When the married people try to shame the MGTOWs for their Lifestyle-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

Shaming others has now become the new norm or what I would say the new normal. We shame others in person and troll people online. Anyone who does not follow the rules of the majority or does not conform to the set norms is shamed.

People are being shamed for their body structure, their thinking, colour, caste and creed. All this has been going on for decades. However lifestyle shaming is a new thing. We as Indians love to shame others who do not conform to the normal lifestyle.

So how can MGTOWs be kept out from this shaming. As a veteran MGTOW I have often been criticized for my choice of lifestyle, I am told that I am too miser, money minded and saving a lot of money. I just don't understand these married folks. They have their families and have to spend their money on them and why are they bothered with what we do with our salary? This is because they feel that we are not living up to the so called standards of the society.

In the age of minimalism and lean management, I fail to understand why do we require unwanted materialistic things that are so big and expensive. Why is it that we believe in so much of show off. false glorification and display for no reason. Is it important to brag about every other expensive thing you bought?

As MGTOW's our lifestyle is simple and relatively inexpensive. We have minimal needs. A small house, basic electronic equipments and a decent vehicle to commute. Do we need anything more? As a veteran MGTOW , I have a set of limited clothes and possess things that I needs for may regular use. I don't need to live in a house where I have to invite people for dinner or parties, I don't need a car or a bike to impress girls and I don't believe in wasting my hard earned money on trying to fit into the crowd. So long as I am content with what  I am doing and the way I am living, I am hardly bothered.

In the coming years many such married folks will taunt me and criticize me for the choice of my lifestyle. I will be told that I am saving money for no reason and will not take anything after I die, that I am not enjoying my lifestyle. I wish I could argue with these people and try to correct them by stating that expensive vehicles and house does not set a standard and one does not need to waste his money on trying to conform with the majority. But I don't. I realize that most of the married men are slaves of the society and the banking system. I choose not to argue with them.

To all my fellow MGTOWs, you will face lifestyle shaming at some point of your time and try not to get offended by them. Remember you have yourself to take care of and not people to impress, especially when people in the present times and fake and superficial.  

Why do so many distressed married men and divorced/separated Indian men commit suicide: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

Now that I am extremely comfortable with my MGTOW lifestyle, I try to look into a very interesting and neglected fact of our society on the reasons why so may married and divorced Indian men commit suicide in India. 

A normal web search on google throws up the following links:

Times of India:

Married men twice as likely to commit suicide than married w ..

Read more at:

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/48220552.cms?utm_source=contentofinterest&utm_medium=text&utm_campaign=cppst

Daman:

NCRB – Suicides: India Lost 97613 sons in 2019

https://www.daaman.org/post/ncrb-suicides-india-lost-97613-sons-in-2019

The Wire:

Reporter's Diary: Looking At Male Suicides in India

https://thewire.in/culture/reporters-diary-male-suicides-india

Scroll:

Married men are most likely to commit suicide in India

https://scroll.in/article/669061/married-men-are-most-likely-to-commit-suicide-in-india

If one actually goes through these articles,  all of them other than Daman (Men's Rights Website) puts the blame on patriarchy, toxic masculinity and mental health problems of men. Most of these media portals are runs by feminist and feminazi groups that have just have an agenda to spread a false narrative.

Blaming men for all problems is a time and tested tactic of the media. We all saw what happened in Sushant Singh Rajput murder case during the initial days when the left liberal media was shouting on mental health issues and how the same had afflicted Sushant Singh Rajput. Today the story has taken a different turn. However I don't want to shift focus on my topic, so let us discuss it.

In my opinion most of the Indian men have put the institution of  marriage on a pedestal. Most of these men live in a delusional world thinking that they will get the world's most loving and caring women not to mention beautiful.The aspiration for a wonderful married life starts when a man is his late teens. Relentless brainwashing through Bollywood movies and the society conditions most of the Indian men to live in a dream world wherein they loose focus with the ground reality.

Even in today's times of of Hoe and Thot culture, the men expect to have a holy than thou sacred wife who is pure. Yes such women do exist but they are a minority. The most....... well you all know what the truth is. 

Most of Indian men struggle and work extremely hard in order to achieve a good education and job, the single most important requirement to live a decent and respectable life in India. This is also a ticket to become an eligible bachelor in India's matrimonial aka MEAT market. After all an Indian is just worth of his annual CTC and sum total of his assets.

Haven't we heard the wisdom given by our elders "If you don't study and get a job, you will not get a wife and will remain unmarried" HAHAHHAA. I really laugh at this statement. But jokes apart, most men who have started on a successful career path think that they will get married and live a happy life ever after. No one really thinks what would happen if the marriage fails and things don't work out.

So here is what actually happens. Once the ceremonies are completed, the honeymoon is over and the couple gets back to their daily lives, the reality sets in and it hits extremely hard. The wife states that she did not want to marry the man in the first place, did it due to parental pressure and society, there is a boyfriend/lover from the past who comes from nowhere and the affair starts, the wife's parents interfere a lot trying to extract their pound of flesh from the groom, the husband isforced to fulfill the expensive demands of the wife that forces him to take EMI's, Car Loans and Home loans, many husbands go through a repetitive  never ending cycle of emotional abuse from their wives that destroys their self esteem. Things don't  stabilize even after having a child, the problems multiply exponentially.

And then the  tragedy strikes. The wife and her parents go to the police and the courts leveling all kinds of fake allegations against the husband. I guess this is the last nail in the coffin or the last straw that breaks the husband's back. The man and his family are declared  criminals just because they did not accede to the demands of the wife and her parents. Later the court cases take the toll on the man where he is shamed and has to face ignominy. Divorce cases end up in settlement wherein lakhs of rupees are paid as a one time separation cost, in some cases monthly alimony and child support is also paid. Many women alienate their children from their biological father. The father yearns to meet the child and yet he is denied basic visitation rights. Imagine what a man would go through if he is not able to meet and love his own child?

As humans we all get betrayed, sometimes by out neighbors, sometimes colleagues and even our friends but that is part and parcel of our lives, people change as per situations. However it is difficult for men when their own wives betray them, when they taunt and abuse them, when they file false criminal charges against them, when they take away their son/daughter and do not allow the men to meet their children. I guess this is what breaks them mentally and emotionally and then they decide to end their lives.

It should be noted that in the current era it is foolish to have expectations from someone and  be emotionally attached. There are evil manipulators all around. Indian men must start thinking rationally and logically. Having sky high expectations from a marriage is like making your own path for destruction. It is time that Indian men start realizing that marriage is not really worth the effort, be it financial or emotional. If marriage is solely based based on the job and salary of the man then problems are bound to erupt after marriage. It is time for Indian men to realize that they should not rush into a marriage just because they are at the right age. You can marry anytime you want provided you find an understanding partner. Stop wasting your time and resources after an institution that is based of lies and false promises.

This is my understanding of the reasons why married Indian men commit suicide. 

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW