Hello everyone, This is Bhaveen Sheth. My blog pens down thoughts and experiences on myself and life in general living as a Single Indian male in the complicated Indian Society.
It is also for all the like minded Single Indian Males who want to find a meaning in their lives.This blog will address problems pertaining to the single Indian men, their hopes, aspirations, dreams, difficulties, problems etc. You can share your experiences living as a single male in India with me.
One of the prime benefits that comes with being single and living a MGTOW lifestyle is that you are no longer a part of the rat race of the Indian society. We have all heard about the rat race in corporate organizations but no one speaks on the rat race of the Indian society. This is an inconvenient truth, a taboo that we don't want to discuss.
The society's rat race is visible during family gatherings and social functions. As a man you are compared with other men based on your marriage, how beautiful your wife is, the type of car you own, the apartment you live in, annual vacations, your job, salary, promotion, kids and a whole lot of things.
There are times when this kind of comparison leads to jealousy, resentment and disappointment within men. Not everyone is a successful corporate professional, not everyone is earning a hefty package of 2 Lakhs per month. And still comparison has no end.
When you decide to be single and follow the MGTOW lifestyle, you are away from this society rat race. As you are single you hardly get invited to any social gatherings. And once you become a veteran MGTOW, you yourself start avoiding these otherwise unwanted functions. Profession and job takes you away from your home city hence your contact with relatives is limited. No one compares you or criticizes you. You don't have to please anyone. You are working to make your life better and become a better person than you were yesterday. You are at peace with yourself.
This is one of the less discussed but most important benefits of being MGTOW. Remember this folks. It may help you in taking an important life decision wisely.
In India every Indian man is mandated to play the role of a protector and provider, majority being brainwashed from childhood on how they are to become good sons and caring husbands. The path is clear : Be a good and obedient boy, get good grades in school, get admission into a good college and taken up medicine, engineering or management, get a good job in an MNC and get married to the girl of your parents choice.
The Indian man is expected to be a provider and protector. He can't escape the same. Now what happens when some Indian men refuse to do the same? What happens when men decide to stay single or live a MGTOW Lifestyle?
In my experience the society goes all out in humiliating and lambasting such men. Speaking from my personal experience, I have seen how the society labels such men including myself as losers and failures. We are often criticized for not getting married and having children, that we are not taking our responsibilities seriously? Indian society cannot tolerate men who want to live for themselves.
Now I would like to ask "When did remaining single and living for yourself become a crime"? "And why is the society inconsiderate to single Indian men?" The answer lies in the fact that when a man refuses to undertake mandated slavery that comes in the form of marriage, being a husband and being a parent is just not acceptable to the society. Especially when majority of the folks are happily willing to undertake slavery.
Breaking the shackles and going against the tide was never easy. Men who live for themselves will always be criticized and be looked down upon. No one wants to see a happy single man , especially in India. A single Indian man eventually if he wants can have a wonderful life. He has no major responsibilities, he is not under the burden of EMI's or home loans. He does not have to spend on children's education.More important he is at peace. Mental peace is something a lot of Indian men crave for considering the drama and tantrums throw by the wives. This is the reason why our Indian society cannot accept the concept of a happy single Indian man who willingly does not want to get married.
At 39, being single and living a MGTOW lifestyle, I am more than happy. Never succumb to the pressure of getting married.Life your life and be happy.
Dowry is a social evil. We have studied this in our school time. It is wrong to take dowry and there is a stringent law in the Indian Penal Code against it. That's good. But has someone heard about reverse dowry in India? Does anyone has a faint idea what it is?
With the advent of the 21st century and the rise of middle class and upper middle class population in India we have seen many changes in our social norms. During this period we have also seen woke feminism on the rise. Since ages there has been a demand for a beautiful bride and financially stable groom. But over the years the demands of a prospective girl and her parents have sky rocketed. A picture was shared on social media enumerating the demands of today's women and her parents. Please read the same:
The above picture shows the reality. I would also like to share a comical video from you tube wherein a man is mentioning the demands of young girls and her parents in order to get married:
This video is hilarious and this man is mentioning the acerbic truth. Anyways, coming back to the main topic, I would like mention the common demands from the girl's families in order to get married. This is based on research from the internet and personal talk with many young and separated men. So here is the laundry list of demands:
Education: The boy must be educated having a masters degree that too from a reputed college. It does not matter if the girl has completed basic graduation in phaphda and jalebi degree from some pakoda and bhajia college affiliated to some sandwich and hamburger university.
Vocation: Doctor, Engineer (IIT), MBA (B-School Only), CA, IAS, IPS, IRS or government job. It does not matter if the girl is just working as a front office receptionist or doing a back office job.
Salary: The most important factor when it comes to finalizing the groom for a marriage. Nothing less than a six figure monthly CTC or seven figure annual CTC. After all the daddy's princesses won't marry men who average earners. Now you understand why the placement package matters.A man's worth is decided by his CTC.
Flat possession: The boy must have a 2 or 3 BHK flat in his name or he should be planning to acquire one by putting a down payment and suffer the burden on monthly EMI's for the next 25 years. The flat must be located in a posh locality. Today's girls don't want to stay with the in-laws and are not even willing to stay in a rented flat.
Property ownership: The bungalow, land or flat of the the prospective groom is a major deciding factor. Ancestral land in the home town of the boy is icing on the cake.
Boy's Family background: The lesser the better. The boy should be the only son, he should not have any siblings. If he has a brother he should not take care of him and if there is a sister then he should not set aside any on his finances for her marriage. As the girl will not live in a joint family, the boy must live separately from his parents after marriage.
In-Laws Expectations: What is ours will be ours but what is yours will become a part of our daughter. No compromises. The boy must take care of the healthcare needs of his in-laws including taking them to the hospital. He should also sponsor the marriage of his sister-in law if there is one. Gifts are to be given to the in-laws during all social occasions, anniversaries and festivals. The boy must take his in-laws on annual vacations in Indian and abroad and yes ,the in-laws can drop by anytime at his house where he will take leave from his office and take the in-laws to expensive restaurants and shopping malls.
Honeymoon: It must be in a foreign country preferably exotic places like Bali, Singapore/Malaysia, Dubai, Europe. Indian locations are only for beggars. After all the girl wants to put the pictures on social media. And the expenses of this entire trip must be paid by the groom.
Take care of the lifestyle of the girl: Yes my friend the prospective groom must take care of the wonderful lifestyle of the girl. After marriage she will leave her job and stay at home becoming a full time housewife. One maid will be hired to clean the house and a separate cook will prepare the food. The boy must buy another 2 wheeler or 4 wheeler as madam needs to travel across the city. Madam will also take up her passion of making videos on you tube, Instagram and ticktock/MX Takatak. She will go to the gym, zumba classes, palliates classes and yoga sessions, the boy will pay for all these expenses. Every week the girl will do shopping at malls and supermarkets, she will also visit expensive salons for her grooming and the guy must take care of these expenses as well.
There is more that I would like to add but as for now this enough. This is the reality of our society and I am showing you the mirror. Marriage has fallen to materialistic decadent immoral level in these times and unfortunately there is no recourse. Social media has made people believe that they can achieve what they want by making minimal effort. Combine this with a Gynocentric culture and woke feminism.
Many young Indian men who are eligible for marriage are facing this situation. Some are even distressed and sad as they are not getting married after 5 to 6 years.
What is the point of a marriage of your have to end up being a slave in order to sponsor the expensive lifestyle of a person.
The solution is to stay single and go MGTOW. The financial freedom is beyond imagination.
This is Bhaveen Sheth ending this writeup and will be back with some more wisdom.
