may have been the case of a strong affection between two individuals that never turned into a life long relationship.This man could never get over his past and has decided to remain single.

The single Indian man whom you are criticizing is a divorcee/separated individual having undergone pain and torture, courtesy: our police and judicial system that has time and again been biased towards women. A marriage that went sour, a wife that turned toxic, a women that went on a revenge mode  using the laws to make the life of the man and his family miserable. A huge alimony and maintenance was  paid.Emotional trauma associated with the separation of his child was unbearable for this man. A total destruction of marriage dreams that the man had seen. All this has made the man extremely bitter and he has decided never to get married again.

The single Indian man whom you are are criticizing comes from a dysfunctional family. He has faced physical and emotional trauma since his childhood. One fine day he left his dysfunctional family for good and settled in a big city, achieved professional success but could not get married as he did not want to show his dysfunctional family. The great Indian society does not accept a man who does not have a family.

The single Indian man whom you are criticizing has gained wisdom and maturity. he has realized that marriage is not worth it and has decided to go the Indian Mend going their own way (INDIAN MGTOW) route in order to live  a peaceful life minus tension or drama.

So my dear married Indian folks before you make fun of the single Indian man think 1000 times because every single Indian man has a story and I am sure that you don't have the courage to accept, digest or even tolerate his story.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH

MGTOW