On Single Indian Men who become a failure on professional and personal fronts

Having written a lot on the positive sides of the single Indian man/male , I , Bhaveen Sheth would today  like to focus today on the single Indian men who have failed both on the personal and professional front

So, who are these men????????? They are smaller in number; however their population is rising day by day.

Here is a basic profile: Mostly in their Mid 30’s and 40’s doing just mediocre jobs, dragging themselves day by day, having no vision on what to do in their lives. Their behavioural traits comprise of frustration, angst, hatred, jealousy, depression, sadness, gloom and many more characteristics of a negative personality.

Time and again, I have come across such type of men. For some reason or the other they just happened to be left out, left out in all aspects of life i.e. education, family, marriage, social integration.

One may never know what actually happened??? Was it a bad family upbringing? Was it a dysfunctional family? Was it the negative influence of bad  peers and friends? Was it a negative personality? Was it the absence of opportunities?

The typical failed single Indian man presents to you as an average or below average looker, over the years this guy has stopped taking care of himself, that can clearly be seen by his attire or grooming, his health is in shambles as it is noticeable by his pot belly, he has fallen upon bad vices like smoking and drinking and that too in excess. He comes across as a sad and depressed person who at times has a violent temper. He is filled with all forms of hate, hate towards women, children, family and society.

As I have mentioned before, no one really knows what went wrong in the lives of such men, but the fact is that they never got out of their problems. They got stuck in an acidic vicious cycle that is now taking them to their doom.

If you even look at their work, they are poor performers; they come to work just to earn a salary so that they can make a living. You can find them in all forms of occupations, especially the ones where performance and merit are not the primary requirements, they are mostly into the run by the mill 9 to 5 jobs. They have no requisite skills that make a professional and neither do they try to learn them. Academically they have a below required level of education or may be some sort of an out dated education. They never try to enhance their knowledge and skills. So they continue to do the same job for their entire life, no promotion, increments of growth.

Adding to all of the above, they happen to be from conservative families living in the typical Indian society. Not a day goes by that these men and may be their parents are taunted on the fact that they are still unmarried and have now missed the chance of finding a soul mate. Many a times the desperate parents of these men try hard to find  decent life partner, but due to their mediocre job and below average personality, they are often rejected as they are considered to be unsuitable matches.

A causal visit to their homes will make you realize that all is not well within the family. It is very clear that the family has gone dysfunctional. Their houses are also not in good condition and if these men are living alone, their homes or should I say rooms are such that they cannot be habitable by normal human beings. Such are the miserable or  deplorable conditions in which they live in. The reality is that they don’t want to change the status quo.

They have limited or no friends. They are never invited to any ones house or for any social gathering. Because of their weird personality they are treated as outcasts.

And I, the Single Indian male often observes such men at times with sympathy and at times with some sort of disgust. I agree that one cannot change his past, but what I fail to understand is why can’t someone work on his present and change his future???? What stops anyone of us from taking up a positive step and making a better life???? How can marriage change all the problems in the lives of these men when they are not willing to change themselves in the first place?????

And this is the life of the single men who are now major failures on their personal and professional front because they have become hardened prisoners of their own dysfunctional world.