Thirty four, single and still not married. I am writing a ten part series on living a single life, regrets and remorse associated with not being married, on how I was ill treated when when I went ahead to find a suitable wife, on broken dreams of marriage, on dying everyday due to lack of human love and affection, on a life with with a void that cannot be filled.
In the first part, I, Bhaveen Sheth, the writer of this blog writes this post on how no one asks for men of my kind, how we live an invisible existence within the society.
HUM JAISO KO KAUN PUCHTA HAI!!!
HUM JAISO KO KAUN PUCHTA HAI, literally translates into nobody asks for people of our type.
I make this statement many times when curious and inquisitive people inquire on my single status and why I am still not married.For a person who is an orphan and for men who have left their dysfunctional families for good, getting married is a difficult task. Forget marriage, even acceptance in the society is not there.No one wants us. Some people say that I am negative, but that is not the case because I am stating the reality. Without a proper family no one considers you eligible for marriage. If you are unmarried after a certain age, you cannot be part of the Indian society, no one will invite you to any social function or family gathering. You become a social pariah.One has to live with loneliness and isolation.In difficult times you are all by yourself.There is no one with whom you can share your problems and there is no one to understand you.
A few years ago, I stopped taking any interest in getting married. Marriage is for people who have families. No one wants people of my kind. In this so called market of matrimony we don't stand a chance.
Today I live a life that is satisfying, keep to myself and enjoy my life. However people are not please to see me live a happy single life.They often ask me why I am still single? Why I never got married or am still not actively searching for a matrimonial alliance?
To all of them , I have one common answer: HUM JAISO KO KAUN PUCHTA HAI !!!!!
This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off, will be back with a lot more.
Bhaveen Sheth
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