At 38, I have no regrets of being single and taking up the MGTOW lifestyle. Yes!! You have heard me right! A decade ago, I must have been feeling insecure and wanting to get married but 10 years on I am extremely happy that I took the decision of being single.
At 30, I was pretty much sure that I wanted to remain single and not get married. In between though, I had some hope/feeling that maybe,just maybe, someone would come across in my life and I would get married, but that never happened.
In 2015 at the age of 33 I got introduced to the MGTOW movement (Men Going Their Own way). This movement finally arrived in India and started having followers. In 2016, there was a marked transformation in the way Indian people would use internet data, thanks to the Jio revolution. Mobile Internet became accessible to the common Indian man and the awareness of MGTOW lifestyle spread. Information and advice eventually spread. I too gained a good insight on the benefits of following the MGTOW lifestyle.
Daily I browse social media and news websites only to find out that another common Indian man committed suicide due to harassment by spouse and in-laws, another Indian man and his family has been falsely accused of false cases related to dowry and domestic violence, another innocent Indian man was killed by his own wife and lover. So much for the so called holy and pious institution of marriage.
At present marriage in India is nothing but a materialistic alliance based of greed and benefits. The man has to play the role of a provider and care taker. I have often asked myself " What is in it for me?" What benefits am I going to get if I were to get married? I am not able to find an answer.
The reality is that married men have a difficult time. The initial years of marriage may be good but later years are not easy. I have nothing against married men, they made a choice and I am have made mine.
At 38, I have mental peace, a prized possession that many Indian men are deprived of. No more taunts and criticism at home. A stillness and tranquility in my small flat that I currently stay in. No useless and unwanted social functions to attend to. No requirement to living up to the expectations of the Indian society. Live the way you want.
Companionship, soulmate and life partner is just a myth and highly overrated. I don't feel lonely as I have many things to do and keep myself engaged. Life is a journey and one must go on. MGTOW lifestyle is the ultimate path of liberation and freedom for Indian men if they want it.
I choose not to be a slave of a system/institution that ill treats men, disrespects them and robs them of their entire wealth in family courts. Lakhs of Indian men have faced it and are currently facing it. Why take the risk?
With radical feminism and feminazism in our society, MGTOW is the lifestyle sane Indian men can adopt and follow.
Bhaveen Sheth
Indian MGTOW
Dear Bhaveen, I have been through so many of your posts and felt that there is someone writing the true facts about marriage from Indian society's lens. Since, I am a bit young, I am aware that age limit of 30 applies to Indian women(you mentioned it in one of your posts).
ReplyDeleteCan you write such a post mentioning the struggles of single Indian male trying to find his partner. Also, how much is the societal acceptable age limit for Indian men, beyond which it gets difficult to find marriage partner.
PS: Your posts are getting HIGHLY repetitive, please write on some new dimensions(of single hood in India), if not new topics.
Few topics which I want you to explore are:
1. the search/life of ghar jamai(house husband)= usually rich girl and poor guy. Since, you may be more experienced in this, you can throw in your any past experience.
2. the concept of woman being much older(say, 7 years or beyond) than man in marriage. This concept is slowly picking up in West and India too.
PSS: Also, I have deep interest in area you work in, that of hospital management. Would like to talk about that, can you mention your email, etc.
From,
A lifelong bachelor
*2. the concept of woman being much older(say, 7 years or beyond) than man in marriage/dating.
DeleteBeyond which age can an Indian man be ascertained that now he is not going to find any matches and he would have to remain single or be content with divorcees/widows, etc. Can you please trace his journey in a blog post from the moment he begins his search for life partner at xyz age, and finally him being ascertain of his being forever bachelor.
sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com
Deletemy email id is sheth.bhaveen@gmail.com
DeleteTalk about 498A, Domestic Violence Act 2005, Sexual Harassment Laws, Marital Rape, Denying Food & Denying Sex, Not Providing Food to Husband. Our Indian Educated have become Independent Feminist Bitches long back. No Wonder Marriages are Breaking at the Speed of Light. Thanks to these FemiNazism Men have started to go Their Own Way.
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