While our society has shown a growing concern on Indian women not getting married after a certain age and more and more women remaining single, no one has tried to shed light on the sudden and steep rise in the numbers of ineligible unmarried Indian men or better known as leftover men/bare branches.
These are men who have failed to get married for reasons obviously known to them, Demographically these men are found in huge numbers in the Northern part of India where decades of selective sex determination tests have led to female infanticide and abortions. Now these regions are facing a grave shortage of women.This is just one reason why we see so many unmarried Indian men.The other reason is the high standards, expectations and demands of Indian women when it comes to marriage.Time and again I have stated that Indian women marry higher up in the socio economic ladder. They prefer men who have better jobs earning a good salary package.Some men have not been as successful on the job and career front, some men are stuck in a dead end job with no further growth. These are the men who get rejected in the matrimonial market.
And then there are men belonging to a second category. These men hold good jobs and earn a decent salary. Unfortunately they come with their own fundamental flaws or personal in-competencies. These are men who are physically abnormal (too dark, short, obsese, short and scrawny), men who have poor social skills, they can't initiate a conversation with an unknown woman, men who lack self-esteem and self confidence which is noticeable from the body language.
So here you have a rising population of ineligible single Indian men, something that the Indian government should notice.This population is made up of disheartened and depressed men.Some of these men have hateful feelings towards the married Indian population.Being a left over Indian man deals a big blow one's ego especially for the men from North India.I also want to mention that these men are prone to indulge in bad habits like alcohol, drugs and women.Those days are not far when i will see these Indian men wasting their lives and careers because of their addiction to such vices.
Indian men have never been conditioned to live a solo life. They can"t accept the fact that they have to move on and go solo even after countless rejections from prospective brides.Indian society has indoctrinated its men in the philosophy that marriage is the be all and end all of life.Men are not able to come in terms with their solo status.
India and Indian society needs to make efforts in order to accommodate this population of ineligible bachelors.For starters the Indian society should stop taunting and making fun of these single Indian men. There is no point in making fun of a person who is not married just because you are happily married and have a family does not mean that everyone should follow the bandwagon. People should learn to practice empathy towards single Indian men.Single Indian men are human beings. Stop treating them as some kind of an infected animal who needs to be quarantined. Learn to accommodate them on the social front. Let them live their lives the way they want.
The government also needs to pitch in be giving support to these men.Start helplines/hire counselors to deal with the problems of single men.Give incentives to builders to make studio apartments.
Concluding this post I state that in the coming years the population os single Indian men will rise and efforts need to be put in to accommodate them.
This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day and promise to be back with a lot more.
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