The single Indian man writes on the need to avoid toxic Indian men who have a negative influence upon you. Generally your behaviour gets shaped by the people around you and your daily interactions. Interactions with toxic Indian men will drain you emotionally and zap your energy. Mentioned below are the categories of Indian men you must avoid:
The frustrated married men:Being happily married is a myth, especially in India.Many married Indian men are frustrated being stuck in a dysfunctional marriage with spouses they hate. If truth be told, marriage is one big responsibility dumped on them due to parental pressure. Indian men are equally not prepared to take up responsibilities that come up with marriage and parenthood.Two years into a marriage leaves them with disillusionment.They are stuck at being a husband, father, husband, son-in-law and adding to their miseries are home loans, care loans, monthly expenditures etc etc. Many Indian men are denied sex by their wives leaving them sexually frustrated. They crib and complain for no reason, they lech upon young girls and talk bullshit and ridiculous things.Most of their conversations revolves around family and children and keep complaining about their dumb boring mediocre lives.Some will even share stories of their frustrated marriages, toxic spouses and dysfunctional marriages. Interactions with these men will leave you depressed and given young wrong picture about marriage.
The divorced men: If marriages are made in heaven then divorces are made in hell at-least in India. The complicated process of getting a divorce in Indian leaves you emotionally drained and financially bankrupt, courtesy, alimony and child support.Divorce scars a man emotionally.Many divorced men are not able to recover completely from their failed marriages. They carry their pasts like an albatross wrapped around their necks.Here are some of their common characteristics: Being aloof, becoming aggressive, extremely patriarchal, hating the women gender are some common characteristics. They have no hobbies or interests outside work. Some start looking for a soul mate immediately after divorce without introspecting what is wrong with them.Any interaction with them will leave you with a feeling that all Indian women are evil and poisonous.
The frustrated single Man: Now this is a sexually frustrated immature man child who has never grown up an wants to get married by hook or by crook.. Chances are that majority of these Indian men belong to the hinterlands of North Indian or what is known as the BIMARU states ( please google the acronym). For them getting married is a one stop solution to all their problems.And for some reason these men are not getting married.They keep on meeting prospective women and keep getting rejected leaving them disillusioned. Other than this they will blame the whole world for their problems.These men have nothing interesting to do in their lives other than their boring jobs, they have no other interests or hobbies.Any interacting with these men with make you feel worthless and you will get the feeling that solo living is indeed a wrong choice.
Life is all about ups and downs and there are 2 sides to everything . There are men who are happily married and then there are men who went through bad divorces, rehabilitated themselves and went on to live a wonderful life.There are men who are single living an adventurous life.. SO please do not limit your boundaries based on your interaction with a few men especially the toxic ones.There is no need to associated with toxic men. Identify positive men and develop meaningful relationships with them.
Over the years I have realized that the company and social circle you keep can have a tremendous impact on your personality.If you want to have a vibrant and positive personality then you need to interact with the right kind of people.
This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.
Bhaveen Sheth
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