The Indian Society will never understand the MGTOW Lifestyle-Bhaveen Sheth DOTSIM-INDIAN MGTOW

The above picture sums it all. Men Going Their Own Way is a  movement that originated in the West to counter the toxic effects of militant feminism. This movement has spread across the world and is now gaining popularity in India.

Known as the Indian Men Going Their Own Way, this movement has gained prominence since the year 2014. You have channels of you tube, pages on Facebook and posts on quora highlighting this movement. In a span of five years, this movement has gained a huge fan following and more youngsters are joining the MGTOW clan.

MGTOW is different from those Men's Right Activists movement that is made up of all divorced and separated Indian men and their families or men who are fighting difficult divorce cases in courts.

MGTOWs have realized the dark reality of the Indian marriage system and have walked away from it adopting a different lifestyle.

However our great Indian society will never understand the Indian MGTOW lifestyle. The MGTOW followers should not care at the criticism they face.

Indian men are reduced to nothing but providers, ATM Machines and EMI/Home Loan Payers. We as Indian men are commodified based on our education ,job, salary and house ownership. Indian men are forced to follow the norms of the society without asking any questions. They have to get married, have a child and start playing the role of husband and a father at a particular age and the cycle of life goes on.

Now what if a man chooses to break these societal norms. What if he decides not to get married and live his life independently? You all know. All hell breaks loose!

Firstly it is the parents and the relatives who will never accept the idea of a man choosing not to get married and living his life the way he wants. In India, men are expected to blindly follow the traditions of the society. Any form of deviance in not tolerated. Plus there are parents who want to see his son get married and have his own children. Only in India marriage and having children is the proof to certify that a man  is stable and potent (I hope you understand what I mean)

We also have a crab mentality in India. If someone is doing a good thing, there are 99 people out there to stop him from doing it. Married Indian men are jealous of MGTOWs for all the reason they can be. It is not easy to see a single Indian man living his life, enjoying all the good things, travelling across to different places and having no tension of home loans and EMI's. The married Indian man is stuck with home chores, babysitting and living a life he detests. Many married Indian men are stuck in dysfunctional marriages with spouses they love to hate. They are still in the marriage just for the sake of their children, parents and the society pressure.

Acceptance of MGTOWs will not be easy, Metro cities in India are becoming good places for MGTOWs to have a decent lifestyle but still there is criticism. Tier 2 and Tier 3 cities are stuck in the conservative rut. An unmarried Indian man beyond a certain age is unacceptable. People are bothered about others and their lifestyle.

Living for yourself is still considered selfish in India. People fail to understand that there is a difference in being selfish and self centered. If a man lives for himself and enjoys his own company, he is considered to be an outcast. 

As a veteran Indian MGTOW now at the age of 36, I believe that we don't owe anyone an explanation. Our society is currently witnessing extremes of toxic feminism and hyper gamy. No matter how much we explain to people on our choice of lifestyle, they will never accept it. We as a society live in denial. No one is cautious.No one wants to acknowledge false cases related to dowry, domestic violence etc etc.No one wants to accept that the institution of marriage has broken down.

This is the reason why MGTOW lifestyle is not accepted by the larger society. But here I ask one simple question? Are we breaking the law or committing a crime by being a MGTOW. Is remaining single and not getting married a grave crime? NO!!! The legal system does not have any problem. Our lifestyle is not harming anyone , so why care.

Just remember, If you are a MGTOW, you have the strength and courage to live an independent life, something that majority of the Indian men cannot do or still dream about. You are exploring yourself and going ahead by focusing on what you want and where you wish to be. So go ahead and live that MGTOW lifestyle.

As far the society is concerned, it can go to hell. 

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day promise to be back with a lot more.

Feelings of the Single Indian man while watching sunset-Bhaveen Sheth -DOTSIM-INDIAN MGTOW

As the sun sets down and the dusk takes over , you realize that just another lonely day is over.Just another day filled without love, care and affection.There is another lonely night that one has to endure. And still you look for another day, a day filled with hope, desire and expectations. Another day to look forward to make your life better.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

The commodification of the Indian man-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

The single Indian man would like to counter and challenge the feminist narrative about Indian women being objectified, meaning they are looked upon from their skin colour, looks and body shapes. But what about the Indian man. Is he not being treated as a commodity who comes with a price tag? Please find my reasoning in the below write up.

No other society has judged, labelled and priced its men like the Indian society, An Indian man is nothing but a sum total of his education, job designation, monthly salary, vehicle and property ownership. Rest does not matter. His character, morals behaviour and many other individual traits hold no importance.

The society treats an Indian man as a commodity put for display on a shelf.His job and salary decide his price tag and worth in the society. It is this very feature that makes him eligible in the marriage market.

For me, now a veteran MGTOW who gave up dreams on marriage a long time ago such things hardly matter.But I feel sorry for men who are looking out for a suitable life partner for marriage. Because they don't meet the required criteria they keep on getting rejected. Even the average Indian women who other wise have no significant achievements reject these men.

The commodification process of the Indian man starts right from his childhood, the day he was born.Good marks and grades in school, results of SSC and HSC, performance in entrance examinations, admission in good colleges, campus placements, packages and a lot more goes in the making up of a good Indian man.

The society complains  of the social evil called dowry. But aren't the Indian women equally responsible for it? Just look around, they all want well settled men who can take care of them and for that the girls parents are willing to go to any extent in paying a hefty dowry and financing a big fat Indian wedding. The truth is that the Indian men are bought at a price. This is the real commodification, the men come with a price tag.

The more successful the man is, the greater is his price tag in the marriage market.

Commodification of the Indian man has been existing from a long time. However in the last two decades it has reached magnanimous proportions. People often complain on the rising cases on divorces and breakdown in the family system but no one speaks on this evil of commodification. How can a marriage last when materialism and money take precedence over values, personality and behaviour. Does money and property decide long term compatibility?

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW.

Do we not feel? Don't we have emotions? Reflections of a single adult orphan.

I love the written word. I find solace in reading and writing. It is through my writings that I can express my feelings on loneliness, abandonment , prejudice, rage, dejection, disillusionment and helplessness.

These are my observations on living as a single adult orphan at the age of 36. In no way am I wallowing in self pity or seeking sympathy. However stories of my kind of people need to be read and heard by the general public so that they can empathize and not pass judgments or unnecessary conclusions.

So here I say, don't we feel? Don't we have emotions? Are we not human beings? Don't we have the right to live a happy life?

Twists and turns in fate and destiny can lead to drastic long term changes in the lives of people. It is resilience and capacity to cope that allows such people to come out of difficult situations.

No one discusses on the topic adult orphans.No one wants to know what kind of lives they   live. And yet if they chose to remain happy, the larger society has a problem with that.

Can't we be happy? Can't we enjoy just for ourselves? As an adult orphan there have been times when I have been called selfish. Is it wrong if I focus on my life? Is it wrong to be self centered?Yes I take myself out for lunch and dinner.I watch movies at cinema halls alone.I watch good movies/TV Shows and read good books. Should I wait for someone to come in my life in order to do this.

Don't we wish to travel and explore? There is a wanderer and explorer in all of us and travelling is something that we all want to do. Why should I wait for that someone special to come in my life? 

Aren't we humans? Don't we wish to be a part of a social circle? How much we wish to celebrate our important days and festivals with someone we are connected to. We also wish for companionship, love, care, affection and compassion.We wish to be loved and want to love someone special.We also look for a larger acceptance. We too have emotions. We brood silently, we keep our sorrows in our hearts. At times we feel sad and there is nothing that we can do about it.

Life is unfair and this is something that we adult orphans have accepted a long time ago. We don't want any form of pity and sympathy from the society.

What I find disgusting is that people question my trustworthiness, character, morals, integrity and background. People take me for granted when they realize that I don't have parents.it gives them the permission to speak whatever they want without realizing how I feel. No one says anything to mediocre men who also happen to be immature just because they have parents.

Can't we have some basic standards? Can't we have expectation?If any adult orphan were to have basic expectations, it goes against them. After all how of all the people can adult orphans can have expectations?Don't we have the right to choose? Are we street mongrels?

Why do we only get those alliances who have no takes? Why have we become someone's last resort , hobson's choice or devils alternative? Is it wrong to have basic expectations?

We may be adult orphans but we too are human beings.Stop criticizing us.Stop telling us to change. Stop telling us how we should live our lives. We know better than you. It is easy to pass comments but difficult to help us.We are what we are and have no complaints.

As normal human beings we strive for a better life everyday and wish to be happy. Just remember that we too are human being and we have emotions and feelings. Stop treating us as subhumans.