Sunday, May 31, 2020

Whatsapp Group of my UG Batchmates-Bhaveen Sheth DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

This COVID-19 Pandemic has made many people slow down  their otherwise hectic lives. The lock down imposed in many countries has forced people to sit in their homes and look into their lives. This is a time where people have thought of catching up with old friends, school and college classmates.

Hence an idea came in the minds of one of my UG batch mates to create a group of all college mates for the year 2000 or what I would call the millennium batch. Initially I was reluctant to share my number but later agreed. I was also added to the group. Half of my batch mates are abroad and the rest are in India. Somethings never change and so do some people. In spite of Facebook and Linkedin being available, we have lost touch with each other. We are friends on Facebook but still don't talk to each other. We wish each other a happy birthday or occasionally like a post shared by someone on Facebook. Guess we are too busy in our lives now.

Coming back to the topic, I may have been added to the group but I choose to remain silent. I don't want to have any conversation on the forum. My college mates have remained the same. In the past during my travels in India when I met some of them,  they have had nothing but criticism for me. Why? Well, because I changed my career path and I am still single, unmarried and don't have any children. During college times I used to have this NORTH INDIAN group that stuck together and was judgmental about others. They just gossiped all the time. I being myself used to live a solo life and enjoyed my own company. This meant eating alone, watching movies alone and spending time reading good books and magazines. I was not liked just because I was not a part of their group. 

The situation has not changed. They still remain judgmental and I don't care. Some of them want show off on the strides they have made and how much they have gone ahead in life. I guess we all have our own journey and paths to lead and they cannot be compared. I am happy with my life.

I am living the MGTOW life and have the independence and mental peace that my married batch mates may or may not have. In my 30's, I am travelling, doing solo backpacking across India, have started by baby steps as a biker. I am also planning to take up body sculpting and long distance running to build up strength and stamina. 

These people may call me a a loner like they always did but I call it freedom. I chose quality of life over quantity. My bucket list is different from others and I don't want to compare.

In post COVID times, I have decided to socially distance myself of negative and toxic people and choose not to interact with them anymore.

The group will be active for a few days, maybe a month or two. The moment normal life resumes, people will stop interacting aand this group will become inactive and dormant like rest of the groups that are on our whatspp application. 

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

When Parents destroy theirs sons lives in the name of marriage-Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

Who says that only women are forced into marriages? Indian men face the same problem, It is just that they don't make a hue and cry over it.

Countless lives of Indian men have been destroyed by wrong and toxic marriages. Men have suffered emotional breakdown to the extent that some of them  committed suicide. Many lost professional opportunities and others just became nervous wrecks. In my interactions with many male rights activists who had gone through difficult marriages and are now divorced or separated, I realized that in most of the cases the parents wanted their sons to marry, even after a terrible divorce the parents once again want their sons to get remarried.

Guess some people never learn their lessons.

The mentality of Indian parents is different. They treat their sons like some kind of personal property or a golden goose that needs to be cashed upon when time is right. Indian men struggle hard sacrificing their teen years and burning the midnight oil in order to get good grades followed by admission in good colleges and later campus placements or a job in a good organization. Some even end up getting a good salary package. Just a year in the job and the parents are after the son to get him married. Most of the parents are proud of their sons achievements, nothing wrong with that, however they problem starts when it becomes a part of their ego. The son has not even settled well into his work and the talk of marriage starts. Biodatas, horroscopes and photographs are exchanged and the ground work for matrimony starts. This is followed by visits to the prospective brides house and gradually the meetings take place.

There are times when I feel that the parents are in a hurry to get their sons married. I fail to understand why? This is especially in the case where the sons are highly successful, you know, the IAS-IPS-Government Services-IIT-IIM-Engineering-MBA-B-SchoolPassouts-Doctors-Computer Specialists, all earning good salary packages along with perks and benefits. These folks are looked upon as winners or super successful people.

Of course the marriage takes place and the bride is a good looking beautiful dame that even the husband's best friend would get jealous of. The engagement and marriage takes place followed by a mind blowing honeymoon. Then a different life starts and it is called a married life and this is where the reality sets in. I don't know what goes wrong but the marriages comes to an abrupt end. This is followed by divorce in courts and visits to the police stations where false allegations are filed by the bride and her parents. Many men can't take it and they end up committing suicide. Go to any of the websites or blogs dedicated to Indian men's rights and read the stories where the husbands committed suicide. You will observe a similarity: The men were well educated successful professionals.

This write up in not about why successful men commit suicide or why does an arranged marriage fixed by two families end up into a disaster. This is about the parents of the men who somehow force their sons into such marriages just because they want to fulfill their dreams and expectations, just because they want to show others about the fanfare related to the marriage ceremony or in many cases ask for a huge dowry, mind you, this is not in all the cases but yes money does exchange hands in such kind of marriages. Problem is that most of the Indian parents want to live their lives through their children. This makes them extremely dominant and controlling. They don't want to give a free hand to their sons so that they can take their own independent decision.

Have you ever met the parents of such super successful men? The false pride and ego they carry can offend anyone. They leave no stone unturned in putting down those who are not as successful as their sons. They get delusional that their sons are special and above the rest. It is this thinking that leads them on the path of destruction. Just because their son is successful, they are entitled to a privileged treatment and expect the best. They feel that their son deserves the most beautiful girl available who is also educated and will play the role of a typical housewife and daughter in law. In order to cash in on the success of their son, they even expect a hug dowry or a royal wedding just to show off in front of their friends and relatives.

Unfortunately they are not prepared to see the destruction when the marriage goes sour. Rarely are such marriages resolved amicable. Huge alimony is paid to settle the divorce, not to forget countless visits to police stations and courts. The son ends up becoming the victim of his parents decision taken due to ego, greed and false pride.

I wish these parents were more in touch with reality, I wish these parents could make a visit to the family courts in their cities and towns to have first hand experience on what divorce proceedings look like, I wish these parents read newspapers and magazines in order to realize the problems faced by the modern Indian men. I just wish that these parents stop watching those daily television soaps that portray some ideal wife or daughter in law which is certainly not the reality. I wish they stop thinking that bad things won't happen to us, i wish they stop living in a fantasy Utopian world. I wish they understand the reality.

It is the son who ends up paying a huge price for his parent's wrong decision, sometimes at the cost of his own life. All I can say is that parents should given their son's more time so that they can explore what is right for them, let them travel, meet other people, explore the world or even India. This matter a lot. Experiences shape your personality and you realize what you want. You become more confident and less insecure.

This post may not be relevant to veteran MGTOWs. However all other single Indian men who are reading this post, it is my sincere request that you focus on your work and career. Meet new people, travel across India and have a diverse experience. Don' t fall into the emotional blackmail of your parents to get married. Marriages created in the basis of materialism, property ownership, CTC, salary, designation, offshore postings don't last for long. What matters is how you get along with a person emotionally and how much you relate with each other.

Take your desicion wisely.

Bhaveen Sheth
INDIAN MGTOW

Wednesday, May 20, 2020

Birthday celebrations of the Indian MGTOW-Bhaveen Sheth

On 13th of May 2020, the writer of this blog, Bhaveen Sheth aka Indian MGTOW celebrated his 38th birthday. Amidst the corona pandemic and lock-down, he somehow managed to arrange for a cake, all thanks to all his good friends who have always helped him and stood by him as good Samaritans.

The Indian MGTOW celebrated his birthday with his best friends who are now a family for him. Sharing the pictures below:























It was a wonderful time spent with my good friends who made by 38th birthday memorable.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW
  

Happily married only on social media and during social functions: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Indian society is strange and the married people are equally strange or I would say amusing.If an Oscar award was to be given the world's best married couple, I am sure married an Indian couple would win this award.The show that they put up in front of the outside world is amazing.

Today's married couples love to brag and boast to the whole world about their so called happy married life.Social media has become a platform for showing off. I fail to understand why you have to show your happily married status to the whole world? Relationships are showcased the moment one gets engaged, later you get to see the pictures of marriage followed by honeymoon pictures from exotic places. And Man!!!! These pictures are so romantic, even a hardened ideological red pill MGTOW will feel like getting married. Unfortunately reality is different from fantasy and within 2 years of a marriage the couple starts experiencing  what married life actually is. Couple who are happily married will never showcase their relationship status to the whole world. Marriage is a minefield and one needs to tread the path carefully.

In today's scenario, majority of the married couples are not happy with their married lives.Everyone has their own reasons to be unhappy. Unfortunately we as a nation of hypocrite people known for heir dubious double standards will portray a different picture in front of the world.

Be it facebook, instagram or whatapp status update, a portrait of a happy family is always displayed. Marriage anniversaries and birthdays are showcased as if the married couple are madly in love with each other.At social functions the married couple puts up an act and is seen to be happily married with wonderful children. Some single Indian folks find them as a source of inspiration and think of getting married.

However the veteran single Indian man aka Indian MGTOW knows it all. Beyond that glitz and glamour, beyond those fake smiles and hugs, beyond that superficial love and affection there lies a dark underbelly of discontent, resentment, frustration, hate, anger, prejudice and discontent. A show is put up by the married couple in order to hide the reality.

This is the truth about our society and reality of our times.

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

Thursday, May 7, 2020

I write for Single Indian Men and Indian MGTOWs: Bhaveen Sheth INDIAN MGTOW

There are times when my articles are vehemently criticized by a section of the society. My critics find my writings to be poisonous and full of hatred towards the married folks, women and society in general. I am also told that I am ranting out my own frustrations on my blog. Seriously!!!! So now speaking in behalf of Indian men, their rights and problems is considered as frustration. I am amazed at the hypocrisy of some people.

Since the last two decades we have been reading on feminism, women's rights, patriarchy, toxic masculinity, stupid and dumb Indian men, single mothers etc etc. Be it the print media, social media or blogs, everywhere you can find it. However there is hardly any forum for single men, divorcees or separated husbands or single fathers. I believe in giving a voice to this section of the Indian male community.

Speaking for men's rights in not a crime. The last two decades have witnessed the rise of third and fourth wave militant feminism and feminazism. It is the men who are at the receiving end. Marriages are breaking up due to minor problems, entitled women are not willing to adjust, false cases against the Indian husbands and their parents are on a rise and most important many Indian men are not able to get married due to the rising demands and expectations of the women.

Many Indian men are sourcing the Internet on how an Indian man live a peaceful solo life, a life without criticism. A decade ago the media would write long articles dedicated to single Indian women and how they should life a happy solo life but what about Indian men? Can't they too live a happy life by not getting married?

There is so much shame and stigma associated with single Indian men. The society does not consider them as normal. They face jabs, ridicule and insults for no reason.

There has to be a platform for single Indian men who are looking for a meaning in their lives, a space where single men can find validation, a source where they can find like minded people and realize that their decision to stay single and take up the MGTOW lifestyle was not wrong.

Single men require validation and where will they find it? The married folks offer no solace, the society in general has no space for them.

I write so that single Indian men and MGTOW's realize that they are not alone, that there is a manosphere in India filled with like minded Indian men. Unfortunately some sections of the society consider my writings to be misogynist and patriarchal, that they are to harsh towards the female gender. I can't given possible explanations to everyone.

The problem is that our society is filled by beta simps, white knight social justice warriors or useful idiots who don't want to accept or listen to the other side of the story. No one realizes or understands the problems of Indian men. No one wants to acknowledge our pain and suffering.

There will always be critics and detractors and I give an damn. I will continue to write for my fellow single Indian men and MGTOW's.

There is a serious need to spread the awareness about the MGTOW lifestyle in India and help single Indian men follow its path.

MGTOW for Life.

Bhaveen Sheth