Many of you readers who are following this blog visiting it regularly would be thinking that why as a veteran MGTOW and single Indian man has his profile active on shaadi.com. I can understand. As a veteran MGTOW and as a man who has now addicted to his solitude, marriage may not be possible.
However whenever I meet people, I am asked why I am single? To the majority I clearly state the gender biased laws and rising levels of gynocentrism and feminazism. However those who are close to me are clearly told that I am an adult orphan having no family of my own. My best friends are my family.
For over last 10 years I have been told that some decent family will always like me or a good hearted girl will choose me. After all it is the person that matters. However I know the reality. In our nation and society orphans have a difficult life ahead. Their lives are lonely and struggles are difficult.
In 2015, I had deleted my profile on matrimonial sites, however in 2016, on the insistence of a friend, I reactivated my profile. This time it was purely experimental as I wanted to witness the stark realities and dubious standards of the society.
And my assumption turned into reality. People saw my profile repeatedly and did not express interests, those who did, wanted a bio-data and some reference from my blood relatives, this in spite of writing that I don't have a family. The so called modern single independent woman or those who claimed to be that stated that she would discuss with her own family and she expressed apprehension. Some parents and sibling considered me as the Hobson's choice/last alternative where they could just dump their daughter/sister on me in order to fulfill their responsibility. I could understand their reasons, a daughter/sister will limited prospects to get married, normal families not accepting her alliance, finding some simple beta male who would just marry and keep the daughter with no questions asked, escaping from the taunts, jibes and criticism of having an aged unmarried daughter still sitting at home.
Even as I write this post, my profile is repeatedly visited, sometimes interests are expressed and nothing moves ahead. Of course it does not affect me at all. Marriage is not on my priority list. But I wanted to closely observe the society. Profile views and invitations are an experience. It confirms my assumptions about the bias, prejudice and double standards that people carry. It also shows the massive high standards and uncompromising beliefs that people have.
I am not here to criticize or pass judgement on anyone. Unfortunately people don't stop judging or having a poor thinking for orphans or people who don't have parents. Even at the age of 40, I am treated like a naive 25 year old boy. In India, people are not used to see men standing up for themselves, taking major life responsibilities and being independent. Time and again I hear this common statement "Beta (son), We need to talk to some elder in you family"? How can you take such an important decision all by yourself? Years back I would give an explanation. These days, I just hang up and delete and block their profiles. With age, I don't have the energy to engage in bullshit with toxic and judgmental people. And mind you these are people who have a 35 year old unmarried daughter and yet treat me like some low class servant. These experiences have shown me the miserable treatment that orphans go through just because they don't have parents or a family. Insults, humiliations and bad treatment.
But then I don't care. I have very well accepted my fate and destiny and intend to move forward. I have kept my profile active just to see some stark realities and share my experience with fellow single Indian men and MGTOWs.
Bhaveen Sheth
Indian MGTOW
