Bhaveen Sheth, who is this
person???? He has and will always be an enigma to a lot of people. Many know
him as a person who has been odd, eccentric living life on his own terms with
no care and concern for the society or the people.
I know him, I know him personally
having seen his life for the last 15 years, the trials and tribulations that he
has faced. I can say I am one of those lucky few to whom he has really opened
up and shared his thoughts and feelings.
After 15 years I have chosen to break my silence and
have convinced him to post my write-up on his blog known as the diary of the
single Indian male.
What Bhaveen is today or what people
perceive him today is not the Bhaveen I knew or met 15 years ago. At that time
he was the most happiest and cheerful person you would ever meet, full of life,
hyper, vivacious. It seemed that all events of his life had been programmed and
he was just following a sequence.
But life is no bed of roses. At the
age of 19 a terrible tragedy struck him, a tragedy that left him so devastated
that it would take years for him to recover. That was a tragedy where he lost
both his parents to a terrible car accident.
This was the very tragedy that made him an orphan and he had to fend for
himself all by his own.
Not many people actually know about
this. He has chosen not tell anyone. Anytime he tells a person about his past,
all he gets is a wave of sympathy, something that he does not like.
After finishing his graduation he
went to the city of Mumbai in order to pursue his career. One year after that
he got an admission for his masters degree in a prestigious institute where he
completed his masters and went ahead to pursue a successful career in
healthcare management.
But this write-up is not about his
professional accomplishments or growth. This write up is on him as a human
being, as a person, as a living being who always wanted to be part of the
society however no one considered him as one.
I have seen Bhaveen go through the
most difficult and trying times of his life. It is not easy, it is never easy
for anyone to lose his parents at a young age and shoulder major
responsibilities. It is not easy to live with an extreme form of emotional and
physical deprivation, being deprived of love, warmth care, affection and a
human touch. Bhaveen has gone through all of the above.
In 2006 I saw some changes within
him, this was mostly through conversations that I had with him. He used to tell
me that he found a good friend who understood him, cared for him and treated
him nicely. After long someone did care
for him and made him feel human. That friend was his senior in the management
course that he had taken up. Her name is Miss Charu Sinha. In the last 8 years
since 2006 that I have speaking to Bhaveen over phone, I have seen the
importance of Ms Charu Sinha grow magnanimously. At first it was just a good
friend but later she became his sister and then went on to become his mother.
Many people find it strange how can someone of your own age become your mother
but the truth is that some relations are like that , they just happen, you
cannot use logic behind the same.
With Charu becoming his mother, he
has become emotionally strong and there is a renewed sense of enthusiasm that
he has towards life. Bhaveen is fanatically devoted to his sister; such is
his fanaticism that it transcends all levels of insanity. This kind of extreme
devotion is found in limited people. Over the phone many a times he has
mentioned how he would love to relocate back to Delhi-NCR region so that he can
be close to his sister. He proudly mentions about his sister as she is the only
person he has. Charu has given Bhaveen the feeling of not being an orphan, she
has made him feel like a human once again and not even god would be able to
thank her for what she has done, to turn a broken hearted destitute orphan into
a normal human being.
Even though Bhaveen has been lonely
for the past 15 years , he has chosen to keep himself occupied. Reading had
always been his primary passion; he has immersed himself in books in order to
keep his mind occupied. Movies are his second passion; he loves to amass movies
in his hard disk so that he can watch during his leisure time. Another
interesting fact is that he loves to search for award winning movies and
download them. Of lately he has developed interest in gaming and he speaks of
buying a good desktop system on which he can play games.
It is really good to see that he can
live his life without depending on anyone.
There is no doubt that Bhaveen will
rise in his career and go on to a senior position in the corporate world.
Coming to his single status and his
bohemian lifestyle, which, of course is a question mark to many. He is often questioned why he still remains
single even in his early 30’s. He has no
definite answer. Bhaveen tries to change the subject by quoting the melancholic
verses of Mirza Ghalib and Zauq which focuses on the importance of a courtesan
over a wife.
But in reality he is just trying to
avoid the subject. In his mid 20’s he too had dreams of getting married, of
finding a life partner, of finding a soul mate. He often felt that a good
education, decent job , designation, salary would help him in settling down.
Little did he realize that in the Indian society it is virtually impossible to
get married if you don’t have a family background. He never gave up, he was
always be hopeful that on the social media that has been flooded with all kinds
of matrimonial websites he would find someone. Unfortunately, he was in for a big
disappointment. It never happened suddenly but gradually , spanning a period of six
years.
No normal or decent girl/family was
interested in him. If he did get expressions of interest they were mostly
desperate divorcees just looking out to get married or the kind of women whom
no one wanted to marry and their parents just wanted to dump them on anyone
willing to take them so that they could get rid of their responsibility. Bhaveen
used to share instances on how at times meetings with prospective women or
their parents would turn into embarrassing and humiliating experiences. One
fine day he just got fed up with the whole thing and deleted all his profiles
from different matrimonial sites. He gave up on marriage realizing that Indian
society had no place for orphans like him.
I did feel sad, sad at the way
people treated him for not having parents. Why couldn’t anyone look beyond his
family background and assess him as an individual???
He is an individual, an individual
who has lived life on his own, a self made man, who has faced difficulties and
yet the people of the Indian society find it hard to accept him.
He has resigned himself to a lonely
life and has accepted that he may remain a bachelor for his entire life. But I
have different thoughts for him. A man of his calibre cannot stay single. I
know that there will be a Good Samaritan who will find him and love him for he is.
His conversations speak of his intellect and yes intellectual men are
attractive. I hope that god is watching over him and I hope that one day all
the good things will happen in his life.
Bhaveen Sheth remains a bohemian at
heart with an eccentric lifestyle. His love for books and movies, his interest
for extreme endurance training, his passion for undertaking continuous
professional developmental activities related to his profession, his love for
back packing and travelling the length and breadth of this great nation
certainly makes him stand out differently in a society like ours which expects
men of his age to be happily married and settled with wife and children. And
yes there are times when I being his friend envy him, because he is living his
life, because he is living the life that men like us can only dream of.
To the Bhaveen Sheth that I have known and will always remember to
be my friend, to Bhaveen Sheth who has transformed himself, I would like to thank
Ms Charu Sinha for giving him a lot of support during his troubled times and
bringing out the best in him.
Bhaveen Sheth , this is for you, be
happy, be hopeful and go out there and live your life
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