Hello everyone, This is Bhaveen Sheth. My blog pens down thoughts and experiences on myself and life in general living as a Single Indian male in the complicated Indian Society.
It is also for all the like minded Single Indian Males who want to find a meaning in their lives.This blog will address problems pertaining to the single Indian men, their hopes, aspirations, dreams, difficulties, problems etc. You can share your experiences living as a single male in India with me.
Over the years having lived the MGTOW lifestyle, I have acknowledged and accepted a few realities. The most important of not having roots and deep connection. Veteran MGTOWs can acknowledge the fact that over the years it is not possible for establish roots and deep connection with a place or society.
Work has taken us away to new places, sometimes in India or abroad. We have lost connections with our relatives over the course of time. Being single also means that you don't get invited to the functions organized in the society. We can have some close friends with whom we share our thoughts, feelings and opinions.
We have placed ourselves in metro cities that are totally new to us. We navigate through the Urban Jungle and a competitive and stress filled corporate environment. Leaving everything behind we came here to make a life, we struggled hard, went through difficulties, coped with loneliness and finally made a mark for ourselves and still we find that void somewhere in our heart. Over the years we have seen others establish roots and forge deep connections with the city and society through marriages, starting a family and having kids. These people have become part of the larger society. We are happy and appreciate their achievements.
Yet we as MGTOWs after having spent years in a city we are still strangers to it. We may have some known hangouts that we frequently visit or acquaint with some people with whom we regularly interact, that is our only interaction that we have. At work our relationships are mostly professional hardly culminating into a personal bond.
Rootless that we are and travelers that we will remain. This is the life that we have chose and we should not have any regrets for the same.
There have been many times when my blog, my write-ups have been criticized and labelled as patriarchal and misogynist. I have often been called an Incel, frustrated right wing Sanghi who writes articles against women. In times of woke feminism and liberalism it is quite easy to silence voices that are representing the other side of the story.
Firstly I want to clarify that I am not against the female gender. I have many good female friends and work colleagues and totally respect the contribution of women in our homes, workforce and society. What I am against is the gender biased laws, woke feminists and feminazis who wrongly use these laws against men and the constant defamation of Indian men in the media and social media platform.
Speaking for the rights of Indian men and their condition is not a crime. I am exercising my right of freedom of speech. In India you have the Legislature, the Executive and the Judiciary, the three pillars of democracy. But just look at the irony of our country. The legislature drafts rules which are against men, the judiciary passes judgements against men while the executive implements the laws that are against the interests of Indian men. Just look at the recent court judgements admonishing and taunting Indian men, just look how police treats Indian men when cases related to marital problems are filed against them. Look at our respective state governments giving handouts freebies to women but offer nothing to men.
The fourth estate known as the Media which should ideally be unbiased and honest in reporting the ground reality prints and publishes everything against men. The problem is that our media is filled with leftist liberals who want to run an agenda of defaming Indian men by portraying them are rapists, pedophiles, violent and abusive wife beating husbands and god knows what.
It is the fifth estate known as the social media that gives us Men the opportunity to share our experiences and our side of the story. When I write I speak on the pathetic condition of Indian men in this country and the treatment meted out to them by the courts, law enforcement agencies and the society. India's woke feminism culture has created major problems for Indian men.
In our country the condition of an Indian man is that of a third class citizen. Even street mongrels and stray cows are given better treatment than us.
When I write, I write on the current gender biased laws prevailing in our judicial systems and how they have destroyed the lives of hundreds and thousands of Indian men. Indian men since birth are expected to be RAM-SHRAVAN and play the role of provider and protector. An Indian man is judged by the job he holds and the salary he earns. He is expected to get married, bring a wife and raise kids. For the next thirty years of his life, he has to provide for his family and bear all the expenses. He is forced to take loans and be under debt for years to come.
MGTOW lifestyle is a major life saver for rational Indian men. It gives men an alternative path to move away from the society and live your life on your own terms and not as per the expectations of the Indian society. No more marriage, no more a family and no children. You are away from the shackles of the society. You are free, free from the burden of expectations and pressures put by other people.
At 39, I am living that MGTOW lifestyle. Initially circumstances forced to me to take up the single life and later I happily embraced the MGTOW lifestyle. Today I am an keen observer of the happenings in and around the Indian society. My experiences have shaped me. Today I write to create awareness for young Indian men, I write from my own experiences of living the MGTOW lifestyle.
We all have heard about doormat boyfriends.As matured men now in our 30s and 40s we would have observed during our college days how some boys would go around doing simping for the girls they liked. They would take them on dates, movies, recharge their mobile phones, xerox their notes and do all other sundry jobs that the girls wanted. But these men remained friends only friends, nothing happened beyond that. Majority of these men felt used after some point of time. They were nothing other than doormat boyfriends aka beta simps.
Some years later this trend is repeated again.Many of these men are now accomplished on their professional front and it is time for them to get married.As usual the search for a suitable bride starts and the search is narrowed down to that one special person who is fair and good looking.Marriage is solemnized and a new chapter begins.
A few years later this man has become a classical case of a doormat husband.He is nothing more than a 24/7 ATM, protector and provider. He is supposed to take care of his wife and kids, pay all the bills and facilitate a luxurious lifestyle for the wife and kids, pay the EMI's, car loans, home loans and school fees, sponsor the annual vacations and also take care of all the in-laws.
Now what does this man get in return. Nothing!!! Other than those lovely initial months of intimacy after marriage there is nothing. Some men are now denied intimacy. The wife has now gone to the gym and become a yummy mummy. As she is getting a lot of attention from other men she now now no longer values her husband, some of them are even having affairs with other men while having their luxurious lifestyle being taken care of by the husband. Just like how they boyfriend used to do all the sundry jobs for his crush now it is the husband sponsoring the luxurious lifestyle of his wife but does not get anything in return. He has no value, no respect and no honour. This is a reality that our society does not discuss but its exists. The problem is such husbands do not want to accept that they are doormat husbands.
I would like to wish a very happy new year for all my fellow single Indian men and fellow MGTOW's. I hope you all would have enjoyed and celebrated the 31st night. The year 2021 went so fast. What started as a new beginning of supposedly having won over COVID gradually became a major disaster. The months between April to July were worse. The incompetence and failure of the government was clearly visible. So many people lost their loved ones. The sad part is that the events of this year left so many COVID orphans who are left to their own fate. Once again businesses have suffered and men have lost their jobs.
In the current times staying single and living a MGTOW lifestyle is the best option. Even if you face financial problems, it is only you who will bear the consequences and not your family members. Imagine the guilt of not being able to pay EMI's, children's school fees and meeting your household expenses. In an article written by Mr.Rahul Pandita, an eminent journalist, he shared his own personal experience;he had visited a grocery shop and a decent well educated man met him. This man asked Rahul Pandita if he could buy some essential groceries for this man as he had lost his job, spent all savings and had no money to buy food for his family, this man had a 1 year child and was desperate to get some food for his child. Mr.Rahul offered some money but this man only asked Rahul to buy him essential groceries. I guess his self respect did not make him take money from another person.
Imagine if any one of us were in this situation. How humiliating is it to beg in front of someone for basic essentials for your family. I guess I too cannot do such a thing. I would rather starve than beg.
As stated in my previous posts, don't change your mind due to this pandemic situation. I know that these are difficult times, our loved ones are dying and there is a need for companionship. But I want to clearly warn you, please don't get married. Marriages done due to desperation often lead to disaster.
This year please focus on improving yourself, go to the gym, exercise, run, lift weights, go for a swim. Focus on health and wellness. Mental and emotional health is equally important. Take up yoga and meditation. Read spiritual books and visit temples on a regular basis. Travel as much as you can in India, explore new places.On you tube there are many food channels that are exploring good eateries in your city. Please visit and eat the food at these places. It is wonderful.
I have already warned you on legal terrorism related to marriage. I also want to warn to on the new and emerging crime that no one is talking: SEXTORTION. We have have already heard about Ms. Ayushi Bhatia, this woman who filled 7 false rape cases against 7 men in the year 2021 itself. I will be writing about her in my coming posts, but please be warned. If you are meeting an unknown woman in a public place who is getting extra friendly with you then it is a red flag. Just avoid such women. Another scam observed is where an unknown woman sends you a friend request on facebook or Instagram, once you accept this request, she will have a video call with you and try to get personal on the call. She will start revealing her physically and while the man may be enjoying, his act is being recorded by the woman. Later this woman will send a threatening message stating that the video will be made viral if the man will not pay up the money demanded by her. There are instances where in the video is shared with the friends and family members of this man on social media.
Our society is headed towards moral decadence. There are no values, no moral and no ethics. I request all my fellow MGTOW brothers to stay out of any trouble.
This year I am also willing to help my fellow MGTOWs especially the young ones who are looking for wise counsel or advice on living a MGTOW/Single Life.My email is is sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com
Once again I wish you all a very happy new year and let us hope that this year brings peace and prosperity to all of us.
One of the prime benefits that comes with being single and living a MGTOW lifestyle is that you are no longer a part of the rat race of the Indian society. We have all heard about the rat race in corporate organizations but no one speaks on the rat race of the Indian society. This is an inconvenient truth, a taboo that we don't want to discuss.
The society's rat race is visible during family gatherings and social functions. As a man you are compared with other men based on your marriage, how beautiful your wife is, the type of car you own, the apartment you live in, annual vacations, your job, salary, promotion, kids and a whole lot of things.
There are times when this kind of comparison leads to jealousy, resentment and disappointment within men. Not everyone is a successful corporate professional, not everyone is earning a hefty package of 2 Lakhs per month. And still comparison has no end.
When you decide to be single and follow the MGTOW lifestyle, you are away from this society rat race. As you are single you hardly get invited to any social gatherings. And once you become a veteran MGTOW, you yourself start avoiding these otherwise unwanted functions. Profession and job takes you away from your home city hence your contact with relatives is limited. No one compares you or criticizes you. You don't have to please anyone. You are working to make your life better and become a better person than you were yesterday. You are at peace with yourself.
This is one of the less discussed but most important benefits of being MGTOW. Remember this folks. It may help you in taking an important life decision wisely.
In India every Indian man is mandated to play the role of a protector and provider, majority being brainwashed from childhood on how they are to become good sons and caring husbands. The path is clear : Be a good and obedient boy, get good grades in school, get admission into a good college and taken up medicine, engineering or management, get a good job in an MNC and get married to the girl of your parents choice.
The Indian man is expected to be a provider and protector. He can't escape the same. Now what happens when some Indian men refuse to do the same? What happens when men decide to stay single or live a MGTOW Lifestyle?
In my experience the society goes all out in humiliating and lambasting such men. Speaking from my personal experience, I have seen how the society labels such men including myself as losers and failures. We are often criticized for not getting married and having children, that we are not taking our responsibilities seriously? Indian society cannot tolerate men who want to live for themselves.
Now I would like to ask "When did remaining single and living for yourself become a crime"? "And why is the society inconsiderate to single Indian men?" The answer lies in the fact that when a man refuses to undertake mandated slavery that comes in the form of marriage, being a husband and being a parent is just not acceptable to the society. Especially when majority of the folks are happily willing to undertake slavery.
Breaking the shackles and going against the tide was never easy. Men who live for themselves will always be criticized and be looked down upon. No one wants to see a happy single man , especially in India. A single Indian man eventually if he wants can have a wonderful life. He has no major responsibilities, he is not under the burden of EMI's or home loans. He does not have to spend on children's education.More important he is at peace. Mental peace is something a lot of Indian men crave for considering the drama and tantrums throw by the wives. This is the reason why our Indian society cannot accept the concept of a happy single Indian man who willingly does not want to get married.
At 39, being single and living a MGTOW lifestyle, I am more than happy. Never succumb to the pressure of getting married.Life your life and be happy.
Dowry is a social evil. We have studied this in our school time. It is wrong to take dowry and there is a stringent law in the Indian Penal Code against it. That's good. But has someone heard about reverse dowry in India? Does anyone has a faint idea what it is?
With the advent of the 21st century and the rise of middle class and upper middle class population in India we have seen many changes in our social norms. During this period we have also seen woke feminism on the rise. Since ages there has been a demand for a beautiful bride and financially stable groom. But over the years the demands of a prospective girl and her parents have sky rocketed. A picture was shared on social media enumerating the demands of today's women and her parents. Please read the same:
The above picture shows the reality. I would also like to share a comical video from you tube wherein a man is mentioning the demands of young girls and her parents in order to get married:
This video is hilarious and this man is mentioning the acerbic truth. Anyways, coming back to the main topic, I would like mention the common demands from the girl's families in order to get married. This is based on research from the internet and personal talk with many young and separated men. So here is the laundry list of demands:
Education: The boy must be educated having a masters degree that too from a reputed college. It does not matter if the girl has completed basic graduation in phaphda and jalebi degree from some pakoda and bhajia college affiliated to some sandwich and hamburger university.
Vocation: Doctor, Engineer (IIT), MBA (B-School Only), CA, IAS, IPS, IRS or government job. It does not matter if the girl is just working as a front office receptionist or doing a back office job.
Salary: The most important factor when it comes to finalizing the groom for a marriage. Nothing less than a six figure monthly CTC or seven figure annual CTC. After all the daddy's princesses won't marry men who average earners. Now you understand why the placement package matters.A man's worth is decided by his CTC.
Flat possession: The boy must have a 2 or 3 BHK flat in his name or he should be planning to acquire one by putting a down payment and suffer the burden on monthly EMI's for the next 25 years. The flat must be located in a posh locality. Today's girls don't want to stay with the in-laws and are not even willing to stay in a rented flat.
Property ownership: The bungalow, land or flat of the the prospective groom is a major deciding factor. Ancestral land in the home town of the boy is icing on the cake.
Boy's Family background: The lesser the better. The boy should be the only son, he should not have any siblings. If he has a brother he should not take care of him and if there is a sister then he should not set aside any on his finances for her marriage. As the girl will not live in a joint family, the boy must live separately from his parents after marriage.
In-Laws Expectations: What is ours will be ours but what is yours will become a part of our daughter. No compromises. The boy must take care of the healthcare needs of his in-laws including taking them to the hospital. He should also sponsor the marriage of his sister-in law if there is one. Gifts are to be given to the in-laws during all social occasions, anniversaries and festivals. The boy must take his in-laws on annual vacations in Indian and abroad and yes ,the in-laws can drop by anytime at his house where he will take leave from his office and take the in-laws to expensive restaurants and shopping malls.
Honeymoon: It must be in a foreign country preferably exotic places like Bali, Singapore/Malaysia, Dubai, Europe. Indian locations are only for beggars. After all the girl wants to put the pictures on social media. And the expenses of this entire trip must be paid by the groom.
Take care of the lifestyle of the girl: Yes my friend the prospective groom must take care of the wonderful lifestyle of the girl. After marriage she will leave her job and stay at home becoming a full time housewife. One maid will be hired to clean the house and a separate cook will prepare the food. The boy must buy another 2 wheeler or 4 wheeler as madam needs to travel across the city. Madam will also take up her passion of making videos on you tube, Instagram and ticktock/MX Takatak. She will go to the gym, zumba classes, palliates classes and yoga sessions, the boy will pay for all these expenses. Every week the girl will do shopping at malls and supermarkets, she will also visit expensive salons for her grooming and the guy must take care of these expenses as well.
There is more that I would like to add but as for now this enough. This is the reality of our society and I am showing you the mirror. Marriage has fallen to materialistic decadent immoral level in these times and unfortunately there is no recourse. Social media has made people believe that they can achieve what they want by making minimal effort. Combine this with a Gynocentric culture and woke feminism.
Many young Indian men who are eligible for marriage are facing this situation. Some are even distressed and sad as they are not getting married after 5 to 6 years.
What is the point of a marriage of your have to end up being a slave in order to sponsor the expensive lifestyle of a person.
The solution is to stay single and go MGTOW. The financial freedom is beyond imagination.
This is Bhaveen Sheth ending this writeup and will be back with some more wisdom.
