In the course of time as I have been browsing through many Online Matrimonial Sites, I have come to certain Conclusions that I would like to share with all my readers.
But as the Heading suggests, it is no better than Online Job sites like naukri.com or monster.com other than the fact that more emphasis is given to the person and his/her family.
Now being an Orphan having no one to speak on my behalf or find me a soul mate on the social front, I had resorted to search a soul mate through these online Matrimonial Web Portals,thinking that I would come across like minded persons who were looking for their soul mates trans India. But I was wrong, the realities I found out are mentioned below.
Even If people call themselves broad minded and Cosmopolitan they in reality narrow minded hard core traditionalists.
There is special emphasis on caste, community, religion, subcaste, gothra (i don't know what does that mean) and other paraphernalia similar to the job,qualifications and skill set requirements posted on the Job Websites.
Fairness and Beauty of a Woman is like having passed out from IIT and IIM, very much in Demand.
Everyone is in the rush to oversell Himself/herself on the matrimonial front going to lengths on how homely, caring, understanding and empathetic they are, just like writing Honesty, Integrity, hard Working and Team Player under the Professional Strength Area heading of a Resume.
One can also see people putting their entire family structure along with their education and present working organizations, same is done when giving the names and designation of references for job purposes.
Widows and Divorcees are looked upon as laid off or terminated professionals.
Expectations from the Partner are as Equivalent to Job Requirements and Job Descriptions from a potential candidate.
Mangalik is considered as an outcast/not to be hired professional.
Even preferences are made of preferable location of the Groom/Bride i.e only men and woman from this particular city should apply similar to how some companies state that only local candidates or city based candidates should apply.
Everyone should have a Decent Family and family background just like candidates applying for a job should have passed out from reputed universities and colleges. Orphans and Destitutes like me stand no chance.
Preferential Selection Systems are present in the Software of the Matrimonial sites like age bracket, salary bracket, past marital history and so on just like online job sites which gives a similar option to all recruiters.
Rotten Lies and Exaggerated Images- A lot of things which are written about the person is either exaggerated or false, just like how things are exaggerated and written in the Job openings. Its only once that you really conduct the meeting/interview you realize that not all that was written is for real.
Response rate is very little or at times nil. That means when you express interest in someone after liking his/her profile you don't get the response immediately on time, it can be delayed and at times it is never answered. For worse you may even get rejected. Is it not the same for all these Job sites????? How many times have you applied for a job thinking that you will get a reply and then getting none??
In case if you get lucky and a meeting takes place with the potential candidate, it is similar to a Job interview, first your potential partner conducts an interview just like the departmental HOD doing the same and if things are good then the family conducts the interview similar to the HR Department. Also that your Horoscope is your resume.
Horoscope matching is similar to fitting the candidate with the right skillets in the right job, compatibility and understanding is never given any importance at all.
Background and reference checks are done through the Family Social Network similar to how the HR Department of the recruiting Organization checks the references and the Organization of the potential candidate.
These are the observations that I have made while searching for an understanding woman, however it did not bear any fruit. I forgot that I was an Orphan and in the socially mobile middle and upper class educated society I am just not a desired person, hence I have stopped expressing interests and have decided to stay single.
This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, shall be back with some more.
Bhaveen Sheth
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