Paternal feelings as a single Indian man-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

 We are men, we are human and even if we are single, we have paternal feelings. As humans we yearn for for children. There are times when we feel if we had our own little children with whom we could play with and have fun. Unfortunately we don't have our children.

Narrating my own experience now that I have been a veteran single Indian man having led a solitary life, I love small children. There is something about them, their childishness, innocent smile, naughty laughter, little mischief and playful nature. Children are so pure, they are not affected by the toxicity of the outside world. Just 10 minutes of time spent with children and I forget all my problems. Currently I am very much attached to my niece, nephew and my best friend's son. I always look forward to spend some time with them and feel so happy about it. In public places, I come across small children and take an opportunity to put my hand over their heads in order to bless them.

I may not be a parent but love to be that friendly uncle to all children. I have this dream to mentor small children especially those who belong to the underprivileged section. Maybe their blessing and goodwill will go a long way in having a happy life.

Bhaveen Sheth

DOTSIM 

The awareness raised by Indian Men's Rights Activist has saved thousands of lives: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

A big shout out to all those Men's Rights Activists across India and abroad who have worked tirelessly on men's issues and highlighted the condition of Indian men. As a single Indian man and now a confirmed bachelor, I would like to thank these men for spreading awareness and highlighting gender biased laws. 

Because of them we the single Indian men had a first hand experience as a spectator to observe, watch and read acrimonious matrimonial disputes, biased judgements against men by our judiciary, abuse by the police, painful separations, parental alienation, suicides of men due to matrimonial problems, reverse dowry. All this clearly depicted that marriage was not certainly not made in heaven.

Two documentaries were made. One was Martyrs of Marriage that came out in 2017 focusing of the gross and rampant misuse of section 498 A Dowry Prohibition act. The second documentary was released in 2022 that showed how a criminal nexus was trapping men and falsely accusing them in rape charges just to extort money or how men were falsely accused when live in relationship went sour. I am sharing the links of these documentaries below so that you can watch them.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gbUbgr6qD10 

Martyrs of Marriage

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SPH6DMCSC6Q

India's sons

There is a lot more content available on you tube. One of the most prominent channel addressing men's issues is a Voice for Men

https://www.youtube.com/@VoiceForMenIndia/videos

The awareness made many single Indian men including myself to reevaluate and introspect the decision to get married. Wisdom dawned upon us and we got into reading books by Rollo Tomasi and becoming red pilled. Many men decided to go solo and live a bachelor's lifestyle. We also realized that marriage was not the answer to your problems, it is okay if you don't have a soul mate and have to battle it all alone in your life. All this happened due to the awareness created by the Men's Rights Activist.

From my heart, a big thank you to all you fellows. You have saved the lives of thousand of young innocent men. Wish you all the best and keep doing the good work.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Nothing is going to change when it comes to our judicial system: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

I have been following the men's rights movement for a decade. There are numerous pages on men's rights, aggrieved husbands and groups on biased matrimonial laws. I also follow different profiles on twitter that share thoughts on men's rights. Then there are prominent men's rights activist who share news related to the pathetic condition of men, be it wrongful accusation of dowry and domestic violence, maintenance and alimony judgements, killing of innocent men and a lot more. Every weekend there are meetings conducted by Men's Rights Activists in all major cities of India to discuss their problems and cases. Rallies are held at Jantar Mantar in Delhi to spread  awareness on the biased laws and how they are destroying the family structure.

All these people have a hope that one day the laws will be amended in favour of men and they will stop suffering. I wish that could happen but reality is far different. Once the laws are passed by our parliament there is no space for them to be revoked. The laws empower our judiciary and police to enforce their own power on the common innocent people. The family and matrimonial laws are a source of bread and butter for the lower rank police officials  (constable, sub-inspector, inspector), judges, lawyers and women's commissions/NGO's. It is also a source of their employment. Police and lawyers love domestic and matrimonial feuds as it is a source of an income. Lawyers make a fool of the clients and prolong the cases in order to earn more money. The Women's commission and NGO's take funding from the government and corporate in the name of helping female victims.

The laws were made to bring justice to women who actually faced violence in their marriages. Unfortunately even today these laws are not of much help to the actual victims, those women who live in small towns and villages face violence daily and yet there is no recourse for them. The laws have been misused wrongly by a section just to settle scores. 

But will anything change? Will the laws be revoked? I don't think so. I am not being a pessimist. Having clearly stated that these laws have given rise to a parallel industry known an Marriage Breakup. I can't speak on its market valuation but I am sure it must be in crores. Everyone earns their share, the police, lawyers, judges, women's commissions/NGO's.

I don't have much hope. Nothing is going to change. Hence it is better to follow your own path and remain single. Accept life as it is and explore new things. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Indian men need to stop taking crushes and one sided love seriously: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

A tragic incident that took place last month in the national capital made me angry. Some young men threw acid on a young school going girl just because she had rejected the love proposal of one the men.

Indian men have a problem of taking crushes on the opposite gender seriously and fantasizing about one sided love. They can't take a no for an answer or handle rejection. What is wrong with our men these days.  It is human to like someone but you can't expect the other person to like you as well. While this behaviour is found all across India, the attacks by jilted lovers on females predominantly is seen in North India where there is deep feudal and patriarchal mindset. But then this is not only in the case of young boys only. I have read cases wherein men could not handle matrimonial rejections and turned violent, then there are cases where men sitting in high position , be it politics, government or corporations take a liking for young girl and do all things possible to woo her. If she rejects these advances the men turn vengeful and do everything in their powers to harm the women.

Indian men need to stop taking Bollywood movies, web series and those insts-youtube reels seriously. Love is mutual and not one sided. Getting rejected is part and parcel of life. There is nothing to get offended about it or take is personally. These days young Indian men are under peer pressure that they must have a girlfriend just to conform and look cool. I would like to put some sense in the heads of these men that there is more to do with your life than just have a girlfriend.

If you happen to be a young male reader, please note that life is filled with a lot of challenges ahead. Go work on yourself, read, up skill, work on your fitness,travel, make more friends, socialize. Chasing females is not going to help you, not having a girlfriend does not make you a failure. For those who are in their 30's an 40's, just because you are in a powerful position does not mean that you can throw your weight around on young women and charm them. Mind you, just one complaint by the woman and you are done, the police and courts will not listen to your so called true love, crush story.

Focus on yourself. Just thought of spreading awareness and educating distraught men and jilted lovers.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Happy New Year 2023-From the Desk of the Single Indian Man-Bhaveen Sheth

 My dear friends, I hope this post finds you in good health. I would like to wish a very happy new year 2023 to all you guys. I hope you have enjoyed the 31st night.

Finally the pandemic has come to an end. We can look forward for some good times. However the news on the surge in the pandemic coming from China is daunting. Let us pray and hope that India is not affected.

For all the single men life will go as usual. I hope you will continue to remain single and not get hitched. Some of you fellows may find the right life partner and get married. Please go ahead as single life is not for everyone.

Let us see what 2023 brings for us. A major decision related to the right of consent in a marriage will be heard by our supreme court this year. This is one decision that will have a major effect on the marriage system in India. I am not bothered as I am still not married.

Over the course of time I have decided to stop advising young vulnerable gullible single Indian men. Truth be told, they will do what they want and knowingly make their lives difficult.

Across India a new racket of online sextrortion and  false rape cases have sprung up. The targets are young vulnerable single Indian men desperate for companionship. Adding to this we already had gangs running fake marriage scams wherein another section of Indian men desperate for marriage are cheated. In spite of all cautionary tales, men knowingly fall victims.

For those of us who are veterans at being single we know that our journey has to go on. With advancing age we will be facing different challenges of being single. There is a need of creating a group for 35 plus single Indian men where in we can share our problems, challenges and the joys of being single. I myself have crossed 40 but don't feel like the same as there is no one to remind me of my age.

I have started valuing mental peace, it is a prize many don't have. It comes with being single and alone. I just can't handle the drama that comes with marriage. Some of us need to realize that we are not made for marriage and accept the same happily or stoically. 

I have also realized that you just can't expect everyone to give you company. Your siblings have their own families to take care of and the same applies for your male buddies. You must learn to handle loneliness by yourself. 

I also want to counsel all single Indian men to take the habit of reading seriously. With easy availability of books online and tabs/kindle reader, it is one of the most engaging activities to beat loneliness. Read both fiction and non fiction so that you can wide your perspective. Adding to this one already has easy access to OTT streaming apps wherein you get to watch the best of the movies, web series and documentaries.

I don't need to emphasize on physical and mental health. Time and again I keep telling single men to work on the same. This year take up a resolution to do away with bad habits or addictions. This includes avoiding junk food, smoking and alcohol. Keep toxic and negative people away from your life and this includes your relatives who have no other business other than taunting and criticizing you for remaining single. Make good friends, find mentors, take wise counsel and move ahead in life.

For anyone who wishes to contact me personally. Please find my email address below:

sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com

Once again, a happy and prosperous 2023 ahead

Why do I have my profile active on a matrimonial site: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

Many of you readers who are following this blog visiting it regularly would be thinking that why as a veteran MGTOW and single Indian man has his profile active on shaadi.com. I can understand. As a veteran MGTOW and as a man who has now  addicted to his solitude, marriage may not be possible.

However whenever I meet people, I am asked why I am single? To the majority I clearly state the gender biased laws and rising levels of gynocentrism and feminazism. However those who are close to me are clearly told that I am an adult orphan having no family of my own. My best friends are my family.

For over last 10 years I have been told that some decent family will always like me or a good hearted girl will choose me. After all it is the person that matters. However I know the reality. In our nation and society orphans have a difficult life ahead. Their lives are lonely and struggles are difficult.

In 2015, I had deleted my profile on matrimonial sites, however in 2016, on the insistence of a friend, I reactivated my profile. This time it was purely experimental as I wanted to witness the stark realities and dubious standards of the society.

And my assumption turned into reality. People saw my profile repeatedly and did not express interests, those who did, wanted a bio-data and some reference from my blood relatives, this in spite of writing that I don't have a family. The so called modern single independent woman or those who claimed to be that stated that she would discuss with her own family and she expressed apprehension. Some parents and sibling considered me as the Hobson's choice/last alternative where they could just dump their daughter/sister on me in order to fulfill their responsibility. I could understand their reasons, a daughter/sister will limited prospects to get married, normal families not accepting her alliance, finding some simple beta male who would just marry and keep the daughter with no questions asked, escaping from the taunts, jibes and criticism of having an aged unmarried daughter still sitting at home.

Even as I write this post, my profile is repeatedly visited, sometimes interests are expressed and nothing moves ahead. Of course it does not affect me at all. Marriage is not on my priority list. But I wanted to closely observe the society. Profile views and invitations are an experience. It confirms my assumptions about the bias, prejudice and double standards that people carry. It also shows the massive high standards and uncompromising beliefs that people have.

I am not here to criticize or pass judgement on anyone. Unfortunately people don't stop judging or having a poor thinking for orphans or people who don't have parents. Even at the age of 40, I am treated like a naive 25 year old boy. In India, people are not used to see men standing up for themselves, taking major life responsibilities and being independent. Time and again I hear this common statement "Beta (son), We need to talk to some elder in you family"? How can you take such an important decision all by yourself? Years back I would give an explanation. These days, I just hang up and delete and block their profiles. With age, I don't have the energy to engage in bullshit with toxic and judgmental people. And mind you these are people who have a 35  year old unmarried daughter and yet treat me like some low class servant. These experiences have shown me the miserable treatment that orphans go through just because they don't have parents or a family. Insults, humiliations and bad treatment.

But then I don't care. I have very well accepted my fate and destiny and intend to move forward. I have kept my profile active just to see some stark realities and share my experience with fellow single Indian men and MGTOWs.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Celebrating Diwali the MGTOW way: Bhaveen Sheth Indian MGTOW

Greetings my friends and wishing you all a very happy Diwali. I hope you guys enjoyed. As a veteran MGTOW, I also celebrated Diwali in my own way. Got up, prayed, read and watched some documentaries and again prepared for the evening. Did a small Pooja, lit up diyas and then collected all the fire crackers that I had got and went to terrace. I was bursting fire crackers after a long time.Don't recollect when was the last time I did it. I felt nostalgic, childhood memories flashed in front of me. But then who cares, life has to be lived. As a MGTOW i celebrated the festival all by myself. Photographs are depicted below: