Single Indian men are invisible creatures, they are forgotten and forsaken. No one barring a few have any interest in them. The society does not even consider them as Humans.People forget that we are single due to our circumstances or our own lifestyle choices. There are men who have gone through bitter separations and now wish to have no more of married life, there are men who have walked out of their dysfunctional families and have no one they can relate to and then there are men who are Adult Orphans having no one in this world.
However we too are human beings and we also have feelings,emotions, desires, hopes, hobbies and most important the right to dignified living. Why then are we ridiculed, taunted and put down because of our status?Why does the society shut its door on us and why are we isolated?
There are no definitive answers to what I have asked but the majority should understand that we too are humans and we have an equal right to live and enjoy our lives. The majority of the married folks don't understand, they cannot be empathetic. We are a society where everyone by default follows the rules and by rules it also means that your get married and settle down. The married majority looks upon us the single minority with some sort of prejudice and grudge.
And I say that we too are humans , we are also someone's children just like you are. We too are mortals who are vulnerable and who have made mistakes. We have gone through difficult times and come out of it.
In today's era of militant and toxic feminism, misandry and gynocentrism, we have to be careful, we have to watch our backs. The women no longer have that grace and feminine values that a man looks for in a woman.The demands and expectations of the Indian women and their parents have made marriage to be extremely difficult. The humiliating experiences faced by many Indian men during matrimonial meets makes them question the very institution of marriage. This sacred institution is now reduced to nothing but materialistic demands made up of a 3 BHK apartment, annual foreign vacations, 1 luxurious car, evening dine outs and god knows what. As Indian men we are nothing but providers and dispensable ATM cards.
And then you have men with no proper backgrounds, men who have walked away from their dysfunctional families or men who are orphans, these category of men who don't stand a chance of ever getting married because of their family backgrounds. I myself being an Adult Orphan have experienced first hand at the ill treatment of the society. I have no grudge or complaints, I just want to live my life.
There are many Indian men across India who are single by choice, many of them have adopted the MGTOW philosophy, They have nothing to do with marriage or society, these men are making the best to their lives, including me. We read, eat out , watch movies , take vacations, travel, pursue our hobbies and some even have short term flings. We are just living our lives. But then that is where the majority married folks have a problem. They can't see us doing all such things.
Time and again we are told that we are being selfish. Is it selfish to enjoy? Seriously dude! You are so prejudiced. Just thank us for whatever we do, at-least we don't break the law. We are not like those single Haryanvi men who are loaded with testesterone waiting to rape/molest any girl who comes across them. We are well aware of the gynocentric laws in our country and as decent educated law abiding citizens we keep a safe distance from women.
As Single Indian men we have the right to a dignified life. Our solo status is a not disability and we have the right to do things , simple ordinary things that makes us happy. We don't want to be questioned and we don't need any advice. To each one his own.
This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off the day and promise to be back with a lot more.
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