BHAVEEN SHETH'S OPEN LETTER TO ALL THE MARRIED INDIAN MEN

My Dear Married Indian Men,

A very good evening to all. Chances are that you would  never be reading this post. I can understand. But I am writing this post to air my grievance againt men of your kind, yes!!!! The married kind.

You are the guys who seem to take a maximum offence of us, the single Indian men. Why man???? Don’t you have a life??? Don’t you have something to do?? Why is it that you envy us so much??

I know why???? Because you are married to an Indian woman and married in the Indian society. That’s why???

At times I pity you. Your life is a misery, overburdened by responsibilities and inspite of all the major commitments that you have on your plate , you go on to targeting the single Indian male. You ridicule him , make harsh criticisms and even to the extent to show that he is an incompetent and an incapable person.

So let me analyze your condition first. Its a myth that you are happy , no matter how much you pretend to be!!!!! Posting a happy family photograph on your profile over eh social media does not prove the same.

You are unhappy and sad, majority of the married Indian men share a similar state. Less than 10 % of the married male population in this country is happy. They are certainly the guys who belong to the upper rung of the society.

The source of your sadness and miserly is a conflict between taking the burden of responsibilities and living your own life. The Indian man is the most confused species in the world when it comes to living his own  life. He does not know what to do. His parents and relatives decide the course of events in his life.

Something similar must have happened with you. Either you feel in love with a woman of your dreams or your parents got you hitched to a girl who matched their expectations. Initial years of your life were a bliss, the ceremonies, the sex, birth of children etc etc.

Later life became routine, you began to feel the 7 years itch syndrome. Responsibilities have come  on your shoulders, there is and EMI that has to be paid, an over demanding wife whose expectations you have to meet and children’s education that you have to plan for.

Some guys take these responsibilities cheerfully but majority of you married men reading this post have taken it up with stoicism. Your mind is in a continuous conflict on living the life of a married man or a single person. Many of you guys are in toxic dysfunctional relationships with your spouses who are carrying on with a married life because of their children.

So, when you come across men like us who are happy being single, there is an innate jealousy or hatred that crops up in your mind. You detest us. You can’t tolerate the fact that we are happy being single. You go on a rampage of verbally abusing us with your criticism.

You boast on the advantages in being married even though at present you are facing major problems in your married life. You boast about your loving and caring when in reality she treats you like a street dog. Some married men suffer more; their wives deny them sex and withhold it to have their say in a marriage. You are constantly under the burden of EMI’s and home loans plus your child’s future education sends shivers down your spines.

So if what I have written above are indicators of a happy married life, my request is that you please have a reality check.

Look at the jobs that you do. Most of you are stuck into boring dead end jobs with no growth. You have lost your passion towards your job and career, you do your job just because it pays you the salary that will run your home. You cannot travel for leisure because you are always on budget constraint. Have a look at your physique, you have are pot bellied because you hardly exercise giving a casual excuse that you have no time. You hardly take any care of your health. You flaunt your wife as if she were the spoils of the war  you won once upon a time. I mean look at your wife. A long time ago she used to be presentable, now she has lost her beauty and she looks anything that would be a cross in between a water buffalo and a rhinoceros. The tantrums of your kids draw you mad.

There is lot more that I can write but I feel that I have already written enough to make a married Indian man realize that his life is not a bliss.

Single or married, it has its own advantages and disadvantages. We the single Indian men don’t envy married men because we know that the grass is not green on the other side.

So my dear friend, the next time you ever utter a statement against the single Indian male, have a look at your own pathetic life. At least you will become more humble by doing so.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off , will be back with some more