The single Indian men writes on the topic of why single Indian men should move out of their family homes and live separately either on rent or buy their own house.
Many single Indian men still live with their parents even when they have reached their late 20's and early 30's. Many of them are still not married.Such men may have good academic credentials and hold well paying jobs in multi national organizations, however they are quite poor in their life skills.
It is still their mothers who are cooking the food, doing laundry and managing the household.
In my experience I feel that many single Indian men lack the ability of being self dependent; Living an independent life is out of bounds for them.Some of these men want to get married as they want their spouse to perform the role of a maid, cook and housekeeper. If left on their own a majority of the Indian men cannot manage their own lives. I may sound critical but this is the reality.
Indian men are still traditional at heart, they feel that by moving out of their homes they are abandoning their families.This is not true. Problem is that they suffer from the Ram and Shravan syndrome.Those who live with their parents even at a mature age suffer from parental self dependence. Some men exhibit the behaviour of a teenage in domestic living while others have a man-child syndrome.In other cases the mother has a huge influence on a man's life and she still treats him like a baby.
Maturity takes over once you live independently. You learn to negotiate with the landlord, you understand the process and paperwork related to rent agreement or buying a flat on home loans.Necessity pushes you to grocery shopping, hunger makes you to learn cooking and visits by friends and acquaintances make you realize the importance of good housekeeping.Along with all this you get comfortable in your own skin, you realize the value of living independently and dealing with loneliness. The sense of undertaking responsibility falls upon you. This is when you mature into an independent person.
Today many matrimonial disputes happen when the spouse has to live with the in laws. Co-habiting with an individual is one of thing, living with a new set of people who expect the woman to follow a new set of rules and impose conditions upon her is not easy.Two decades ago things were different, now the women are educated and empowered, they don't take shit from anyone. To any single Indian man who even wants to get married and have a harmonious life, living independently is the first thing they should do.
For those who are chronic bachelors, divorced and separated, please move out. How long do you expect your parents to take care of you? When will you grow up? Believe me , if you want to truly live a meaningful life please start living on your own.
Wish you all the best
Bhaveen Sheth
Indian MGTOW
Single Indian Man
