Single Indian men need to move out of their family homes-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW-DOTSIM

The single Indian men writes on the topic of why single Indian men should move out of their family homes and live separately either on rent or buy their own house.

Many single Indian men still live with their parents even when they have reached their late 20's and early 30's. Many of them are still not married.Such men may have good academic credentials and hold well paying jobs in multi national organizations, however they are quite poor in their life skills.

It is still their mothers who are cooking the food, doing laundry and managing the household.

In my experience I feel that many single Indian men lack the ability of being self dependent; Living an independent life is out of bounds for them.Some of these men want to get married as they want their spouse to perform the role of a maid, cook and housekeeper. If left on their own a majority of the Indian men cannot manage their own lives. I may sound critical but this is the reality.

Indian men are still traditional at heart, they feel that by moving out of their homes they are abandoning their families.This is not true. Problem is that they suffer from the Ram and Shravan syndrome.Those who live with their parents even at a mature age suffer from parental self dependence. Some men exhibit the behaviour of a teenage in domestic living while others have a man-child syndrome.In other cases the mother has a huge influence on a man's life and she still treats him  like a baby.

Maturity takes over once you live independently. You learn to negotiate with the landlord, you understand the process and paperwork related to rent agreement or buying a flat on home loans.Necessity pushes you to grocery shopping, hunger makes you to learn cooking and visits by friends and acquaintances make you realize the importance of good housekeeping.Along with all this you get comfortable in your own skin, you realize the value of living independently and dealing with loneliness. The sense of undertaking responsibility falls upon you. This is when you mature into an independent person.

Today many matrimonial disputes happen when the spouse has to live with the in laws. Co-habiting with an individual is one  of thing, living with a new set of people who expect the woman to follow a new set of rules and impose conditions upon her is not easy.Two decades ago things were different, now the women are educated and empowered, they don't take shit from anyone. To any single Indian man who even wants to get married and have a harmonious life, living independently is the first thing they should do.

For those who are chronic bachelors, divorced and separated, please move out. How long do you expect your parents to take care of you? When will you grow up? Believe me , if you want to truly live a meaningful life please start living on your own.

Wish you all the best

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Single Indian Man

Another IIT-IIM alumnus engineer commits suicide in Noida-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Please read the story below:

The family of a 39-year-old software engineer, who allegedly took his life on Monday morning by jumping from the balcony of his 10th floor apartment in Sector 128, has filed a case of abetment to suicide against his wife and in-laws.

Even though no suicide note was recovered from the spot, the family suspects that his ongoing marital discord and financial trouble pushed him to suicide.

The family said they first got a call around 10am from a security guard of the society who said the man, an alumnus of IIT-Kanpur and IIM-Ahmedabad, had “burnt down his house and was admitted to a private hospital nearby”.

“When we reached the society, we found that he had jumped from his balcony and was dead,” the father, a resident of Delhi, said in his police complaint.

The family blames his wife for him ending his life. The couple had got married in 2014. According to family members, she was posted in a PSU in Haridwar at that time and he was working with a private firm in Gurugram.

“After a while, they both got transfers to Noida and moved to Sector 45. Soon afterwards, they started facing problems and my son ended up losing his job. He started his own venture but that also failed to take off. He was being constantly pressured by her family and one day, he told me that his father-in-law and two brothers-in-law had assaulted him and threatened to harm him. He had moved to the Sector 128 house after he filed for separation,” said the father in his complaint.

The wife had also filed a case against him, accusing him of subjecting her to cruelty, almost two years ago, when they separated. “He was under a lot of pressure and told us that her family was asking for Rs 50 lakh and a flat to withdraw that case. We are convinced that it was the physical and mental harassment that led my son to take this step,” he said.

Based on the father’s complaint, a case was registered at the Expressway police station under IPC Section 306 against the wife, her parents and two brothers.

Police said the wife is working now in Noida. “So far, the family has not been able to provide her exact address. We are working on this. A probe in the matter is underway. Due legal action will be taken soon,” Bhuvnesh Kumar, station house officer, Expressway police station, said.

The body was handed over to the family following an autopsy.

Another decent man has given up his life due to marital problems. How long will this continue? This person with a brilliant academic background had to take his own life. No one cares. The Indian society will turn a blind eye to this news. Had a woman with such an educational background committed suicide , all hell would have broken loose. The patriarchal Indian society would have been blamed and her husband would have been shamed and put through a media trial. But this is not the case.

Every year many Indian men commit suicide due to marital problems predominantly being harassment at the hands of wives and in laws. What have we turned marriage into? A goddamn business transaction!!!

There is no way Indian men can keep on living like this. It is better to choose the MGTOW lifestyle and live for yourself. 

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and will be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW  

The movie Motichoor-Chaknachoor portrays 30 plus single Indian men in a bad light-Bhaveen Sheth-INDIAN MGTOW

For those who have not seen the trailer, I kindly request you to do the same below:

This movie shows a 36 year old Indian man desperate to get married to anyone at any cost. I mean , what the hell?. Why showcase 30 plus single Indian men in such a poor taste? This gives a wrong impression to the general public which has already formed a generalized opinion about single Indian men. Why are 30 plus single Indian men being stereotyped?

I have hardly come across a movie or a web series wherein a 30 or 40 plus single Indian man is normal, happy and content with his life. Either he is shown to be a gay or a divorcee/widower or some kind of psychotic villain. Why can't Bollywood make a movie capturing the struggles of 30 plus single Indian men? Why is there not a single movie which showcases the urban loneliness that many single Indian men working in metro cities face?

I would also state how the greed of the female character played by Athiya Shetty is not only justified but glorified? It is okay if she wants only wants an NRI groom and will not settle for less in spite of having no achievements of her own. The man's character played by Nawazuddin Siddqui tries to show 30 plus single Indian men to be losers. The short, dark and ugly kind of guy whom no one wants to marry. 

I just hate this disgusting portrayal of men. Imagine if the genders were reversed and the female character was shown in a bad light. I am dead sure the feminists and feminazis would have had a field day and would have got the movie banned. But then who cares if Indian men are given a bad characterization. No one raises his/her voice.

I feel sad that Indian men especially those who are 30 plus and single are show cased as losers and failures.

I will watch this movie and write my opinion but this wrong portrayal of 30 plus single Indian men is not acceptable.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Importance of solo life and double standards of being in a reltionship- Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

The Single Indian man aka Indian MGTOW cam across this wonderful post of the importance of solo life and double standards of being in a relationship. Hope you will like it

Why are lot of Indian Men voluntarily opting out of marriage and choosing to live a solo life-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

The single Indian man writes on an increasing trend wherein a lot of (sane)Indian men are choosing not to get married and remain single.

Initially when I chose a solitary life, I felt that my decision was wrong but I had no other choice but  to remain single due to my destiny. Over the years I started interacting with Indian men who remained single by choice.The MGTOW movement finally came to India in the year 2015 and many Indian MGTOW groups and channels started appearing on the Internet and you tube.

This write up is for those Indian men who decided to remain single by choice.

Why is it that in a society that centers around families and marriages do some make take a drastic decision to remain single? Especially when they are going to face taunts and criticisms from people.

In the points below I would like to explain the reasons:

The Humiliating Matrimonial Experiences 

I am sure that every Indian man of a marriagable age would have gone through such experiences. Many of these meetings are outright humiliating. Nowadays women and their families have sky high expectations. In my previous posts I have mentioned about such instances. Humiliations are not left upto men only, it extends to their parents and siblings. The women and their parents leave no stone unturned in criticizing , taunting, ridiculing and passing cheap comments. The marriage talks are extremely depressing and distressing for the Indian man. How does it feel to see your parents being humiliated on materialistic grounds? What happens when a man observes sadness in the eyes of the his parents when a marriage proposal is rejected? Men eventually realize that it is better to focus on something else that is more meaningful rather than marriage.

The rising demands and expectations of  Indian Women

Nowadays it is observed that many Indian women transform into gold diggers the moment they reach a marriagable age. All want the same thing: The man should earn a six figure monthly salary, have his own flat (minimum 2 bhk), a nice fancy car, provide 2 foreign vacations in a year and above all take care of her shopping expenses (that are never ending). Please tell me how many Indian men achieve this by the time they reach 30? And all this for what? Just to get married!!And that too for a female who has done basic graduation, has a mediocre dead end job and is a bit good looking blessed with a fair skin!!! Men are gradually realizing that they don't need to compromise just for an average woman who otherwise will have no value addition in marriage.

Indian marriage laws can leave you bankrupt and turn you into a criminal

India's family laws are biased towards women and are strongly anti-male. There are 50 such draconian laws. Our empowered Indian women use all the provisions and sections of these laws when their marriage goes down hill.These laws are used as a vendetta in order to settle scores with the husband and in-laws. Huge sums are extorted in the name of alimony, settlement, maintenance and childcare.This has left many men bankrupt and with numerous men having criminal charges filled against them. Wise men have had a first hand experience in observing such cases within their own families or friend circle.Newspapers and social media is a doing a credible job in highlighting the rampant abuse of marital laws. This has made many wise men understand that marriage is not worth the risk.

When self esteem takes a hit

No one accepts this but emotional abuse of Indian men at the hands of their wives exists. Though denied by the society emotional abuse happens in terms of verbal abuse , taunts, comparisons, bad words and silent treatment.In one of my post I have written a long article on this topic. Emotional abuse destroys a man from within and this is a primary reason why many married Indian men commit suicide. I have observed the self esteem of many married Indian men who are stuck in dysfunctional marriages with emotionally abusive wives. The look on their faces reminds you of a caged animal who is repeatedly abused. Such men are prone to snap emotionally and turn violent. If someone has been wise enough to observe such things and it is also wise to remain single.

Lessons learnt from Middle Class Upbringing

For a middle class generation who grew up in the 80s and the 90s ,life was quite different than it is today. We did not have the luxuries that are easily available to today's generation.Remember how one joint family had to accommodate in a small house, an entire family sitting in front of a small TV set, rationing of food, books and clothes, living life on a shoe string budget. Yes , we have struggled, many have also seen difficult days during both those decades. We may feel nostalgic about the 80s and 90s but life was not easy. Now as grown men who got a decent education and a well paying job in an organization we are enjoying the spoils of consumerism with all our hard earned money. We have memberships at fitness clubs, drive a decent car, watch American TV Shows on Netflix and do a lot of other interesting activities. Why throw this life away just to get married? Why leave all this just for an above average looking, fair skinned, gold digger woman who have no significant achievements till date and will not bring any value addition in a marriage. I hope you get my point.

New avenues and activities for people living solo

Two decades ago a single man would have died of boredom but not now there are so many avenues and activities to engage a single Indian man.Just have a look are the list below:

American TV Shows
Video Games
Books and Kindle
Solo backpacking
Solo Biking
Correspondence Education
Online Certifications
Classes to pursue your hobbies in music, writing and photography,
Gymnasium and Marathon events

You can add more to this list but seriously with all of the above mentioned things easily accessible why the hell you need to get married.

Individual Quality of Life does matter

Somewhere down the line we as India  men have stopped thinking for ourselves, stopped living for ourselves. Since childhood an Indian man has been brainwashed that he is a protector and care taker, he should fulfill the expectations of everyone around him over his own dreams. We Indian men are the Rams and Shravans. No one cares about the lives of the Indian men. Some wise Indian men have realized that their lives matter and have started taking responsibility for the same.They are defying the rules of the society and focusing on themselves.They are doing this by not getting married and remaining single.

Challenges of being a married Indian men

Married life is not a bliss, certainly not for the Indian man. Setting up a new home, meeting the demands of the wife, home loans, car loans, school fees, expenses related to children is challenging. Our elders may have counselled us that marriage makes a man responsible but I think otherwise. Married Indian men have unnecessary burdens and responsibilities dumped upon them for no reason. One has to keep everyone happy, attend each and every social function whether he likes it or not. Married life is no easy cakewalk.

Exposure to the evil side of Women

We are now  very well aware of the evil and sinister side of Indian women. We have know about Rohtak sisters, Jasleen Kaur, Indrani Mukherjea, Zaira Wasim and a lot more. We have come across radical feminists and feminazis somewhere.Some men have been in relationships with these women and have suffered abuse at their hands, others have married such women and have gone through an acrimonious separation process. Newspapers are filled with stories wherein the wife partnered along with her paramour in order to kill her husband. There was one story wherein a woman killed her entire family just because she wanted to spend the rest of his life her boyfriend. Mens rights forum have highlighted the diabolical side of women.All this has made Indian men repulsive towards marriage.

A deep realization that you are not made for marriage.

As men we must realize and accept whether we are made for marriage or not.Are we capable of handling a marriage or not?Are we willing to give up our solo life, our freedom and our solitude?Are we emotionally and psychologically fit for marriage. At the end of the day it boils down to our own personal competency and capability. There is more to married life than just the engagement and the ceremony.For those of us who come from broken or dysfunctional families, for those who have heartbroken by multiple breakups, for those who are volatile in matters of love, for those who have been alone for a long time, it comes to a moment of deep realization that we are not made for marriage and it is something we need to stop chasing. We should chose to life alone.

With this I end my blog post and I hope my thoughts find acceptance among many single Indian men.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

The Indian Society brainwashes its men into becoming Beta Males aka Simps- Bhaveen Sheth – DOTSIM - INDIAN MGTOW

In many aspects the Indian Society is a wonderful  Institution. It teaches peace tolerance, co-existence, live and let live philosophy. Most of the time the family is a strong backbone to support and nurture an individual.

However with all its positive aspects there are certain negative aspects of the Indian Society. The most harmful of those are to covert its men into beta males/simps/female suckers.

Most of the Indian men hardly grow up, mentally, emotionally or spiritually. Burdened with expectations from the time they are born, they are force to fulfill the dreams expectations of their parents. Their formative years go in studying, preparing for entrance and competitive exams graduation, post graduation and seeking jobs in good organizations. Hobbies, sports and extra-cirricular activities do not get any attention. The Indian man does not develop completely.

The Indian society brainwashes its men into false ideology of being a provider and protector. Since childhood his behaviour is molded to suit the needs of the society. The other ideology taught to men is that they need the support of a woman /soul mate/life partner. Other tham a decent job with a good salary having that dream girl as your wife becomes an ultimate goal of your life.

This is where the men bow down and try to change/modify their behaviours to suit the needs of a woman. This is where the Indian man’s self respect takes a hit and self esteem is based upon the validation of a woman. And what validation? You behave to suit the needs of a woman!!! You have to fulfill her needs and expectations!!! This is what a majority of the marriages in India are all about.

Bollywood is another source that falsely glorifies and over hypes love, romance and marriage and so do marriage functions. Every other Indian man thinks that marriage and a wife is the ultimate source of happiness.

The Indian man is hardly left on his own, to think for himself, to realize what he wants. Few men are able to introspect what they really want. Few men travel solo to realize their own hidden potential and what they can really achieve. Individualism is not encouraged by our society.

This is how the Indian society converts its men into beta males and simps. In India, majority of the married Indian men have become second class citizens and unknowingly they have accepted this position.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

On Psychological Freedom-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Taking wisdom from the writings of OSHO, the Indian MGTOW would like to talk on Psychological Freedom.

Speaking of Indian men,majority do not have psychological freedom.They are bound by the rules of the society and have to follow them. The rules are very clear: get an education, get a job, get married, have children, take care of them and go on with your family life.The Indian society is all about authoritarianism and Indian men are under psychological slavery.

How many Indian men are independently think for themselves? How many are willing to live alone and explore themselves? Few!!!

Psychological slavery is like a prison, it indoctrinates you with the thought that happiness will come in your life if your follow the rules of the society and should you tread your own path, you will suffer.This my friend is psychological slavery. Why should every man in India go through the same experience?

How about taking a sabbatical after your education? How about pursuing something that you really like? How about not getting married and remaining single?

Indian society does not tolerate individualism. A man with his own independent thinking is a threat to the society because it will lose its authority.

A psychologically free Indian man will hurt the businesses of many people. The online matrimonial sites, marriage contractors, hospitals, schools, shopping malls, gift shops etc will be affected. Banks will loose another home loan/EMI slave.Gold diggers will lose another eligible India bachelor.

A psychologically free man is an object of envy because he no longer cares for the rules of the society.He peacefully follows his own path. The tribe of married Indian man resents and envies him for the freedom he enjoys.

Every man deserves psychological freedom.The Indian government has ensured this right since our country became independent.However the Indian society has taken away this right.The Indian man can chose and tread his own path and should he do, the Indian society will criticize him. An Indian man is really free when he stops following the dubious standards of the Indian society, he is free when he stops meeting the expectations of others and lives for himself.

Psychological freedom bring immense responsibility and promotes independent thinking eventually leading to individual growth and development.Let the message be loud and clear. This is what MGTOW lifestyle is all about: Psychological Freedom.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH

Indian MGTOW

A brief history on the MGTOW movement in Indian-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW-DOTSIM

MGTOW stands for Men Going Their Own Way!!This is a movement that started way back in the 70's where strong self sufficient men in the West started rejecting the concept of marriage and eventually began living life on their own terms.

No one ever thought that this movement would make its way into India. India has a strong society where family serves as a protective roof for an individual.With the advent of feminism in India in the 80's, institutions like family, marriage and extended social relations started getting affected. In 1983 there was an amendment in the dowry act, criminalizing dowry which invoked a draconian section known as 498 A Dowry act.More amendments followed. In 2005, the Domestic Violence act was invoked followed by amendments in many other laws that were anti-male and ant-marriage. These laws made it very clear that should the marriage fail, the man and his family were to lose everything: money, reputation and property.

The early decade of 90's witnessed economic liberalization and end of the license raj, bureaucracy and redtapism. A free market started and many industrial sectors opened up to foreign investments. Cable TV and satellite television made its way into our living rooms and so did western culture. With Ekta Kappors's family drama soaps occupying  prime time on all popular channels we got to witness the rise in the toxicity and paranoia amongst the young Indian girls especially from small cities and towns.

Economic liberalization brought new opportunities in India and jobs paid higher salaries. Men started earning good packages reaping the benefits of a growing economy. IT and IT enabled services picked up in India generating jobs offering good salaries. Similarly, MBA's with college placements offering unheard packages become the talk of the town.

Women became equally empowered by obtaining a decent educations and joining the work force. Unfortunately by the late 90's the institution of marriage was commercialized. The girl and her parents started looking for benefits in the marriage. Who earned a better salary?Which man had a green card?Who had got an onsite posting? Who owned a house of his own? Men started being looked upon as commodities. No one was interested in behaviour, character and integrity. Morals did not mater in the face of materialism.

By the dawn of the 21st century, the Indian man had become a commodity in the marriage market. His education, job, monthly salary, bank balance and property etc defined his marital prospects. Simultaneously third wave feminism hit India. Indian women became more demanding. An over pampered generation of women were looking for benefits and luxuries from marriage. When their marriages did not work out, they went the courts and a new trend emerged where in women started filling all kinds of false cases like 498 A, DV, mental harassment etc against the husbands and the in-laws.Innocent men became the victims of a gender biased and prejudiced legal system.

In early 2000's the men's rights movement started. It was a stand taken against the false cases filled by a women and their  families against the husbands. Internet followed by social media brought an awareness on this issue.

In the early 10's, the MGTOW movement finally arrived in India. Wise Indian men decided to take the red pill and go the MGTOW way. By this time the institution of marriage had become dysfunctional.Men had seen what damage  failed marriages had brought upon other men.You tube channels started spreading awareness on the MGTOW movement. Matrimonial websites exposed the underbelly of greed and materialism of the women and their parents.Such stories of greed and gold diggers were shared on Qoura, a popular story sharing site.

By 2019, the time when I am writing this post, the MGTOW movement is active across Indian with new followers joining it each day.

Just forget marriage, MGTOW men have nothing to do with women. The METOO movement has become another example of toxic feminzasim.

This is how the MGTOW movement started and gain popularity in India and as a veteran MGTOW, I just thought of writing a brief history.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and will be back with a lot more.

BHAVEEN SHETH

INDIAN MGTOW

The INDIAN MGTOW turns 37-Bhaveen Sheth-DTOSIM

This month on 13th of May , the Indian MGTOW turned 37. On my birthday I look back every year and think on the knowledge, skills and wisdom that I have gained in the years gone by.

I did celebrate my 37th birthday by taking 2 days off.  In 2016 and 2017, I had gone to Goa and Gokarna to celebrate my birthday. However for the last 2 years I have chosen to stay at home and spend some quality time in solitude.

Every Indian MGTOW has the right to celebrate his birthday. Being alone does not mean we forget important events related to our lives. We need to take out time and enjoy.

I have come to realize that MGTOW lifestyle is wonderful and am happy to have made a decision to go MGTOW. At 37 , I am far more happy than the married Indian men whom I come across. There are no financial responsibilities and no stress related to spouse and children.

MGTOW lifestyle has its own advantages and plus points that our Indian society will never understand. Of course I am labelled as a selfish, self serving and self occupied person. I often get criticized by these so called happily married men for enjoying life all by myself. I don't care. I never take the opinion of married Indian men seriously. In today's times marriage is nothing but a sham, a fake show put up by people to comply by the rules of the society. We all know that marriage for all its positive points has become dysfunctional. But then fools cannot understand logic and I am not here to give an explanation.

There is a wonderful phrase, Every man for himself. To each one his own. This is what I believe in. Focus on yourself .

Many of my fellow INDIAN MGTOW's will be under pressure from their families as they are still not married. Hey Guys!!! Just chill. You have a perfect life. be happy. And if you want an inspiration, just look at me, 37 and still not married, living a MGTOW life. I have no regrets on the decision I took.

At 37 I still have dreams and ambitions. I dream of becoming a biker and travelling across India on a wonderful motorcycle.

Here I am at 37 wishing all my fellow single Indian men and MGTOWs all the very best. Follow your dreams and live your life.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

The Single Indian Man AKA Indian MGTOW buys his first Car-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-INDIAN MGTOW

The Single Indian Man would like to share with his fellow single Indian men and MGTOW friends that he has finally bought himself a car. Yes!!! This is my first car bought at the age of 36. I went for TATA NANO Advance version car 2017 model with power steering and power windows. No Car loan taken and no EMI's to be paid. This is an achievement for me. Please find the pictures below:

I am sharing this to inspire my fellow Indian Men who have decided to live a MGTOW lifestyle. There are wonderful benefits in living for yourself and going your own way.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

When I don't feel sorry for myself then why do you feel sorry for me?

Speaking as a first person the single Indian man would like to address all those people who feel sorry for him due to his condition.

You see me as an individual, as a single man who is still not married, you come to know that I am an adult orphans and don't have anyone.Suddenly you are overwhelmed with emotions of sympathy and you start feeling sorry for me.Why?Do I look like someone who wants sympathy?

I am living life on my own terms and happy with my current status quo. I don't pity myself  then why do you?

Being single is not a disease.Some are programmed to live alone.Over the course of the years I have become comfortable with my single status and don't feel the need to get married.

You are married and have a family, I wish you all the best and I hope that you focus on your life.I will find a way to take care of myself so please don't show any concern for me.

I live in the present and am very optimistic about my future.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

The Death of a Single lonely Indian Man-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-INDIAN MGTOW

The single Indian man would like to write about an event he witnessed two years ago on the death of  a single lonely Indian man in the same building that he resides in.

I had seen this man, he was in his early 50's,single, lonely and battling mid life crisis.Like all people who come from small towns to big cities seeking better employment opportunities, he too belonged to the same category. From what I came to know about him, he was a teaching faculty in one of those coaching classes for MBA CAT and MAT.

He seemed to be aloof.He was unmarried,kept up to himself hardly interacting  with people.There were a few times when I saw him speaking with the building caretaker. He seemed to be overtly expressive, talking a lot. It seemed that he had no one to talk to.A classic syndrome of prolonged loneliness.When you get an opportunity to talk , you keep talking non stop.

In his physical appearance he seemed to have aged 10 -15 years more that his current age.He looked shabby and did not care much about his appearance.His clothes were loose, he hardly shaved and looked more like a hippy.I guess he had stopped taking care of himself.

Loneliness did not kill him. It were the vices associated with loneliness that did..His drinking habit took away his life.I guess he used to consume alcohol on  daily basis beyond the permissible limits (as per medical sciences). He looked wasted. I guess alcohol had already taken a huge toll on his health. Till date I do not why did he find his solace in alcohol. What was it? A broken marriage, betrayal in love, a dysfunctional family or a difficult childhood.Some people take their secrets to their graveyards without sharing with anyone.

No one knows when this lonely man died. He did not come out of his room for three days.A foul smell started coming from his room.His door was forced open and he was found lying lifeless like a wasted cadaver.The police was promptly informed. His sister and brother in law were called and all formalities related to his death were processed.There was no mourning, there was no funeral.Considering the difficulty in taking the dead body to his home town, his last rites were done in a nearby place.

This is how the life of a single lonely man came to an end.It is true that all of us are going to die one day but no one deserves a death like this. No one deserves to die like a street mongrel or a sewer rodent.Such kind of a death is humiliating to the human soul.

We as Single Indian men must learn from this. We should never fall for evil vices.Be it alcohol or anything.Never neglect your health and well being. Go outside and connect with people.Develop creative hobbies and start engaging in them.Work hard to create a meaningful life.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

The rise in the population of India's ineligible bachelors and leftover men

While our society has shown a growing concern on Indian women not getting married after a certain age and more and more women remaining single, no one has tried to shed  light on the sudden and steep rise in the numbers of ineligible unmarried Indian men or better known as leftover men/bare branches.

These are men who have failed to get married for reasons obviously known to them, Demographically these men are found in huge numbers in the Northern part of India where decades of selective sex determination tests have led to female infanticide and abortions. Now these regions are facing a grave shortage of women.This is just one reason why we see so many unmarried Indian men.The other reason is the high standards, expectations and demands of Indian women when it comes to marriage.Time and again I have stated that Indian women marry higher up in the socio economic ladder. They prefer men who have better jobs earning a good salary package.Some men have not been as successful on the job and career front, some men are stuck in a dead end job with no further growth. These are the men who get rejected in the matrimonial market.

And then there are men belonging to a second category. These men hold good jobs and earn a decent salary. Unfortunately they come with their own fundamental flaws or personal in-competencies. These are men who are physically abnormal (too dark, short, obsese, short and scrawny), men who have poor social skills, they can't initiate a conversation with an unknown woman, men who lack self-esteem and self confidence which is noticeable from the body language.

So here you have a rising population of ineligible single Indian men, something that the Indian government should notice.This population is made up of disheartened and depressed men.Some of these men have hateful feelings towards the married Indian population.Being a left over Indian man deals a big blow one's ego especially for the men from North India.I also want to mention that these men are prone to indulge in bad habits like alcohol, drugs and women.Those days are not far when i will see these Indian men wasting their lives and careers because of their addiction to such vices.

Indian men have never been conditioned to live a solo life. They can"t accept the fact that they have to move on and go solo even after countless rejections from prospective brides.Indian society has indoctrinated its men in the philosophy that marriage is the be all and end all of life.Men are not able to come in terms with their solo status.

India and Indian society needs to make efforts in order to accommodate this population of ineligible bachelors.For starters the Indian society should stop taunting and making fun of  these single Indian men. There is no point in making fun of a person who is not married just because you are happily married and have a family does not mean that everyone should follow the bandwagon. People should learn to practice empathy towards single Indian men.Single Indian men are human beings. Stop treating them as some kind of an infected animal who needs to be quarantined. Learn to accommodate them on the social front. Let them live their lives the way they want.

The government also needs to pitch in be giving support to these men.Start helplines/hire counselors to deal with the problems of single men.Give incentives to builders to make studio apartments.

Concluding this post I state that in the coming years the population os single Indian men will rise and efforts need to be put in to accommodate them.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.

The Indian Society will never understand the MGTOW Lifestyle-Bhaveen Sheth DOTSIM-INDIAN MGTOW

The above picture sums it all. Men Going Their Own Way is a  movement that originated in the West to counter the toxic effects of militant feminism. This movement has spread across the world and is now gaining popularity in India.

Known as the Indian Men Going Their Own Way, this movement has gained prominence since the year 2014. You have channels of you tube, pages on Facebook and posts on quora highlighting this movement. In a span of five years, this movement has gained a huge fan following and more youngsters are joining the MGTOW clan.

MGTOW is different from those Men's Right Activists movement that is made up of all divorced and separated Indian men and their families or men who are fighting difficult divorce cases in courts.

MGTOWs have realized the dark reality of the Indian marriage system and have walked away from it adopting a different lifestyle.

However our great Indian society will never understand the Indian MGTOW lifestyle. The MGTOW followers should not care at the criticism they face.

Indian men are reduced to nothing but providers, ATM Machines and EMI/Home Loan Payers. We as Indian men are commodified based on our education ,job, salary and house ownership. Indian men are forced to follow the norms of the society without asking any questions. They have to get married, have a child and start playing the role of husband and a father at a particular age and the cycle of life goes on.

Now what if a man chooses to break these societal norms. What if he decides not to get married and live his life independently? You all know. All hell breaks loose!

Firstly it is the parents and the relatives who will never accept the idea of a man choosing not to get married and living his life the way he wants. In India, men are expected to blindly follow the traditions of the society. Any form of deviance in not tolerated. Plus there are parents who want to see his son get married and have his own children. Only in India marriage and having children is the proof to certify that a man  is stable and potent (I hope you understand what I mean)

We also have a crab mentality in India. If someone is doing a good thing, there are 99 people out there to stop him from doing it. Married Indian men are jealous of MGTOWs for all the reason they can be. It is not easy to see a single Indian man living his life, enjoying all the good things, travelling across to different places and having no tension of home loans and EMI's. The married Indian man is stuck with home chores, babysitting and living a life he detests. Many married Indian men are stuck in dysfunctional marriages with spouses they love to hate. They are still in the marriage just for the sake of their children, parents and the society pressure.

Acceptance of MGTOWs will not be easy, Metro cities in India are becoming good places for MGTOWs to have a decent lifestyle but still there is criticism. Tier 2 and Tier 3 cities are stuck in the conservative rut. An unmarried Indian man beyond a certain age is unacceptable. People are bothered about others and their lifestyle.

Living for yourself is still considered selfish in India. People fail to understand that there is a difference in being selfish and self centered. If a man lives for himself and enjoys his own company, he is considered to be an outcast. 

As a veteran Indian MGTOW now at the age of 36, I believe that we don't owe anyone an explanation. Our society is currently witnessing extremes of toxic feminism and hyper gamy. No matter how much we explain to people on our choice of lifestyle, they will never accept it. We as a society live in denial. No one is cautious.No one wants to acknowledge false cases related to dowry, domestic violence etc etc.No one wants to accept that the institution of marriage has broken down.

This is the reason why MGTOW lifestyle is not accepted by the larger society. But here I ask one simple question? Are we breaking the law or committing a crime by being a MGTOW. Is remaining single and not getting married a grave crime? NO!!! The legal system does not have any problem. Our lifestyle is not harming anyone , so why care.

Just remember, If you are a MGTOW, you have the strength and courage to live an independent life, something that majority of the Indian men cannot do or still dream about. You are exploring yourself and going ahead by focusing on what you want and where you wish to be. So go ahead and live that MGTOW lifestyle.

As far the society is concerned, it can go to hell. 

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day promise to be back with a lot more.