A requirement for men's only spaces in India: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW-DOTSIM

There are times when I feel there should be spaces and places dedicated to men and men only. A place where single men can visit and feel comfortable in order to experience solitude. Going by today, most places are dedicated  to couples and families with nothing for single Indian men. Now I don't have any problem with that as I have negotiated my way at restaurants, multiplexes and coffee shops, but an exclusive men's place can always create a difference.

Here are my thoughts on some facilities that can be dedicated to men and men only:

Gyms: Everyone wants to have a good workout in order to be fit and look good. Unfortunately majority of the gyms have been infiltrated by womenfolk making a lot of men nervous, conscious and uncomfortable. There are these young nibbis who have become influenced by social media, they all want to look like celebrities. They come to the gym in order to get maximum attention from the men out there, they will take all the space and required equipments. If you ask them to use the machine, they will give you that arrogant look as if you are some kind of a beggar. Every 5 minutes they will take a selfie in front of the mirror in order to post a picture on social media. The nibbi will also be accompanied with her friend who will take her picture and videos, tagging along with the nibbis are their beta simp boyfriends who act like their assistants. I get so damned irritated by the immature behavior of these new generation nibbis. After the nibbis , there are women in their mid and late 20's who are planning to get married in the next six months, They will come to the gym exclusively to loose weight in order to look like a princess bride on the wedding day. They also follow the same trend like the young nibbis. Half of the time they are on the phone having that romantic lovey dovy conversation with their fiances. Why can't they just shut their mouths and do the exercises. Then there is the third category, the 30 and 40 plus married women and mothers. They have become influenced by Malaika Arora and have joined they gym exclusively to look like Malaika. Most of the time these Aunties will be on the treadmill or the static cycle, they won't lift weights. If you are in North India, expect these women to be loud mouthed and shrieking all the time. They will call the trainer "Bhaiya". These women make gyms into their personal gossip centers where they will exercise for 20 minutes and gossip for 2 hours. After the gym session, they will have street side momos, pakoras, and pani puris. So much for going to the gym. With women entering the gym, most of the trainers neglect us men. It is like we just don't exist. Plus there is a lot of distraction. As a man i don't have  a problem in sharing space with another man. We men understand and respect each other. Were I to ask a 20 year old young boy for the weights , he would happily give it to me. The same thing does not apply to females. Plus, I as a man feel some kind of a discomfort in front of these women.  I just wish there were gyms that were exclusively dedicated to Men or at least they had separate floors for men and women.

Swimming Pools: A good swim is always required especially to beat the summer heat. Even though majority of the pools have different timings for males and females, I have often observed women entering the pool at time slots dedicated to men. I just can't understand. The management of these pools have a soft corner for women and they allow them to do what they want. Another point observed is that a lot of small children enter the pool often making it look like a children's park. Accompanied with these children are their mothers who will sit beside the pool and have snacks and do gossip. Again as a man I am uncomfortable at some women looking at my half naked body where I just have a swimming wear to cover me. This why I want swimming pools dedicated to men and men only.

Cafes: In India , people have no idea of what cafes are for. Abroad, it is for people to sit and enjoy coffee along with some snacks while reading a book or writing something.The music is relaxing and soothing and people have meaningful conversations at a low volume. Come to India, and cafes have just becomes bars and discotheques minus the alcohol. Either you will find youngsters in groups or loud couples. These people have no respect for the privacy and personal space of other people. Adding to this is the Punjabi rap bangda music being played at a high volume. I have been to some cafes where people have give me obnoxious stares when I was reading my book and enjoying coffee. In some cafes you can't even go during the peak afternoon hours as it is always crowded by couples and youngsters. These people literally shout creating nuisance for others.

Bars: Single Indian men also have the right to enjoy a drink or a pint of beer. Today most of the bars in the city are overcrowded with youngsters and one cannot enjoy a few moments to solace and solitude. A single Indian man wants a place where he can enjoy his drink peacefully with the background  music of Yaani, Yiruma and Kenny G. In Delhi-NCR, enterprising wine shop owners have extended their space by opening a kind of mini restaurant area either in the basement or rooftops where men can come and have a drink along with some food. In these places one will often find men, both married or single coming alone and having a drink. I guess, in a way it provides some solitude to these men. However it would be good if some enterprising businessman takes the idea forwards and opens a bar only for 30 plus Indian men where stags are given first priority.

I am writing this article in the context of the growing population of single Indian men. More and more men will remain single in India either out of their circumstances or their own volition. There is a need to provide them the space they require. There are spaces that should be exclusively for men and men only. If there are women only places then why can't there by men only places. This is something that the larger society should think about.

I rest my case.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Happy International Men's Day-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

My dear Indian men, I hope your are doing well. We are now seeing the end of the year 2021 and this year was again challenging considering the 2nd wave of the COVID Pandemic.

On this day I would like to wish you all men a very Happy International Men's Day. This day is important in order to celebrate our existence as the male gender and our contributions to the society. As observed previously, no organization or media group will celebrate this day. No one wants to give this day any importance. After all in this country Indian men are second class citizens. We only have responsibilities and accountability but no rights.

But still, I want all you Indian men to be proud of yourself for you you are and what you have become. For my single Indian male friends, please continue this path of being solo and going ahead in life. There is peace and happiness associated with solo living. In the years to come you will realize how lucky you have been by opting for a solo living. We are now seeing India going through a 4th wave of radical feminism, this will eventually lead to the breakdown of the society and the family structure. But as a single Indian man I don't care.

Be proud of your gender and never apologize for your masculinity. Remember, you are  man and if you make up your mind, you can achieve whatever you want.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

The case of boring 30, 40 and 50 plus single Indian men: Bhaveen Sheth Indian MGTOW

For some time I was itching to write something on the 30 plus single, boring,sad and depressed Indian men. It is very much required as this category of men rising day by day. Over the coming years the category of such men is going to grow exponentially. As an Indian MGTOW I feel it is important to highlight them, mind you they are not like us MGTOW's. We MGTOWS have accepted and embraced our solo status whole hardheartedly and living our lives fully. No my friends these men are not MGTOW's. They belong to a different category and maybe just maybe because of them we MGTOW's also end up receiving the wrath and criticism of the Indian society.

These men are easy to identify. They come from different backgrounds and belong to different age groups (30, 40 and even 50). They are never married, divorced or separated. All have a common background: they were betrayed by women. Yup!! They were cheated on, they were abandoned and forsaken for some other good guy who was providing better prospects, they were hamstrung by their own wives, their marriages ended up in bitter divorces wherein a huge money was paid in settlement and still being paid in alimony, a family reputation that got tarnished due to divorce and the aftermath of dealing with loneliness after separation. We Indians emotionally invest a lot on relationships that too with the opposite gender. The after effects of a breakup are always catastrophic.

When Beta Men become Bitter

Somewhere I have read a statement that goes by "When you love someone more that yourself and change yourself to live up to the expectations of your loved one and if he/she left you or broke up with you then you will end up hating yourself more that you hate the person who broke up with you"

India is a nation dominated by beta male simps. They will do anything to please a woman not knowing that they are just being used. For years these men,influenced by Bollywood rom-com crap live in an illusion expecting their dream girls. Separated from reality and intoxicated by fantasy, these men are bound to make mistakes when it comes to the choice of their romantic partner or even life partner. When choices are made purely on looks, beauty and skin colour, disasters are bound to happen. And this is where such Indian men get heart broken. Their long time girls friend leave them, their wives leave them. No one knows why? Just guess that some relationships don't work out.

Then there is another category of the so called left over Indian men who did not get married. In my previous posts I have written about them, you may kindly refer to the same. In our country the left over men never have given up hopes on getting married. They and their parents live in a Utopian world wherein they feel that they deserve the best woman. Repeated rejections on the matrimonial front make these men toxic, they end up having low self esteem and  low self confidence. 

Their Reality

Most of these men appear to be a depressed lot, the kind of people who have forgotten to smile, to laugh and live life. They have lost their sense of humour. They have stopped taking care of themselves.Their appearances reveal a lot about their personality. Sagging bodies, gynaecomastia, bulging tummy, unkempt hair, no shaving for 2-3 days, poor dressing sense, broken teeth,  hairs coming out of their ears, bushy eyebrows, poor body odour, poor food habits, excess of smoking and alcohol.

If appearances don't put you off then a minor 5 minute conversation is bound to give you a headache. I have interacted with few of them and believe me it is a head ache. These men are clinically depressed and urgently need the help of a psychologist. They just don't have anything interesting to talk about. They have grievances and complaints for not getting married, for being divorced or separated. Some of these men have never grown up to be mature and handle responsibilities,they have poor soft skills, they can't manage relationships well with people, some of them are introverts while others find it difficult to interact with people.

Adding to the above points, these men lack maturity, they have not grown up. They are still the mamma's boys or they are still carrying the syndrome of a Man Child. They live with their parents wherein they are treated like small children, they can't live independently, they have never traveled solo and most important they lack life skills. Now please tell me, in today's time which woman would want to associate with such men. Forget marriage, these men can't even have temporary relationships.They are still living with a dream that one day a beautiful woman will come in their lives and play the role of a dutiful wife. Dream on dude, it ain't happening any soon.

I have often found these men to be clingy, they just want someone to talk to, I mean just anyone. You will often find them having long chats with auto or rickshaw drivers, with tea vendors and even their office boys at their workplace. Their delusions make them act in a stupid manner. Whenever they see a good looking presentable girl, they get desperate in trying to meet her. This can happen anywhere: At office, social function, apartment. There are instances wherein numerous young woman joining the workforce have to deal with such men, they don't have a choice as some of these men happen to be their seniors. These men often find a small excuse to have a small chat with young girls. Mind you this is not harassment, this is a sign of a very lonely man looking to have conversation with the opposite gender. In their own fantasies these men end up making a huge mistake. They start imagining these young girls as their own girlfriends. Sometimes they even propose them which often ends up in rejections and makes them more depressed. These men and their parents are on a constant look out for a woman for marriage. Weekends and public holidays go in matrimonial meetups often ending into rejections or no answers from the other side.

Most of these men spend a lot of time at their workplace. Guess they have nothing meaningful to do at home. At home they watch TV shows, read newspapers and take solo walks around their apartment complex, no family interacts with them as they appear weird. Cigarettes and Alcohol become their companions. Some even become addicted to porn movies which proves to be detrimental. Sundays and Public Holidays are nothing but misery for them, They just don't know how to kill time. Scrolling through Facebook and Instagram makes them depressed. All their friends and close relatives are married and have children and they are still not married. Some of these men even get enraged when they see a newly married couple. Overall these men have nothing to look forward to or live for.

Now you may that I am writing this as a  figment of my own imagination but it is not. The number of such men are rising  and one will encounter them everywhere. Blame it on our skewed gender ratio or women's empowerment, more and more Indian men are getting rejected and not getting married. Of course there are multiple reasons but if you are a boring man child , believe me,  no one will marry you. After crossing 30 change is not easy.

If any of you men are reading this and belong to this category, I sincerely request you to go change yourself. Because of men like you we MGTOW's are equated in your category. I don't have any suggestions for you but go and change yourself and get a life. Stop living like a loser. Get a life, change your mindset, travel, explore, meet new people, have more hobbies. Stop making woman and marriage as an integral part of your life. You can live happily even without marriage.

GO GET A LIFE!!!!!

Bhaveen Sheth

INDIAN MGTOW

The movie Motichoor-Chaknachoor portrays 30 plus single Indian men in a bad light-Bhaveen Sheth-INDIAN MGTOW

For those who have not seen the trailer, I kindly request you to do the same below:

This movie shows a 36 year old Indian man desperate to get married to anyone at any cost. I mean , what the hell?. Why showcase 30 plus single Indian men in such a poor taste? This gives a wrong impression to the general public which has already formed a generalized opinion about single Indian men. Why are 30 plus single Indian men being stereotyped?

I have hardly come across a movie or a web series wherein a 30 or 40 plus single Indian man is normal, happy and content with his life. Either he is shown to be a gay or a divorcee/widower or some kind of psychotic villain. Why can't Bollywood make a movie capturing the struggles of 30 plus single Indian men? Why is there not a single movie which showcases the urban loneliness that many single Indian men working in metro cities face?

I would also state how the greed of the female character played by Athiya Shetty is not only justified but glorified? It is okay if she wants only wants an NRI groom and will not settle for less in spite of having no achievements of her own. The man's character played by Nawazuddin Siddqui tries to show 30 plus single Indian men to be losers. The short, dark and ugly kind of guy whom no one wants to marry. 

I just hate this disgusting portrayal of men. Imagine if the genders were reversed and the female character was shown in a bad light. I am dead sure the feminists and feminazis would have had a field day and would have got the movie banned. But then who cares if Indian men are given a bad characterization. No one raises his/her voice.

I feel sad that Indian men especially those who are 30 plus and single are show cased as losers and failures.

I will watch this movie and write my opinion but this wrong portrayal of 30 plus single Indian men is not acceptable.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW