Thursday, September 8, 2016

Single Indian Men have dignity and self respect

For all the people of the Indian society who think that some Indian men are singe because they do not pursue women or make the first move are grossly mistaken.The reason we may still be single is because we like to uphold our dignity. Strange isn't it,  but it is true. Many men like me want to be respected and not be ill treated.

We have had our fair share of experiences, we have been rebuked, insulted, ignored, poorly treated and verbally abused. And for what? Just because we made the first move, just because we took the initiative and were direct with someone we liked. 

Indian women expect us to ask them out and when we do it, we are criticised for being desperate men. We are labelled as "CHEPS" or "CHEPUS" a colloquial north Indian term for a sticky person.And yes , not to forget that a girl's father, mother , brother and sister is also involved in this process. Ya, we have had stories when the family members of girls and women have told us to stop calling and contacting them. Some have even threatened us with dire consequences. 

And what for , what for have we been treated so badly? Just because we showed interest in some women and made the first move? Why should we even compromise with our self respect and dignity?
Why should we berate ourselves? Why should we compromise on our dignity?

And this is the reason why we do not make the first move, this is the reason that we are happy being single, this is the reason where a life of solo stoicism is more acceptable.

As I end this I clearly state that we the single Indian men are happy the way we are and are not interested in mingling certainly not at the cost of our self respect and dignity. As far as the women are concerned, they can do what they please. Many of them will remain single fantasising that why no one came and approached them while some will get married to some guy belonging to their own caste and community.

And that is the end of story. For many of my single Indian male friends, I salute you for upholding your self respect and  dignity.

This is Bhaveen Sheth and i promise to be back with a lot more.

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