Pics from participation during the Marathon Season

Winter brings a lot of marathon events. The single Indian male participated in the unity run, the IRMA run and the greenathon. It was real fun. The pictures below depict it all :

The SIngle Indian Male and the small town/city mentality

The Small town /city mentality!!!!!What does this mean?????? Err. Simple. Leave behind big metro cities in this country and you are exposed to the small town/city mentality and what would that be my dear sir???? Well, it is the narrow minded thinking of the people of small towns and cities.

We as the single Indian Men may at times have to  relocate to smaller cities or towns in order to find better opportunities, better career prospects, good salary raises, an opportunity to work in area of your interest and many other reasons.

While at work we may be happy and content finding one hundred job satisfaction, on the personal level there is nothing but frustration and dissatisfaction. Reason????? Small town mentality!!!!!!!

This is nothing but the narrow minded thinking of the people and a rigid Indian society that they live in, as a society that never changed with time. And how do we as the Single Indian Men get affected by it????? Oh Man, give me one reason why we don't.

On the Posibilities of taking endless travels across India

My dear single Indian Male Friends,

Greetings for the season!!!!!!

Diwali is over and once again life is on track for all of us. We are back to our jobs and workplaces.(Much to our unhappiness and displeasure)

I hope you all must have done some fun loving things during the festive season other than eating sweets and blowing crackers.

Anyways, today i would like to discuss on the aspect on taking endless travels across India, our country, our nation and our motherland.

Okay!!!!! Now before you raise your objections and say What??? Why??? How Come????? and all that stuff. I would put in some words of wisdom and say why not dude??? Is there some problem????

I can understand that many of you guys would have traveled abroad to western countries and the far east and think that traveling across the Indian  subcontinent is an obsolete idea indeed, but  before you jump to conclusions of your own ,let me assure you that think it all over again.

Bhaveen Sheth:DOTSIM-On not getting depressed by Facebook and other Social Media Uploads

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male

Social Media, something that revolutionized the way we communicated. The decade of 2000's saw the emergence of two forms of online social media, first it was orkut and then it was facebook, twitter was a distant cousin and became interesting for microbloggers.

But my discussion today in not on different types of social media's. It is on how the single Indian male gets affected by the same.

Affected!!!! By Social Media!!!!! I mean you couldn't be serious????????

Yes I am!!!! Imagine , you joined the Social Medial mostly Facebook to get in touch with your friends and just be in the league. This was mostly during your college days. You and your friends then got settled in their respective jobs, happy as ever.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Awaiting my relocation to a Metro City

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Not a day goes by when i don't think of a Metro city, of how i would be happy relocating out there, working in a good organization, enjoying all the modern amenities that a Metropolitan City has to offer. WOW!!!!! Just Amazing.

At present i am living in a semi-urban city. It has all the amenities that is required for a normal person to live life and enjoy, however after some point of time this semi-urban town just sucks. One gets bored living out here.

One of the greatest problems with tier 2 and tier 3 cities in India is that the people still have that backward traditional Indian mentality. They find it difficult to accept a Single Indian Male living alone all by himself , the same applies to a single woman.

My lifestyle itself is perceived as eccentric by them. Not to forget that such small cities and towns offer very little amenities to a single man who is looking to chill out after work.

There are hardly any good libraries, bookshops, eat outs, cinemas, cultural activities and events, malls and what not. Just nothing. I don't even have an access to better Internet facility, just that BSNL, where getting a connection in today's date is like applying for a telephone facility the 60's or the 70's.

And how i think of those Modern cities, the life and the vibrant people that i plan to meet in the near future. That fun of working along with competent people.

The small city people complain of the difficulties and complexities put up by a city life. The hectic travel, the struggle and well what ever. There is no shortage of whiners and complainers in my country.

I do understand that there are problems and challenges faced by a person living in a city. But it won't be much for me, the single Indian male. No wife, no kids , just me relocating somewhere.

I dream and i dream and promise myself to buy a residential apartment in one of those gated communities of a city that provides all facilities. I dream of having that hall where i can come back from work, relax and watch a good movie on a flat screen interactive television. Taking a hot shower in that jacuzzi and having a small pint of royal scotch or a hot coffee.

And what fun would it be just going around, touring the big city, walking through the malls, getting invited to social functions, attending parties, catching up with some good movies in multiplexes, watching plays, exploring eateries spread around in the city, taking photographs of the life going by.

My imagination is endless, but there is this hope kindled in my heart and everyday i promise myself that one fine day i will go to that big city. I will relocate to the City of my dreams and make my life.

Till then i work everyday to develop my skills and work on each and every area where i can make my self competent. I take this period of my life as a training and redeeming period and everyday i work on myself to make my self a better person.

So that one day i can relocate to a big city  and live the life of my dreams.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day , will be back with a lot.

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-On becoming the Desirable Male

DOTSIM stands for Diary of the Single Indian Male.

The last 3 months months have been a roller coaster ride for me. It is just that some days ago, i seriously looked at myself in the mirror and realized to my utter horror that i had gained weight and had acquired an expanding girth. I just hated it. I hated to see myself gaining weight and becoming fat. So i decided that it was enough and made a decision to become lean once and for all.

As the single Indian Male who has decided to remain single unless someone falls in love with me truly, madly and deeply, i have this goal of being a desired person.

And i would say that all the single Indian Men should become desired and why not. I was lost in the train of thought this morning and realized that if you want to be desired you have to work for it.

Furiously as i type my thoughts and feelings on my computer on a humid Sunday evening, i feel more and more attuned towards my goals of becoming a desired person in the coming years, of being desired and admired by both the younger and older women.

To the feminists especially the Indian creed reading this post, please note that I am not a misogynist and by the statement of the Indian Constitution i am bestowed the the right of free speech.

Being single is no longer a stigma in the Society, many people are happy living single and they are enjoying every moment of it.

But there are times when we the single men need some sort of companionship, we need to have an affair (even though it may be short term), we need to fulfill our basic needs.

In short i would like to say that we also have the desire and the right to have sex. 

Now c'mon don't raise your eyebrows and be surprised, i am not being a pervert, remaining single  does not mean that we have to follow celibacy and remain virgins for our entire lives. That is for nuns and monks, not normal men like us.

So what one needs to do to become a desirable man once he is single and in his 30's , 40's and 50's.

First thing, that I intend to do and i expect my single Indian male brethren  to follow suit is to work on your fitness. Work and work hard. Jog, run, hit the gym , lift weights, do endless cardio, eat right, stop drinking. 

SCULPT YOUR BODY, it is never late, remember, Aamir Khan in Gajhini, he did it in his 40's, so what are we waiting for on i would say what am i waiting for.

Women love a sculpted body, something which is becoming rare in India. Once a man enters his 30's he ends up acquiring a a pot belly that will even put a none month pregnant woman to shame.

Secretly women have wild desires of making love a man having a sculpted body. In India most of them don't have that privilege, married to pathetic rotten men, these men turn to be awful in bed. All the end up doing is WHAM BAM THANYOU MAM. No foreplay and no post coital love and caressing.

Well , i have set up this goal that in the coming years i want a sculpted body, no matter what.

The second thing is read, read and read. Nothing can substitute the written word, the more you read, the more intellectual you become. You can quote words, one liners and jokes. Imagine , just imagine, what happens when you set a woman laughing. I am a avid reader and i very well know that when it comes to words and language , i can seduce a woman through it. But this means speaking and quoting the elitist english. (however it may not apply to the country Gujarati bens and the Punjabi Kudis) because their level of intellect is far below it.

Talks on interesting topics can stimulate the mind of a woman, and yes women do dig for intellectual men. Many women especially in India are married of through the pathetic system of arranged marriage to a looser, yes the Looser Indian males, who are not worth a penny or pound outside the functional domain of their jobs. 

I want to travel and travel the length and breadth of this country. Explore places and of course meet the diverse women of this Country. Traveling to different place makes you look like and interesting man. Imagine posting photos of myself on different social networking sites and writing on blog posts on my travels. There is always something interesting about the lone ranger especially if he happens to have a thin lean sculpted body and appears intellectual from his talk and seduces woman with his words. HMMMM now that's a package deal.

And last but the mostly the most important one, learn the art of love making. But that did not mean that you go an watch worthless porn movies. I meant to say learn real love making. Though I am still a virgin, i love to read some snippets on love making literature, different sex positions, foreplay, getting a woman stimulated, post coital caressing, caring and of being a real gentleman in bed. There are a lot of books available. There is information available online.

And experiment , ohhh i would just love to experiment love making on someone. But please don't go to some prostitute in GB Nagar (Delhi) or Grant Road ( Mumbai).  You don't want to catch STD's , right. I mean find a woman, who just wants sex, she does not have to be beautiful, but if you can go and experiment love making on her , whats the harm. It would be like doing her a favour by experimenting different positions on her.  How many Indian men are really innovative in bed???????? The possibility is that there are just a few.

Yes , I want to become a desirable male , a man who is desired by women in their wildest dreams. A man whom women would dream of having a lovely session of love making. 

I am not ashamed of putting forward my basic need.If women can stay single yet have multiple partners to enjoy have sex with, then why can't we do the same.

Is it a crime to satiate and fulfill my basic desire. So my dear Indian Single male friends, lets take an oath that we work hard and become the desirable Indian Male so that its is the women who desire and chase us and not vice-verse.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the Day, will be back with a lot more.

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-The Ineligible Bachelor/The Unsuitable Boy

DOTSIM stands for the The Diary of the Single Indian Male.

This Blog Post is a Satirical writeup on myself.

I draw Inspiration from the titles of two books, The Suitable Boy written by Vikram Seth and The Ineligible bachelor written by some chickilit Author.

I am by default an ineligible bachelor/unsuitable boy in the Indian Society, for the brides who are looking for a perfect match and for Parents and the family of a prospective bride who are looking for the perfect son in law or groom, i stand to be an absolute reject.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-13th of Many 2013-The Day i celebrated my Birthday

DOTSIM stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male

And the day finally arrived, it was 13th of may 2013. Having taken 4 days leave from work, i celebrated my birthday in peace and solitude. The images below speak on how the day went by:

 

Waking up early in the Morning-All Fresh and happy

                                                      Dressed for the Day

                                               At Avres restaurant waiting for My order

                                                    And Finally the Food arrives, yummy

                                                  Back Home watching some movies

                                                 Reading my favorite books on Kindle Ebook Reader

                                      Missing you a lot Aapa, her photo is on the Desktop background

                                               Chilling out at Coffee cafe Day

                                   Finally Back home, what a day it was!!!!!! Enjoyed


HAPPY BIRTHDAY BHAVEEN

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM- And one Fine day i just decided to live a Single Life.

DOTSIM stands for The Life of the Single Indian Male.

My Dear Friends,

Happy Holi and Happy Good Friday.

I hope everyone must have enjoyed and are still enjoying their holidays that subsequently got clubbed with the weekend.

I would like to share my feelings on how one fine day i just decided to live a single life. You may call it weird for a young person like me deciding to life alone at such an early age but there are reasons.

Men, especially Indian men decide to live a single life only after going through bitter experiences of marriage and subsequent divorce, some make sacrifices in order to serve their disabled aging parents and some do it as they have family responsibilities of getting their siblings settled down in life and in doing so, they decide to make sacrifices.

I don't belong to any of the above categories. My previous blog posts and my introduction has clearly stated that i am an orphan, though not by birth but by destiny. Having lost my parents at a young age and having no relatives to take care of me, i hard to work the hard way in life and rise. At present I am happy and content at the position i have reached and the academic credentials i have achieved.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Bad Habits the Single Indian Male must avoid

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male.

My Dear Single Indian Male Friends,

We are  now into March 2013, two months have already gone by. Looks like this year is going to go by very quickly.

Today's topic of discussion is on the bad habits that we the single men must avoid.We the single Indian male's can pick up bad habits. You can be single ,unmarried, a widower or a divorcee. Loneliness can be the greatest of all devils to take a toll on the a single person's life. Below mentioned are the vices that we the must avoid:

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM- So why are you not yet married ???

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the Single Indian Male:

Today i type down my feelings, thoughts and statements that come in my mind when i am asked this single disparaging question  " So Why you are not yet married"?????

Aughhhh, the feeling of disgust that i get??? I just ask myself that why can't people in my country , INDIA learn to mind their own businesses??? But no,  because every Indian Citizen has an unspoken birthright to intrude onto the privacy of others!!!!!

Okay, i am 30 years old, so what?? It does not make me old!!!! I happen to be an Orphan, having lost my parents at a younger age. My late teenage years and the entire decade of 20's went in struggling and working hard to reach  a good position in my career.

Do you know sir/madam know , what does it mean to be an Orphan in this country?? Do you know how difficult is it to be an orphan in the upwardly mobile Indian society???

No, and how can you know that, you have had your parents, your extended relatives  perform all the matrimonial ceremonies for you, right from finding the right mate to arranging the marriage.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Leave that dysfunctional family of yours

DOTSIM stands for the diary of the single Indian male.

My dear single Indian male friends,

I was planning to write on this topic since long, but could not find the right words to express my thoughts. However this time i am able to pen down the same.

I discuss today on Dysfunctional families and if you happen to be in one, then  why you should leave your family as soon as possible

Dysfunctional families-A dysfunctional family is a family in which conflict, misbehavior, and often child neglect or abuse on the part of individual parents occur continually and regularly, leading other members to accommodate such actions. Children sometimes grow up in such families with the understanding that such an arrangement is normal. Dysfunctional families are primarily a result of co-dependent adults, and may also be affected by addictions, such as substance abuse (alcohol, drugs, etc.), or sometimes an untreated mental illness. Dysfunctional parents may emulate or over-correct from their own dysfunctional parents. In some cases, a "child-like" parent will allow the dominant parent to abuse their children.

The above definition has been taken from an online Wikipedia source.

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Life Post 30

DOTSIM- Diary of the Single Indian Male.

My Dear Single Indian male Friends,

Hope this blog finds you in good shape.

Today i will deal with the topic of life after 30 for the Single Indian Male. YEaaaaa, i certainly have to discuss this fact of life ,  i am aging and that cannot be denied. Life can certainly take a different turn.

Life post 30 is different, unlike woman i don't have the frustration of being left out or not being part of the married group. I have never been made to feel a part of the Indian Society ever since i became an orphan.

I concentrate whole hardheartedly on my career, because this is what i feel will give me satisfaction and take me ahead. I search for advance management diploma programs/ certification programs  to enhance my career skills. i have dreams , dreams of rising on top, of working with people  developing and shaping their careers.

Marriage???? That's a big question mark, i have no answer and i can't predict the future. As an orphan i find no acceptance in the Indian Society, but who cares. I still have kept an option open in my life , one may never know what happens in life.

Books, books and more books. They have now become my friends and my fellow companions. I just love reading them to the end, it opens my mind, engages me and calms me down. Reading as a hobby has never been developed  in India, no wonder a lot of people don't know what to do when they find themselves alone and lonely.

Fitness!!!!!!!!!!!!, this year starting 2013, i became a marathon freak, ran 3 marathons and got  addicted to it. I saw my self loosing weight and seeing my waist trimming gradually, there is now other feeling than aging gracefully.

At the end what do i have to say??? All i can say is that live your life dude, don't be worried just because you are single. Life certainly starts post 30 , provided you are willing to make radical changes in your life.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with some more.

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Running the Charotar Green Marathon 2013

My Dear Single Indian Male Friends,

3rd February 2013, I ran the Charotar Green Marathon held in Vidyanagar. The distance was 10kms and i clocked it in 1 hour. This marathon has changed my perspective towards life, i have become more confident and feel that i can achieve more in life. The photo blog follows below:

                                         At the Assembly point for the Marathon                            

                                          All the Preparations done a a day before

                                           Reached the Venue on time 6:30 A.M

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-LUNCHEON-TEAM HR

DOTSIM- Stands for the Diary of the Single Indian Male.

A treat given by our General Manager at a famous Pizza Restaurant. A nice time spent together and gave us a space for Team Bonding. The Photos are as follows:

This is Bhaveen Sheth signing off for the day, will be back with some more.

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-Exploring Jewish Synagogues in India

DOTSIM stands for Diary of the Single Indian Male.

My Dear Single Indian Male Friends,

I am a fan of Judaism and an ardent follower of Jewish History, it is amazing to note that Judaism is an old religion in India, as old as 2,500 years old. Jews settled in India mostly on the Coastal Side of India after the fall of the first and second temple in their ancient lands.

I happened to explore their synagogues (Jewish Worship Places/Jewish Temple). One of them happens to be located in Ahmedabad, in the Old City. It is known by the name of Magen Abraham Synagogue and it is constructed 80 years ago. The Jewish population that time in Ahmedabad was considerable, however after the formation of the state of Israel, may jews emigrated there. There are only around 100 or so in Ahmedabad.

I happened to meet the care taker of the Synagouge, Mr.Jacob. He lives near the Synagogue and conducts the weekly prayers. Please find the photos below

 

Bhaveen Sheth-DOTSIM-6th jan 2013-7 Km Ahmedabad Marathon Dream Run

And it finally came, 6th of January 2013, i ran the 7 km dream run Ahmedabad Marathon. These are the pictures post the marathon, i never felt so happy and contented.

Bhaveen Sheth-Loneliness and Abandonement

With every day, every month and every year going by i deal with the Devil of Loneliness and the demon of abandonment. 15 long years of being lonely and 11 years of now being abandoned, i am still to come in terms with the pragmatic realities.

A life that has been going through Melancholia, i try to find answers, answer to what life is all about, i search and search the true meaning life.

I will however always remain ungrateful to the Indian Society that has given me the persistent feeling of abandonment, time and again. A society that I have now come to detest, so much that I have turned into a strong critic of the same.

Bhaveen Sheth-Diary of the Single Indian Male- Search yourself in your Solitude

My Dear Single Indian Males,

Today i would like to discuss on the topic on knowing yourself. How many of us really know who we really are??? The answer is that only few of us know it.

We have been bought up in a close knit family and community and we become men based on the feedback and perception of our near and dear ones. Very few of us get the opportunity to explore the the world outside our homes and communities. Hence we never our selves that well.

The moment an average Indian male reaches a suitable age, a bride hunt starts and he soon gets married, whether he likes it or not. After this starts a new chapter of marriage where the the man has to take up responsibilities and play the tole of a husband, son and father. All this without truly knowing theyself.

In all my years of traveling around India, i have come across such frustrated Men who are living a life without any goals, men who are just counting days, men who have lost it but are just continue to live because they have the burden of responsibilities.

And so my single male friends, cherish your solitude, maybe god has kept us single so that we can discover our selves, maybe we can realize what we really  want in life, our passions and interests are ignited, the freedom to pursue the activities we want.

It is this solitude that will make you realize who you really are and what we really want. So go ahead and take some time so that you can be at peace with your self and you will realize who you really are and what you really want.

This is Bhaveen Sheth signig off for the day , will be back with a lot more later.

Regards,

Bhaveen Sheth

Bhaveen Sheth -Diary of the Single Indian Male-Avoid the feeling of being left out or missing the opprtunity of Matrimony

My Dear Single Indian male,

Last week two events happened , one of my colleagues in the place where i work and who happens to be 4 years younger to me became and father and my room mate who again happens to be 27 years old got his marriage relation fixed through his family.

Plenty of Single Indian Men who have either missed out the opportunity of getting married or are not getting married may have gone through similar situations. There are times when you see that people who are younger to you are getting married , may of them have become fathers and mothers with tiny tots in their arms.

And there you are still single with no woman and child around you.