Kindly leave us alone

My dear single Indian male friends,

Greetings for the day!!!!!

Most of you guys must be enjoying your Sunday, same here. I write down this blog post for  the esteemed members of the Indian society to leave us alone.

Everyone it seems to have  a problem with the single Indian male living alone, why????I don't know dude? Looks like people just don't want to see a man living life all by himself. Home, social functions, office and no matter where you go, you are asked that one irritating question, dude!!! , why are you still single????? When are u getting married???.

So here I begin:

Please leave us alone!!!!! Don't you  have your own life to worry about??? Don't you have your own problems?? Don't you have your own family????

On the married arrogant average Indian males

Dear All,

Having written on the bragging and the boastful married Indian males, I would now like to dedicate this blog post to the arrogant married Indian males.

Before I begin , a lot of you must be wondering who are these arrogant average married Indian males???? They are the ones you find everywhere,in your housing society, at your workplace, public places, almost anywhere. They are ubiquitous.

But how do they become a problem to us, the single Indian males??? Simple , they show their arrogance that they are married, that they have a fair looking trophy wife ( a prized possession), they have children and are living a so called complete and happy family life.

Such men often look down upon  other single men with contempt and hatred. They often criticize the single men with statements like "You have been left out" " You failed to have a wife"  "You will die alone" "You have no family life and will never learn to enjoy", "You will become a psycho by living alone" and god knows what.

Whom do you have to go back to??????

My dear single Indian male friends. Greetings for the Day!!!!!!

Often I have been asked this question, whom do you have to go back to after your work/office hours????Friends, relatives and  colleagues ask me this questions on and off. Some tell me that they have to go back to their parents and while the other state that they have to go back their spouses and children.

But the question put in front of me is , whom do I have to go back to??? Empty homes, silent rooms, with no one waiting for me and having my lunch and dinner in solitary spaces!!!!

So the single Indian male would like to answer to the members of the Indian society that we do have things to go back to after office hours and my answers come down in the following statements:

We do go back to our homes, for some it is a dream home which has been made out of hard work, bought on housing loans with payment of EMI's and it is our home.

We have a nice shower to go back to where we have the luxury of having a peaceful bath, for some enthusiastic people there is even a jacuzzi.

And you call me the Selfish Self Centered Single Indian Male

With a heavy heart the single Indian male would like to pour his strong statements aimed to all the members of the Indian society, expressing his grievance to the mistreatment meted out to the brotherhood of the single Indian Male.

Having crossed into my thirties, I am often reminded about my single status by many members if the Indian Society. When my answer to their question is NO!! I have chosen to remain single, i get barrage of criticisms which are described below:

"You are running away from responsibility." " You are breaking the society traditions " " You are a rebel." "You have high expectations from marriage." "You think too much." " You are money minded, selfish." "You just can't get along with anyone". There is plenty more but for now I would like restrict.

And so here is my statement to all you members who call me the Selfish Self Centered Single Indian Male:

While I am happily living my day to day life , you are brooding and cursing your miserable married life but you call me the Selfish Self Centered Single Indian Male.

On not becoming the Last unwanted option for an Indian Woman

Dear Single Indian Male Friends,

Hope you guys are doing good. I had a short break from my work in order to relax for some time and recharge my creative mindset. 

I  write a blog post on how one should not become the last remaining option for the Indian Woman.

Most of you guys must be thinking on what i am trying to say.Well!!!! Its pretty simple, majority of you single guys who are reading this post happen to be bachelors, some,  even chronic bachelors. However you may be trying to change your status by getting hitched. Right or Wrong is something for you to accept.

The time tested solution to get hitched in the Indian Society is by asking our parents/ relatives to find someone or then if we happen to work in a modern workplace , i mean real modern workplace where the women come with a modern mindset, then you can expect to find someone there.

But before you start building your castles in dreams, i want to wake you up. PLEASE WAKE UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I mean are you someones last option who is being considered for marriage. At your workplace, is that woman who is responding to your overtures just because she has failed to find that special someone or she is considered as unwanted goods (fat, obese, thin, anorexic, toxic, desperate, lacking manners) and now she feels that you are the last remaining option, think twice my friend, maybe your colleagues are sad to see you live a lonely life and are trying to get you hitched to someone they know, and maybe just maybe that someone is the dejected and rejected person and all someone wants you tie her up with you in holy matrimony.

You go home and your parents and family want you to get married to someone they know. Now everyone does not happen to be an an IIT-IIM passout or some Doctor Sahab who gets to choose the best of the girls or maybe that guy is chosen because of his professional and financial credentials, after all no matter how modern and liberated the Indian Women call themselves,  they often settle down for financial stability even if they have to marry a dork.

Now, a lot of us don't belong to the category that i have mentioned above, we are above average and are doing  jobs in good organizations. We earn  good salaries but do we make the sought after grooms????? I really doubt that.

So coming back to the topic, i can imagine that once you go home to visit your folks you are made to meet girls, you know, the types who belong to your caste, community, religion , gotra and sub gotra. You soon realize that you are considered as the last option, some kind of garbage where a desperate demoralized father wants to dump his daughter. This type of girl for some reason is not accepted elsewhere and she happens to get married to you because you are some sort of last resort.

How do you feel?????? That,  from being a desirable person you are taken to be the least desired. Relations made out of compromise and desperation don't last for long, once that honeymoon phase of life is over , real life starts and it is never easy to compromise all your life.

Have i gone through this situation in my life??? Yes, plenty of times, i mean what else can i go though. Though i have good academic credentials and hold a decent job, but i happen to be an Orphan and a homeless destitute, no one to talk/speak on my behalf other than my foster sister who cares for me like her very own child.

But the reality is that I have become the last option for others, i get matrimonial offers often from dejected and the rejected women and more from their desperate parents, siblings who want to get such women married.

And then i say, are we so bad that we have stoop to such low levels???? Have we lost our self respect???? No , my friends , we don't have to compromise. Given the fact that we have our own limitations, but there is no need to compromise. Live single and be happy.

As i have mentioned in the previous blogpost on becoming the desirable Single Male (please read it) , one must work on becoming a better person and find happiness in his solitude.

So my friends, please go out and focus on your life. And don't , please don't become the last unwanted option for the  some dejected and rejected Indian Woman.

CHEERS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM- A Solitary Exstenence in 30's

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Man.

What can I say about solitary existence, is it worth it??? I don't know!!!!!

I have now entered the decade of my 30's , but life seems all the same for me. Except that there are more responsibilities at work.

I go about doing the same routine that i used to do before like getting up getting ready, going to work, coming back, exercising, reading, watching movies, listening to music and all that.

I happy to be living a life of my choice at my terms and conditions. No obligations to fulfill. 

Somewhere i see the signs of age catching on me, my hairs have now started graying, my forehead has noticeable creases.

But i don't care, i dress and groom well, after all age is a sign of maturity. 

My priorities have however changed, i have started thinking more in terms of investments for my future, i am working on my dream to buy a small house (apartment/flat) so that i can it my dream home. I try to take maximum care of health in order to prepare for the old age.

As written previously, i have given up on marriage and on the possibility of finding a soul mate. In the Indian Society, Orphans like me are nothing but outcasts whom the society does not want.

And still this very Indian Society is not ready to tolerate a single man living a happy life, it just looks that in India everybody wants anybody to get married. Strange!!!!

And as of now i just concentrate on my dreams and my work and hope that one day i can make it to the City of Delhi-National Capital Regions. What has the Single Indian Male have to fear from???

Till then i bid my time and keep on working.