There are times when I feel there should be spaces and places dedicated to men and men only. A place where single men can visit and feel comfortable in order to experience solitude. Going by today, most places are dedicated to couples and families with nothing for single Indian men. Now I don't have any problem with that as I have negotiated my way at restaurants, multiplexes and coffee shops, but an exclusive men's place can always create a difference.
Here are my thoughts on some facilities that can be dedicated to men and men only:
Gyms: Everyone wants to have a good workout in order to be fit and look good. Unfortunately majority of the gyms have been infiltrated by womenfolk making a lot of men nervous, conscious and uncomfortable. There are these young nibbis who have become influenced by social media, they all want to look like celebrities. They come to the gym in order to get maximum attention from the men out there, they will take all the space and required equipments. If you ask them to use the machine, they will give you that arrogant look as if you are some kind of a beggar. Every 5 minutes they will take a selfie in front of the mirror in order to post a picture on social media. The nibbi will also be accompanied with her friend who will take her picture and videos, tagging along with the nibbis are their beta simp boyfriends who act like their assistants. I get so damned irritated by the immature behavior of these new generation nibbis. After the nibbis , there are women in their mid and late 20's who are planning to get married in the next six months, They will come to the gym exclusively to loose weight in order to look like a princess bride on the wedding day. They also follow the same trend like the young nibbis. Half of the time they are on the phone having that romantic lovey dovy conversation with their fiances. Why can't they just shut their mouths and do the exercises. Then there is the third category, the 30 and 40 plus married women and mothers. They have become influenced by Malaika Arora and have joined they gym exclusively to look like Malaika. Most of the time these Aunties will be on the treadmill or the static cycle, they won't lift weights. If you are in North India, expect these women to be loud mouthed and shrieking all the time. They will call the trainer "Bhaiya". These women make gyms into their personal gossip centers where they will exercise for 20 minutes and gossip for 2 hours. After the gym session, they will have street side momos, pakoras, and pani puris. So much for going to the gym. With women entering the gym, most of the trainers neglect us men. It is like we just don't exist. Plus there is a lot of distraction. As a man i don't have a problem in sharing space with another man. We men understand and respect each other. Were I to ask a 20 year old young boy for the weights , he would happily give it to me. The same thing does not apply to females. Plus, I as a man feel some kind of a discomfort in front of these women. I just wish there were gyms that were exclusively dedicated to Men or at least they had separate floors for men and women.
Swimming Pools: A good swim is always required especially to beat the summer heat. Even though majority of the pools have different timings for males and females, I have often observed women entering the pool at time slots dedicated to men. I just can't understand. The management of these pools have a soft corner for women and they allow them to do what they want. Another point observed is that a lot of small children enter the pool often making it look like a children's park. Accompanied with these children are their mothers who will sit beside the pool and have snacks and do gossip. Again as a man I am uncomfortable at some women looking at my half naked body where I just have a swimming wear to cover me. This why I want swimming pools dedicated to men and men only.
Cafes: In India , people have no idea of what cafes are for. Abroad, it is for people to sit and enjoy coffee along with some snacks while reading a book or writing something.The music is relaxing and soothing and people have meaningful conversations at a low volume. Come to India, and cafes have just becomes bars and discotheques minus the alcohol. Either you will find youngsters in groups or loud couples. These people have no respect for the privacy and personal space of other people. Adding to this is the Punjabi rap bangda music being played at a high volume. I have been to some cafes where people have give me obnoxious stares when I was reading my book and enjoying coffee. In some cafes you can't even go during the peak afternoon hours as it is always crowded by couples and youngsters. These people literally shout creating nuisance for others.
Bars: Single Indian men also have the right to enjoy a drink or a pint of beer. Today most of the bars in the city are overcrowded with youngsters and one cannot enjoy a few moments to solace and solitude. A single Indian man wants a place where he can enjoy his drink peacefully with the background music of Yaani, Yiruma and Kenny G. In Delhi-NCR, enterprising wine shop owners have extended their space by opening a kind of mini restaurant area either in the basement or rooftops where men can come and have a drink along with some food. In these places one will often find men, both married or single coming alone and having a drink. I guess, in a way it provides some solitude to these men. However it would be good if some enterprising businessman takes the idea forwards and opens a bar only for 30 plus Indian men where stags are given first priority.
I am writing this article in the context of the growing population of single Indian men. More and more men will remain single in India either out of their circumstances or their own volition. There is a need to provide them the space they require. There are spaces that should be exclusively for men and men only. If there are women only places then why can't there by men only places. This is something that the larger society should think about.
I rest my case.
Bhaveen Sheth
Indian MGTOW
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