On not becoming the Last unwanted option for an Indian Woman

Dear Single Indian Male Friends,

Hope you guys are doing good. I had a short break from my work in order to relax for some time and recharge my creative mindset. 

I  write a blog post on how one should not become the last remaining option for the Indian Woman.

Most of you guys must be thinking on what i am trying to say.Well!!!! Its pretty simple, majority of you single guys who are reading this post happen to be bachelors, some,  even chronic bachelors. However you may be trying to change your status by getting hitched. Right or Wrong is something for you to accept.

The time tested solution to get hitched in the Indian Society is by asking our parents/ relatives to find someone or then if we happen to work in a modern workplace , i mean real modern workplace where the women come with a modern mindset, then you can expect to find someone there.

But before you start building your castles in dreams, i want to wake you up. PLEASE WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I mean are you someones last option who is being considered for marriage. At your workplace, is that woman who is responding to your overtures just because she has failed to find that special someone or she is considered as unwanted goods (fat, obese, thin, anorexic, toxic, desperate, lacking manners) and now she feels that you are the last remaining option, think twice my friend, maybe your colleagues are sad to see you live a lonely life and are trying to get you hitched to someone they know, and maybe just maybe that someone is the dejected and rejected person and all someone wants you tie her up with you in holy matrimony.

You go home and your parents and family want you to get married to someone they know. Now everyone does not happen to be an an IIT-IIM passout or some Doctor Sahab who gets to choose the best of the girls or maybe that guy is chosen because of his professional and financial credentials, after all no matter how modern and liberated the Indian Women call themselves,  they often settle down for financial stability even if they have to marry a dork.

Now, a lot of us don't belong to the category that i have mentioned above, we are above average and are doing  jobs in good organizations. We earn  good salaries but do we make the sought after grooms????? I really doubt that.

So coming back to the topic, i can imagine that once you go home to visit your folks you are made to meet girls, you know, the types who belong to your caste, community, religion , gotra and sub gotra. You soon realize that you are considered as the last option, some kind of garbage where a desperate demoralized father wants to dump his daughter. This type of girl for some reason is not accepted elsewhere and she happens to get married to you because you are some sort of last resort.

How do you feel?????? That,  from being a desirable person you are taken to be the least desired. Relations made out of compromise and desperation don't last for long, once that honeymoon phase of life is over , real life starts and it is never easy to compromise all your life.

Have i gone through this situation in my life??? Yes, plenty of times, i mean what else can i go though. Though i have good academic credentials and hold a decent job, but i happen to be an Orphan and a homeless destitute, no one to talk/speak on my behalf other than my foster sister who cares for me like her very own child.

But the reality is that I have become the last option for others, i get matrimonial offers often from dejected and the rejected women and more from their desperate parents, siblings who want to get such women married.

And then i say, are we so bad that we have stoop to such low levels???? Have we lost our self respect???? No , my friends , we don't have to compromise. Given the fact that we have our own limitations, but there is no need to compromise. Live single and be happy.

As i have mentioned in the previous blogpost on becoming the desirable Single Male (please read it) , one must work on becoming a better person and find happiness in his solitude.

So my friends, please go out and focus on your life. And don't , please don't become the last unwanted option for the  some dejected and rejected Indian Woman.

CHEERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with a lot more.