For the Indian man, it is education that crushes his child hood and Marriage that crushes his adulthood-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

A few days back I was reading a book where the author writes on the stress that Indian students face related to examinations , courtesy, our education system and high expectations of Indian parents. I thought over and realized how many Indian men loose the best years of their lives just by studying and rote learning. The age where one has to explore and learn new skills is spent on books. A typical day starts with school, coaching classes and studies at home. Where is the time for hobbies, sports, explorations and life skills?

Late teens and early 20's is all about slogging at colleges for assignments, marks, grades and GPA's and later its is about  placements,jobs and salaries. I mean when we reach 30 and look back, what is it that we have done? Do we have any hobbies? Do we have life skills? Hell , we can't even replace the punctured tyre of our two wheeler or can't even install a new ceiling fan? Have we travelled and done solo back packing anywhere? No!! Not even in India.

And then we as Indian men get married at the right age and after 2 years have a child. Life goes for a toss. It is office and home. Weekends are about going to D Mart/Big Bazaar and Malls or multiplexes. It is home loans, car loans and EMI's.

This is where marriage crushes your adult life. All those dreams and ambitions you had after completing your post graduation and on joining your first job just got fizzled out. I am not saying that marriage is a bad institution. But my point is that as Indian men , we should learn to experience life before tying the knot.

I have seen many married people having regrets on things that they wished for and wanted but  never happened due to the responsibilities that came with marriage.

Hence I write this blogpsot  that  if education destroys childhood then marriage destroys adulthood for men at least in India.

This is Bhaveen Sheth singing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH

INDIAN MGTOW

Sometimes they forget that we too are human beings-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Single Indian men are invisible creatures, they are forgotten and forsaken. No one barring a few have any interest in them. The society does not even consider them as Humans.People forget that we are single due to our circumstances or our own lifestyle choices. There are men who have gone through bitter separations and now wish to have no more of married life, there are men who have walked out of their dysfunctional families and have no one they can relate to and then there are men who are Adult Orphans having no one in this world.

However we too are human beings and we also have feelings,emotions, desires, hopes, hobbies and most important the right to dignified living. Why then are we ridiculed, taunted and put down because of our status?Why does the society shut its door on us and why are we isolated?

There are no definitive answers to what I have asked but the majority should understand that we too are humans and we have an equal right to live and enjoy our lives. The majority of the married folks don't understand, they cannot be empathetic. We are a society where everyone by default follows the rules and by rules it also means that your get married and settle down. The married majority looks upon us the single minority with some sort of prejudice and grudge.

And I say that we too are humans , we are also someone's children just like you are. We too are mortals who are vulnerable and who have made mistakes. We have gone through difficult times and come out of it.

In today's era of  militant and toxic feminism, misandry and gynocentrism, we have to be careful, we have to watch our backs. The women no longer have that grace and feminine values that a man looks for in a woman.The demands and expectations of the Indian women and their parents have made marriage to be extremely difficult. The humiliating experiences faced by many Indian men during matrimonial meets makes them question the very institution of marriage. This sacred institution is now reduced to nothing but materialistic demands made up of a 3 BHK apartment, annual foreign vacations, 1 luxurious car, evening dine outs and god knows what. As Indian men we are nothing but  providers and dispensable ATM cards.

And then you have men with no proper backgrounds, men who have walked away from their dysfunctional families or men who are orphans, these category of men who don't stand a chance of ever getting married because of their family backgrounds. I myself being an Adult Orphan have experienced first hand at the ill treatment of the society. I have no grudge or complaints, I just want to live my life.

There are many Indian men across India who are single by choice, many of them have adopted the MGTOW philosophy, They have nothing to do with marriage or society, these men are making the best to their lives, including me. We read, eat out , watch movies , take vacations, travel, pursue our hobbies and some even have short term flings. We are just living our lives. But then that is where the majority married folks have a problem. They can't see us doing all such things.

Time and again we are told that we are being selfish. Is it selfish to enjoy? Seriously dude! You are so prejudiced. Just thank us for whatever we do, at-least we don't break the law. We are not like those single Haryanvi men who are loaded with testesterone waiting to rape/molest any girl who comes across them. We are well aware of the gynocentric laws in our country and as decent educated law abiding citizens we keep a safe distance from women.

As Single Indian men we have the right to a dignified life. Our solo status is a not disability and we have the right to do things , simple ordinary things that makes us happy. We don't want to be questioned and we don't need any advice. To each one his own.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Avoid negative, depressed, frustrated and toxic Indian men-BHAVEEN SHETH INDIAN MGTOW

The single Indian man writes on the need to avoid toxic Indian men who have a negative influence upon you. Generally your behaviour gets shaped by the people around you and your daily interactions. Interactions with toxic Indian men will drain you emotionally and zap your energy. Mentioned below are the categories of Indian men you must avoid:

The frustrated married men:Being happily married is a myth, especially in India.Many married Indian men are frustrated being stuck in a dysfunctional marriage with spouses they hate. If truth be told, marriage is one big responsibility dumped on them due to parental pressure. Indian men are equally not prepared to take up responsibilities that come up with marriage and parenthood.Two years into a marriage leaves them with disillusionment.They are stuck at being a husband, father, husband, son-in-law and adding to their miseries are home loans, care loans, monthly expenditures etc etc. Many Indian men are denied sex by their wives leaving them sexually frustrated. They crib and complain for no reason, they lech upon young girls and talk bullshit and ridiculous things.Most of their conversations revolves around family and children and keep complaining about their dumb boring mediocre lives.Some will even share stories of their frustrated marriages, toxic spouses and dysfunctional marriages. Interactions with these men will leave you depressed and given young wrong picture about marriage.

The divorced men: If marriages are made in heaven then divorces are made in hell at-least in India. The complicated process of getting a divorce in Indian leaves you emotionally drained and financially bankrupt, courtesy, alimony and child support.Divorce scars a man emotionally.Many divorced men are not able to recover completely from their failed marriages. They carry their pasts like an albatross wrapped around their necks.Here are some of their common characteristics: Being aloof, becoming aggressive, extremely patriarchal, hating the women gender are some common characteristics. They have no hobbies or interests outside work. Some start looking for a soul mate immediately after divorce without introspecting what is wrong with them.Any interaction with them will leave you with a feeling that all Indian women are evil and poisonous.

The frustrated single Man: Now this is a sexually frustrated immature man child who has never grown up an wants to get married by hook or by crook.. Chances are that majority of these Indian men belong to the hinterlands of North Indian or what is known as the BIMARU states ( please google the acronym). For them getting married is a one stop solution to all their problems.And for some reason these men are not getting married.They keep on meeting prospective women and keep getting rejected leaving them disillusioned. Other than this they will blame the whole world for their problems.These men have nothing interesting to do in their lives other than their boring jobs, they have no other interests or hobbies.Any interacting with these men with make you feel worthless and you will get the feeling that solo living is indeed a wrong choice.

Life is all about ups and downs and there are 2 sides to everything . There are men who are happily married and then there are men who went through bad divorces, rehabilitated themselves and went on to live a wonderful life.There are men who are single living an adventurous life.. SO please do not limit your boundaries  based on your interaction with a few men especially the toxic ones.There is no need to associated with toxic men. Identify positive men and develop meaningful relationships with them.

Over the years I have realized that the company and social circle you keep can have a tremendous impact on your personality.If you want to have a vibrant and positive personality then you need to interact with the right kind of people.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth