As single Indian men and MGTOW's we don't owe the world an explanation: Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW-DOTSIM

I am now a veteran MGTOW, having decided to live a content single life, I would like tell the readers of this post especially those who are single Indian men and have started living the MGTOW life that we don't owe the world an explanation.

Being single will always be questioned and if one were to take a conscious decision to remain single, it will certainly leave people astonished. We all have our reasons to be single and follow the MGTOW lifestyle. We have become aware of the gynocentric Indian society and the anti-men laws existing within the judicial system. We know the rise of the feminazi culture. We also know that marriages have increasingly become materialistic with 100 % emotional and financial investment and 0 % return.

Even if were to justify our single status based on facts, figures and analogies, no one will be willing to agree with the same. Our fellow Indians are a delusional lot, they live in fantasies and they have still not accepted the reality. Marriage , family, wife and children  are important for a majority.

The majority fail to understand us often labeling us as odd or weird. We should not justify our position. And why should be? For what? Most important to whom? I have noting against married people, however I feel that many of them are hypocrites who just show a happy marriage on social media or during social functions, many of them boast how happy they are with their marriages. We as MGTOW's know the reality. Marriage can turn a normal man into the best liar wherein he will put up a fake show on how happy he is with his marriage when the reality is opposite. We know how a married man is forced to taken up unwanted and unnecessary social and financial responsibilities. 

Do I need to say more. The married folks will never be able to understand us. They don't know what freedom feels like, being away from the shackles of marriage and society, to live a peaceful life, to pursue your hobbies, to travel, to explore and most important, to enjoy your own company.

Summing up my post, the world does not understand us and we do not owe them an explanation.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

At 37 I am still unmarried and you don't need to be shocked: Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Indian MGTOW

As a first person writing this blog post, I Bhaveen Sheth, would like to state that I am 37 years old and still unmarried, don't have wife, did not father children and I am very happy with my choices and lifestyle. My Dear Sir/Madam, you should not be shocked or amused that I am single.In my writings below I would like to speak with on a one to one basis.

I hope you are doing well. I had a conversation with you and we took it further. We discussed a lot of things and I believe you found me to be a nice and interesting person. The conversation then went on the personal side and you asked me about my family and I stated that I am still unmarried. You expressed some kind of shock or amusement at my statement. I guess you must have assumed that our like that a like you I too must be a married man. Back of your mind you must be thinking how come this man is still single? I can understand. In a society like ours every Indian man has to be married and settled with a wife and child by this age. unfortunately I am not.

I have my own reasons for being single. You see I don't have a family. This is what I can tell as of now. I don't want to get into details. If you care to read a few of my blogposts, I am sure you will understand the reason. I represent myself. In our country and society no decent family would want their daughters or sisters to marry me. After all it is all about reputation and honour, no matter who fake and superficial it may be. People are more interested in LOG KYA KAHENGE (what will be people say) rather than looking and assessing an individual. Our society is all about families and individuality is not acceptable. A decade I ago I tried my hand at matrimony, I was so naive. I faced multiple rejections, people were rude with me, they scrutinized me and looked down upon me with suspicion. By the time I reached 30, I realized that I had no placed within the society. Self respect does matter and why should I compromise it.

At the age of 29, I became aware about the one sided gender biased matrimonial laws of our country.I started doing more research in it and realized matrimonial laws has indeed become a sort of legal terrorism in our country. Families were destroyed and the lives of many many married men were ruined just because their wives filled multiple false cases under different civil and criminal sections in the police station and courts.I personally  even met a few family lawyers who has dealt in matrimonial disputes, I narrated my story to  them and everyone told me to be very careful. In India matrimonial alliances have become a trap where  you can easily be exploited. You stand to loosed out everything that you have worked so hard to earn. Why the should I risk myself? And for what? Any cunning, deceiving and manipulative person will try to take advantage from me in a marriage. It is not worth it.

I also look at the modern marriage and the responsibilities it brings. Marriage and children are indeed a big responsibility. You must be a married man/woman with children or planning to have children. Sometimes I ask myself do I have it in me to become a good husband or a good father? Can I be a good provider or protector? Maybe yes , maybe no. But over the year that I have passed, I have gained maturity and a better insight of my own self. I just guess I am not marriage material, I lack the competency that is required to become an Indian husband in a conventional Indian marriage.

I value my solo time or me time. I love solitude and single living. Mental peace is more important for me. You can't buy mental peace. After work I would like to come home and relax preferably with a cup of coffee and  a book/movie. I would like to go for a jog or to the gym. I prefer spending the late night by reading some good books or doing online courses to enhance my professional development. You see I have been living alone for the last 18 years and it has become a habit. Solitude can be addictive.

At times you must be thinking how can I live alone all by myself. Don't I feel lonely? Don't I go insane? No sir/madam, I don't. I believe in keeping my mind occupied through creative engagement. I read, I write, I travel, I watch good movies and recently i have started my by path towards spirituality by perusing yoga and meditation. Creative engagement is the best antidote to counter loneliness. Please don't equate me with those lonely men who are frustrated with their lives cause I am not.

You may have judged me, judged me for having bad habit. You must have already made up your mind that I am chain smoker, drinker or sex maniac. I don't blame you. The problem is with our society and media. It stereotypes single men in negative shades. But frankly speaking I don't have any such habits. I know the negative consequences of these things and I have no intention on destroying my life. I know that I will end up spoiling my health and ruining my hard earned reputation. I stay away from these vices. 

You may counsel and advise me in getting married. You may state after an age everyone requires some sort of companionship and emotional support. But tell me sir/madam, will you refer your daughter/sister/near relative to me for a matrimonial alliance. I guess not. After all you also have a reputation to maintain. After all I am a man with no family background. It is very easy to advise others and difficult for follow or implement. Then also I thank you for your advice and appreciate your concern.

And yes there are those of you who think that I am a failure, a loser  and a useless man just because I failed to get married, have a wife and did not father a child. You may think whatever you want. I give a damn. I don't have time for narrow minded and cheap people like you who judge a person only from his marital status. 

There is a saying, to each one his own. Everyone has the right to live the way he/she wants. For some people remaining solo is a personal choice and one must respect that.

I hope I have clarified myself.

This is Bhaveen Sheth being blunt and clear.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW

Transitioning into Orphan Adulthood-Bhaveen Sheth-Indian MGTOW

This post does not seek sympathy or help of any kind from the people reading it. I don't expect any kind of help and sympathy from people which otherwise also I won't get. All I want is to state the reality of adult orphans in India.

At 37 you are much of an adult, you are mature enough to understand the complex dynamics of the world. At this age you feel that you  have transitioned into adulthood, maybe I had done it a decade ago however I feel more confident. Adult orphans are still a minority in India. Very few make it to the professional front and those who do find it difficult to get acceptance in the society.

At 37 I have accepted to live with stoicism, I cannot undo the past and I have to live my present in order to have a better future. At 37, you are much settled behaviorally. You have realized that some things are not possible and one should not be delusional about it. Life goes on as a routine, home, job and home again. Work goes on as usual. Unlike married folks you don't have much to look forward to. You have accepted that attending social functions is not your thing. Such functions remind you of something you could not have.It is like a person on wheelchair watching a sprint race.

Now that I am have crossed 35, health is something that needs a lot of attention. Eat right and exercise though over the last 2-3 years I have become irregular with exercise and have been neglecting my physical health, something I feel guilty about. But 2020 has made my resolve to stronger wherein I would like to transform my body. Mental health is another area that has not be addressed, not that I am mentally ill. AT 37, I have decided to stay away from toxic people, the negative people, the whiners, the complainers and the critical people. Such people always have problems and no solutions. Years back I would listen to them but now I don't have the capacity. Toxic people carry  a lot of negative energies and spread an aura that affects people to interact with them. I just want to such people in my life.

Loneliness is a problem that all single people face. It makes you vulnerable and despondent. Lonely people crave for a human interaction and wish for an integration into a social group. Lonely people can also become desperate for companionship leading to unwanted consequences and repercussions.

I have seen people go insane due to chronic loneliness and resorting to vices like eating junk food, smoking or consuming alcohol. Some single men end up becoming porn addicts or frequent visitors to brothels and red light areas.

I have learnt  to live a lonely life right from my late teens and I am fortunate to have come across good mentors who have shaped my behaviour and outlook. It is during those lonely times that I found solace in reading, writing, journaling and watching good movies. These hobbies are cheap and inexpensive. They also engage my mind. There is always something for me to read, be it those books that I have ordered online or the 400 plus books save on my kindle e-book reader. I have three journals wherein I write about my feeling and down my positive thoughts. A decent internet connection allows me to download the latest movies and television shows. I had to buy an additional hard disk to stack store the movies I had downloaded.

At 37, I have given up on the idea of getting married. If truth be said,in today's materialistic times, marriage is certainly not worth it. It has become a transactional process where each one wants to get the best deal. Also the fact is that these so called decent and well respected families would never consider me as a decent match for their daughters and sisters. After all no one would wish to associate with a man who has no family. I also look around and see the rising cases on divorces and separations. Far too many people are stuck in toxic dysfunctional marriages that they have to endure for a lifetime. It is not easy to understand people are orphans having no families, it is not easy to understand a person who has lived alone for the last 18 years. At this age I often come across women are divorced or single mothers looking for a second marriage. I have nothing against them but I would not prefer marrying them as I have my own reservations. Then there are women who are in their mid 30's and behave like they are still in their late teens. They lack maturity and a sense of responsibility. Living in their own Utopian fantasy world they have a lot of expectations from marriage and a future husband. I cannot handle an emotionally immature woman and that is the truth. A person who has seen the dark side of life cannot get along with a woman living in her fantasies. This is the truth. I may change my mind and get married if I find someone who likes and accepts me for who I am. 

At 37 I have no interest in women. People ask me how can that be possible? I guess at this age I value mental peace over everything. I enjoy my solitude and don't have time to go around seeking companionship. I have also realized that I am demi-sexual, it means that I cannot get attracted to a woman unless and until I am able to make a strong emotional connection with her. Making emotional connections requires time and efforts, it requires understanding and emotional investment. Unfortunately everyone just wants to tick off a checklist, make a match and get hooked. Call me old fashioned but I always believe in having meaningful conversations.

I am taking the path of spirituality and want to actively pursue yoga and meditation. Better late than never. Yoga for flexibility and meditation for mental peace. I have also started reading more and more books on spirituality. Gradually I am connection to my inner self. I strive to become a better person everyday and live a calm life.

My only support is my lovely and caring sister and her family. My sister is a guardian angel and acts a strong support system for me. I am highly indebted to her. Whatever achievements I have made is because of her.

I will keep living my life as a traveler, seeker and explorer. I will meet new people, I will improve the lives of others and in the years to come will become idol for many single Indian men who want happily live a single life.

I end my write up here.

Bhaveen Sheth

Indian MGTOW