The Single Indian man writes this post for all NRI's and PIO's that they should stop coming down to Indian in order to look for some beautiful bride in order to get married. Parents and young men based abroad (on work visa, Green Card or Permanent Resident), if you are reading this post , I kindly request you to strongly consider my advice. I am sharing two articles from a website Men's Day Out. This is about a men based abroad who came down to India in order to marry the women of their dreams. Post marriage a major tragedy happened. Please read the content below as I have copied it from the website:
NRI Husband: My Wife, Her Family Travelled Everywhere On My Expenses & Later Filed False 498A On Me
If you are an NRI groom looking for a bride from India, there are certain facts that you must be aware of. It is also advisable to understand the matrimonial laws that exist in India, clubbed with the very challenging legal system that make take decades for a divorce proceeding to end.
In most cases where innocent men, their parents, siblings are trapped, pressure is built on the groom’s family by filing false cases even under the criminal sections of the IPC. Somehow the husband and his parents have to come to the negotiating table, before they are set free. Of course, we are not generalising these instances, however, it is always wise to know what could be in store for you or your son!
His Story (As Shared By Husband)
I am average looking man from southern part of India. I was born in Bengaluru and raised with values of obedience and respect to elders. Though we belonged to middle class life, my parents struggled hard to give me basic necessities such as food, shelter and education. I have two sisters as well.
I toiled all my life and completed Bachelor of Arts from an esteemed institution. As a student of Sociology, we have always discussed about respecting women and striving to bring equality in the society. After getting a job in 2012, I could not continue my education further due to my financial condition.
I gave my best to the organisation I was working for, and I was also recognised with various awards. Subsequently, after doing considerably well, I was able to get one of my sisters married after availing a loan.
Life moved on and in 2017, I got an opportunity to be transferred abroad. I was elated and doing well for myself, which is when my parents thought it was time to get me married!
They shared my profile on a matrimonial site which was the biggest mistake we ever made! The girl’s side contacted us with their proposal and their family was able to convince my parents for the alliance. I was also excited about knowing my life partner and was looking forward to a new future. All expenses to be divided equally was discussed initially itself.
Our wedding took place in September 2019 and in October, I went back to the country where I used to work before the wedding. My wife and I had decided to relocate permanently and thus I also searched for her job. In the month of December, my wife, along with her parents, visited the country of my residence, where I lived on a sponsorship.
I took them all out for excursions and we had a very good time travelling everywhere. Later, after a month in January 2020, my in-laws returned to India. Since then, my wife’s behaviour completely changed and she started dominating over every micro decision.
She started asking me not to contact my family, block them and also not send any monthly expenses. I used to calm her down somehow and also I always tried to stay composed myself. I would take her out and spend time with her, however, she would pick up petty fights and demand that I take her back to India.
In February, we returned to India and she walked away to her parent’s home straight from the airport. I asked her to come with me, however, she stopped all contact. She also received calls from her HR department where she had taken up a job in the country of our matrimonial residence, however, she refused to return. This arrangement continued till July and later we learnt she was expecting our baby. Now, she had an excuse that she could not fly back and remained at her home, where later she had a miscarriage.
I tried every possible way to approach her and asked her to return to live with me, because I truly loved her very much. Less I knew that she was not interested in continuing further and had filed fake cases on me under Section 498A and others, even after I took care of her parents during COVID. Her family has alleged that I demanded a car, jewelry, etc. from them.
All My Dreams Have Shattered
Till today, I had entered the Police station only during my passport application process. I have never demanded anything from her or her family, but now I realise that the laws in India only favour one side — just on mere allegations from the woman’s side — no evidence asked whatsoever.
I really don’t know what the future holds for me, but I believe in God that He shall favour the righteous and help those who speak the truth.
I am certain I shall come out clean because I have not done anything wrong. However, the time that I am currently facing due to false accusations and cases, is affecting my health and mental peace, and also the same has taken a toll on the happiness of my old parents. Even after filing false domestic violence charges on me, my wife and her family seem to be unaffected and are enjoying their life.
My question to all who are reading this is Where is Equality? Why do we have such one-sided laws against Men/Husbands? Are Men not equal citizens of our great country, don’t we pay our taxes on time? Why are we made to suffer like this in the name of women empowerment?
You won’t realise the trauma unless you or your family goes through it.
NRI USA: “My Wife Filed False 498A Within 8-Months Marriage; Now Demanding Rs 2.5 Crore To Withdraw All Cases”
I am a commoner who had dreams of a perfect marriage and loved my wife with all my heart and soul. My idea of marriage being a bliss to a journey of harassment and a nightmare is worth a share. I am writing this with a lot of pain, as sharing my personal life is not who I am. But, if my story can alert the rest of you, why not?
I have a deep respect for all, be it women or men, and hence treated my better half equally. But did I do anything wrong being kind? I married my wife with the idea of giving her a beautiful life and fulfilling all her dreams, in fact, I considered her as my dream and was thoughtful about every occasion from the day of our marriage to honeymoon.
I never realised her wishes were demands. I happily gifted her first diamond ring and also paid for our wedding, little did I know that my wife was faking her feelings and scamming me to a marriage which is going to be her source of lifetime income. Today I have been accused of Section 498A (Dowry Law) in the name of women empowerment. Don’t get me wrong but this isn’t feminism nor women empowerment.
It took a lot of effort and hard work to achieve my career goals, and I moved to the United States Of America with my wife from India hoping to give her a better lifestyle and dreaming that she will be my emotional support to do so.
I was stunned by her change of behavior and disrespectful attitude after we moved to the states. Constant fights and abuse became a routine. I was shattered and felt hopeless with her quick change of personality. Let me tell you she is the same woman who enjoyed the benefits of a one-month Euro Trip as a honeymoon getaway. I have never questioned her needs and been a good husband providing her with all that she asks. I got lied and betrayed and stolen in the name of marriage for 5 long years. The irony is, after providing everything she asked for, I am fighting a dowry charge against me, which is character assassination and a black mark in my life for loving and marrying a con artist like my wife ….
I saw her love and interest (which was fake) fading away in just 8 months of our marriage. As soon as she realized that the only way to get money was by filing a divorce, she ruthlessly filed a false dowry harassment case against me in Indian court to extort a huge amount of alimony settlement.
MY STORY
I met my wife through a matrimonial site jeevansathi.com in the year 2014. We went on a couple of dates, and on 05-17-2014 we registered our marriage in Bangalore, India. She expressed her interest in a fine cut VVS1 category 1-carat diamond ring and one month Euro Trip as her marriage gift.
I happily fulfilled both her demands as a new beginning of my life with my wife. All I had for her was unconditional Love. She was gifted (180 gm) of our ancestral gold jewelry as our marriage gift by my mother. After our marriage, I took her for a Euro Trip for almost a month as promised, and then we moved to the USA. I spoilt her with holidays in New York, California, Las Vegas, Miami.…….
After 6 months of marriage, she duped me an amount of Rs 19 lakh in the name of medical expenses for her parents, I discovered this was a lie and alerted myself and stopped saying yes for unnecessary financial demands. However, I still provided her a home to live and loved her. I might have let it go if she had changed her behaviour. Well, I wasn’t lucky enough for that kind of peace from her.
When I questioned her illegal and unfair demands, she immediately decided to separate from me. It took just 8 months to break our marriage, and she filed divorce seeking Rs 2.5 crores as alimony.
The USA court denied the alimony as the marriage was just less than a year old and we did not have any child.…..JUSTICE WAS DELIVERED IN USA
She then flew back to India and immediately filed false dowry FIR against me and my aged parents who never lived with her. Soon after which an arrest warrant got issued against all accused in her FIR.
My entire family went through harassment and anxiety during this process. She didn’t leave any means to achieve her filthy desire, she got to a level of publishing our personal affair in the local newspaper which traumatised my aged parents and harmed my sibling’s social life status. It’s not over here folks!
Huh, she had the audacity to reach my employer in the USA through email and phone and sent numerous emails to my CEO, Vice President, Director, manager, and various co-workers portraying me as an absconding criminal and demanded my termination multiple times.
Her insanity level reached twitter, where she illegally posted very sensitive private information such as my Indian passport, My Driving License, My social Security number here in the US which hampered my security. She also tagged my employer and higher authorities from India and the US with the intention of extorting money. She strongly believed that I would reach my saturation and pay her which did not happen as I believed in getting justice.
I had to travel to India multiple times in a year to face the legal formalities and defend myself in court.
She demands a one-time settlement in crores, to take back the false cases, and settle everything outside court. The entire journey made me realize her marriage was a planned divorce to seek money and abandon me in 8 months of marriage. Wow, that is a good idea for lifetime alimony.
Throughout my situation, I have always respected the law and paid her a huge amount of monthly maintenance. She lied to the Indian judicial system and to me about her employment and claims to be unemployed. However, it did not take me a long time to find our her employment status.
I still wanted to settle it and paid more than 30 lakh for her maintenance to date. I need justice and I have decided to STOP paying her due to her discourteous behavior and constant extortion of money which has led me to financial difficulties. She has not left any means to destroy me, and my family, our dignity, and my career.
After I stopped my payments due to financial hardships caused by her, she immediately gets a levy warrant issued from the court against me for non-payment of maintenance amount and misused the arrest warrant by sending it to across to my workplace, social media claiming that I am a criminal.
Recently she tried to impound my passport and cancel my visa due to non-payment. She is well aware that I have no other source of income to survive or to pay her. Her psychotic behavior is a threat to our nation and everybody surrounding her.
Let me share the creepy side of my wife . She has forged my signature with RTI(Right to Information) using my ID (passport, Driving license photocopy which she had in her possession ), and gets my current records, which she misuses. If divorce is her aim, wouldn’t she fight the case and respect the law as I do? She is well aware of the fact that she will lose in the court and will not end up getting her alimony, due to which she is ruthless and strong-willed to destroy my future.
She got me terminated from my job in the year 2018 by providing false information to the United States Embassy stating my Indian passport was lost, and they are supposed to cancel my visa for security reasons.
I got stuck in India during the incident. She was well aware of the situation as I was attending court to settle our divorce. Her actions made me more stubborn to seek justice and not to pay her as she has received more than what she deserves emotionally and financially. I have gone through anxiety and mental stress costing me my job and career, and it doesn’t make sense to me to pay her more.
My wife has proved to be a sociopath, who desires my death naturally by stress or suicide. I belong to a middle-class family, and I have worked hard to reach this point in my life. I am the only source of income for my parents. Today I question her mental stability, her morals, and her greed for money as she is not willing to move on when I agreed for a settlement. It’s not a Man’s mistake in every scenario.” women can be wrong!”
In the last 5 years, I have traveled to India for about 20 times in order to attend court and has cost me a fortune.
- The court cases in India against women are not a cakewalk, which makes me write my story to give a heads-up to men like me and to women who believe in equality.
- My Wife has been successful in finding a lawyer who matches her insanity. I mean, if we had lawyers fighting for Nirbhaya rapists, this shouldn’t be surprising for you all. They are pioneers in delaying my court dates and hamper my work in The US. Traveling to India often with a full-time responsible role is not an easy task.
- Instances like seeking Medical Emergency during my witness date and avoiding my witnesses leading to delay in my case and many more stressful events were planned by her attorney .
- I requested video conferencing, but the court has denied me due to an objection from my opposite counsel making it impossible for me to survive during pandemic with all the travel restrictions across the globe.
- All the ‘fake’ cases are registered in my wife home town Bhilai, which is an unknown city to me, and they have the advantage of being localities and influence the proceedings including my lawyer due to which I have changed multiple lawyers and ended up spending a lot of money.
- I have been given short notices due to which I failed to appear in court. Traveling when I have a job in a foreign country is not an easy task. They utilised this situation and raised strong objections, pleading the court to pass the ex-party order and warrants. Yet again, I ended up paying extra money.
- It does not stop here. I have received life threats and I feel unsafe to travel to her hometown to attend court cases.
I HAVE NEVER MET SUCH A MINACIOUS WOMEN, I Affirm!
She uses her Twitter account to claim I am a criminal. It is an offense to do so because it’s up to the court to decide and I am confident to win this case.
The Entire journey has cost me my dignity. I have lost my savings, fighting for justice. Why is the Indian Judicial system biased towards women? Who gives authority to any person to be abusive and disclose personal information on social media?
I have lost my peace, serenity, and belief in love due to my marriage with my wife. It’s funny that in the Indian Court of Law if a male is accused, he is presumed to be guilty until he proves himself innocent. However, my question to the system is what is the charge if you file a false complaint and ruin someone’s life and slander social status? AND THE ANSWER IS my wife will be fined Rs 500 (less than 10$) for filing false cases. That’s all!
The Indian Judicial system is not performing the ground research on people like my wife who is a BTech from Bhilai Institute of technology and MBA from Symbiosis International University under a quota system and worked as a manager in companies like IBM, WIPRO, DELL in India and abroad. And now she claims to be unemployed and has no source of income other than her husband due to which she gains monthly maintenance as per my US salary in dollars.
This matrimonial case is the biggest battle for me, but I still believe in our legal system and I have complete faith that Justice will be served.
I will be going through the process of harassment until I prove myself in the court, and my wife is enjoying her job and income with no guilt. I have no source to know her relationship status. A con artist like her can never be single, so I just want to connect to all her friends and people who know her and let the world know that I am her current husband.
And any information about my wife is highly appreciable. This will help me to get justice and save other individuals from her vicious traps.
Thank You for reading my story!
I hope you have read both the articles above and still if you have not understood the gravity of the situation , believe me you are a fool. But for those who are wise and sane, I hope you have got the message. Truth be told that modern marriages have become a scam or a favored route to loot the NRI's and rich people. If you are based abroad then please work on strengthening your roots out there. Make some good friends and understand people who come from different countries. All immigrants carry a common ambition of working and hard and making it big.
My advice to all eligible Indian men based abroad is that they should meet and date non-Indian women or Indian women who belong to the second or third generation immigrants. Believe me these women are more rational, understanding and accommodating than the ones you are planning to bring from India after marriage.
Stop worrying about the purity of cultures and genes that you want your children to have. What matters is that you find a spouse who will understand and support you after marriage not to mention that she will contribute financially and help you in household activities. Western women or immigrant women are rational and hard working, they know that life is not cake walk and one must strive hard in order to survive. Additionally they come with diverse skill sets like driving, grocery shopping, paying bills, cooking, housekeeping and laundry.I agree that Western countries have its own share of irresponsible entitled princesses but I am not including them here. I am talking about rational women who have a sense of responsibility.
The problem with many Indian men is that they still believe in this so called pure traditional Indian women who is loving and caring, believe me it is just a myth. Across India , even in small cities and towns, debauchery, degeneracy and decadence has become pervasive. Stop becoming that Beta Simp who is there just to fulfill the expectations of the entitled middle class princesses.You did not work so hard to take care of free-mongers.
I hope have got my message loud and clear.
Bhaveen Sheth
The Single Indian Man.
